I drink in moderation. I would like it if people would take no for an answer but they don't, so How can I tell people that I would prefer not to drink?
All weekend people were offering me beer, sangria, and liquor and I told people I was already drunk, or the designated driver, or I don't need to drink to have a good time or I didnt want to fall asleep early which is what happens when I drink sometimes too early in the day, and still the offers kept coming. I got one praise from one friend, but other people thought I was being rude.
2007-09-17 08:27:28 · 28 answers · asked by faytal 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No thanks, should be enough. If it's not, that's their problem. Good for you - for being responsible.
2007-09-17 08:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep a soft drink with you at all times and just look at them and say "I've already got a drink--thanks for the offer."
Keep saying the exact same thing. Don't change it up and keep making five hundred different excuses. A no should be a NO and if this group is so hell-bent on making sure you're an alcoholic then maybe you're hanging out with the wrong crowd. Besides, how fun is it to see so many people making complete idiots out of themselves by overdrinking? When you're sober that isn't too fun.
2007-09-17 16:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by steinbeck11 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - pushy people! I'd stick with the "designated driver" explanation -- that one is pretty hard to argue with. It will also help if you always keep an alcoholic-looking drink in your hand. If people are drinking beer from a keg, grab one of the same cups and drink soda from it. If people are drinking cocktails, have a coke or fizzy water with a twist of lime in it. When drinks are offered, you can just hold up your glass and say "thanks, I'm good for now."
2007-09-17 15:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't need a lie, or a clever ploy to get people to stop offering you alcohol.
All you need to say is: "No, thank you. I'm good." Or something similar. You cannot stop them from offering you a drink, because if that is the nature of the parties you attend, it is natural for people to offer alcohol to others who they see do not have a drink.
If it's become such an issue, maybe you need to rethink the crowds you hang out with.
When I decide not to drink at a party or club, that's all that I have to do.
2007-09-17 18:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by vivranthang909 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty you don't need to tell them why you're not drinking, it's none of their business. I doubt if you'll be able to stop people from offering you drinks. Just be polite and say no thank you, or the other alternative is just don't go to the parties where the alcohol is in abundance. By people asking you they think they're being polite.
2007-09-17 15:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by ishowtt4beads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be at a party where people can't say no for an answer. They should respect the fact that you're not drinking...ESPECIALLY if you are a designated driver. Just tell them no and if they think you are being rude it's their problem, not yours! Good for you for being responsible.
2007-09-17 15:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rita F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not need the approval of the people that "think" you were being rude.
You know you limit and do not need people to try to force you past it.
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Tell them you have had enough and would prefer coffee.
Designated Driver works so does gotta work early AM.
Do not be bothered by it. Just have a joke ready to tell after saying no or inquire to the restroom location this last one asked and they may Assume you are sick.
2007-09-17 17:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by cordsoforion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Hang out with different people who will respect your wishes and good judgment. Shame on those people who want to berate you for not drinking.
2. Carry a drink with you, such as a Sprite or something, so that people will already see that you have something.
2007-09-18 01:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to avoid being thought rude, don't refuse their hospitality or generosity, just decline the alcohol. "thanks, actually i get sick really easilly from alcohol. i just can't handle it! i could do with a cola/orange juice etc though! it's always a bit embarrassing not having a drink in your hand on an occasion like this"
this approach does 3 things.
1. it says you're not playing a part in the competitive matcho drinking culture (if they're looking to "compete", you've handed them their "prize")
2. you've accepted their offer graciously
3. you've taken them into your confidence making them feel they can "break the rules" for you.
2007-09-17 15:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ppl are just trying to make conversation. Also we tend to like to do things in groups so when more ppl in the group drink or smoke or whtever we feel our actions are confimed and acceptable
I'm not a drinker either.... so just get a drink any, coke or liqour and sip it... tell them your covered if they ask or you have an early morning....
2007-09-17 15:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Chievous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is say "No, thank you". And keep a non-alcoholic drink in your hand at all times. Don't bother with excuses; that just invites people to argue.
2007-09-17 15:38:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋