We can't go anywhere without him being really extroverted and gregarious with everyone. I don't see his friendliness being an issue (although I don't let him bother people). My mother however thinks he's going to be more in danger of someone trying to kidnap him one day because of this. Ex: If someone walks by our front yard he'll yell hello from the back and ask them to come and play. I'll correct him and tell him not to talk to strangers so much.
My question is, how do I draw the line between crushing this child's overzealous spirit and keeping him safe? Does anyone else have a child like this?
2007-09-17 07:37:29 · 14 answers · asked by Eraserhead 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes, i'm very happy the boy isn't shy at all. I was a painfully quiet kid who grew up to be an introverted adult, that's why I don't know what to make of him!
2007-09-17 07:47:45 · update #1
My daughter is three and is exactly like that. I toOK in a seminar with a representative from Child Find. They say that the time to start teaching your children about "Stranger Danger" is about 4 or 5 years old. Try not to scare him, but make sure he knows to keep a safe distance from strangers. He can say hi, but unless you're with him, not to go within reaching distance of a stranger. This is also the time that you tell him not to go anywhere with anyone unless you have told him about it beforehand, in the case of emergencies give him a "safe word" that a person picking him up must say before it's ok for him to go with them. ie. Mine when I was little was "Raggedy Anne" Something that he can remember, but won't be easy for someone to guess. Make sure that you say you want him to do this because if you didn't know where he was, you would be very worried about him. He doesn't have to be terrified of people hurting him at his age. The other thing you can do is to make sure that you're always with him, or someone is who will keep their eye on him. When he gets a little older, you can be more explicit. For now, let him be a kid.
2007-09-17 07:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 5 yr old daughter is the same way. She makes friends wherever she goes, then is crushed when i don't get the phone numbers etc of every kid in the grocery store so she can see them again. (She even proposed to one kid she met in the check-out line, I don't think I have ever been more embarrassed)
I do worry about the physical and emotional dangers of her overzealousness A LOT. But like you, I hate to crush that natural talent of hers. (Sometimes I'm envious of it)
She's had the 'stranger danger' talks and lessons. I do try to gently remind her that not everyone likes talking to people they don't know. (And remind her regularly that she needs to ask me before inviting people over to play etc.) And I remind her always that I do love those friendly traits of hers. And I try to help her set those boundries.
Mostly I just keep an extra close eye on her (way more than I probably should I'm sure). And I try to ensure she has lots of opportunities to safely meet new people.
I'll be watching this question for more answers too because it is a fine line that I'm always asking myself if I'm even close to.
2007-09-17 07:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ally J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's with a family member or babysitter then he's allowed to talk to whomever he wishes. However, if he's in the yard by himself, then no. I'd make sure your son plays in the backyard instead of the front and that should alleviate some of the temptation! Just remind him of the rules. He's at the age where role playing could be fun. You could even have a friend that you know (that he doesn't) come over and talk to him when he's outside alone after explaining the new rule to him and see how he does.
2007-09-17 07:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 17:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to tell you to crush the kids spirit, or anything, but that's a very dangerous habit. It's great that he's so friendly, but you can't trust anyone these days. If I were you, I'd tell him not to talk to any strangers, unless he's with an adult.
2007-09-17 08:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Are you outside when he's playing? If not, go outside and sit with him. If so, make sure you tell him repeatedly it's okay to be friendly, but some people aren't so friendly.
2. Just try and work with his friendliness. Teach him how it's okay only if mommy and daddy or a relative is around, but if he's alone he shouldn't?
It's difficult to really stop the child from being friendly.
I was like that growing up too.
2007-09-17 08:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talking is fine. He can't talk to people without mom or dad there. Tell him there are some very BAD people in the world, who will hurt children [ no specifics ], and they will lie to get to them. They also may be very pretty or handsome. So to be a safe boy, he has to follow rules.
Teach him the swimsuit rule - no one touches you inside the area covered by a swimsuit, except mom and dad, for baths [ or whoever gives him baths ].
Do be sure he is not unattended outside, or in malls, etc. I took him to the ladies room with me until he was quite big - nothing shows in the ladies room!
He MUST be taught to stay at Mom or Dad's side, or use the stroller [ that was my big threat ]. My son is now 23, and I haven't lost him yet.
2007-09-17 07:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My little girl is super friendly too. The rule in our house is you can talk to anyone as long as you are with an adult (like mom, dad, family friend). If an adult isn't present then you should not be speakign to anyone unless it is a police officer or fireman.
2007-09-17 07:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by chickey_soup 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Its great that your child is outgoing and that you recognize boundries need to be set for safety reasons. Teach your child about stranger danger and let him know that he is only to talk to new people with a trusted grown-up around.
2007-09-17 07:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by journey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At least he's not shy and quiet and doesn't want to talk to anyone. Just keep a good eye on him.
2007-09-17 07:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋