I am 21 years old, I have been with my g/f for almost 2 years now and about a month ago I gave her a promise ring. Well a couple days ago she gave me one too. I was very shocked mostly because I didn't even know they made them for men. Actually I am still not sure because it just looks like a wedding ring to me. Anyways I love this girl with all my heart but I feel very uncomfortable wearing it. I can't put my finger on the exact reason but I’m sure it has a little to do with my masculinity. When I gave her, her ring she showed everybody right away and I have hid mine from all my friends because I feel embarrassed to wear it. I have always been 100% honest with this girl but I am just so afraid that it will make her feel bad if I tell her the truth. The last thing i want to do is hurt her feelings. Can someone please give me some advice?
2007-09-17 08:50:44 · 12 answers · asked by stretch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs to know that you are not comfortable wearing the ring. If you think its because it looks like a wedding band then maybe talk to her about that and figure out an alternative. First, figure out the real reason before you say anything and be prepared for hurt feelings. If you two are that close then she will understand. She probably has no idea. Get a tattoo...theres a promise for life! :)
2007-09-17 08:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Waterwitch E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clue me in ... what is a "promise" ring? Are you engaged or not engaged. If its something less than engagment, its a bit silly anyway, isnt it? And if you are engaged, it is not really traditional for the man to wear an engagement ring, but there's nothing really wrong with it either. Most men wear wedding rings no matter how masculine they are. If you are uncomfortable with it, tell her, "Sweetie, I love this ring, but I feel a bit self-conscious wearing it right now." Then duck.
2007-09-17 09:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by dhdaddy2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I know a promise ring is a promise that you will marry the person. So I dont see the big deal. She got you one too. Will you be embaressed to wear the real thing when you say your vows? It sounds to me like your not ready for marriage and you dont want to look married. Well, maybe you should have gotten her a necklace.
2007-09-17 09:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, wear it! tell her how you feel, but also tell her that you'll wear it anyway! It doesn't matter what other people think because you love her! so what if they say haha you're wearing a ring. You just keep your chin up and say haha so are you (and if they aren't then say made ya look and run if you have to). besides your friends aren't really friends if they make fun of you and she won't stop loving you because you tell her that you didn't want to wear the ring but you will anyway. she'll really appreciate it!!! just try it! please?? honesty, to me, is the way to go
2007-09-17 08:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by UniversalGalaxy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay yes men can where it you just where it on your left hand instead of your right. you should take her giving it to you as a compliment. you gave her one which shows ur ready to move it to the next level and then she gives you one and which shows she is ready to. if you are soo embarrassed to wear it tie it to a chain and wear it around your neck. whatever you do don't lie to your girl. you need to get over the embarrasment. not trying to be cruel but you need to let her know whats up.
2007-09-17 09:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by jlovemealways21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen the beer commercial where the guy opens the beer bottle with the wedding band? Kinda reminds me of that. If you love her, suck it up and wear the ring.
2007-09-17 08:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat_137 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be a girl to wear a promise ring. but if it makes you that uncomfortable you should let her know. you are supposed to be as honest as possible in a relationship.
2007-09-17 08:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by me, me, and me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's ok. It has nothing to do with your masculinity. Jewelry works for both sexes, and if you're promised to her, then vice versa.
2007-09-17 08:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way guys should wear a promise ring is if it's a same sex relationship.
2007-09-17 08:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
put it on your right hand, and it's okay to wear a friendship ring, my guy still has his on his right hand now 3 yrs.
2007-09-17 08:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋