I reported my nephew as neglected to the state, because he and the other two children are not being cared for at all really. The youngest is just a baby. The oldest is 3 and cannot talk or go potty. The house is always horrible, like I wont even take off my shoes or use the bathroom there. Anyway, the report was justified.
Now, the state is threatning to remove the children if another report is filed. There are a total of 3 from this weekend. Only one was from me. I have played dumb to the whole thing to save conflict, but he keeps calling and is driving me crazy. Do I just tell him like it is or keep playing dumb as long as I can? This is driving my parents nuts too. Right now they have the oldest child, but are bringing him home as they can no longer deal with it. They are with me 100%.
Advice?
2007-09-17 07:35:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am more than willing and able to care for all 3 of them...just mom and dad can't. They are getting older and not in the best of health. The child I reported on was the 9 month old.
2007-09-17 08:48:23 · update #1
You did the right thing by reporting the neglect.
I was once in a similar situation and had to turn in my best friend. She ended up losing her son but that was because she would NOT change her lifestyle and make a good home for the boy. That was 10 years ago, and the boy has grown up with his grnadmother and he is a well adjusted kid that does well in school. His mom is still stuck in her old habits. I know if he had stayed there he would not be as well off as he is.
If I were you, I'd keep playing dumb. If your nephew finds out you reported him, he may retaliate. Obviously you are not the only one who sees the problem.
If the state does take the children it is because the parents will not try to change. The state tries to keep families together and help the parents learn to make a good home for their children.
I hope it works out well for the kids,
Mindi
2007-09-17 07:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really about what you feel comfortable doing. Personally, I would tell your sibling because they need to realize what is going.. they are clearly oblivious...maybe if they get a wakeup call like that they will seek parenting class or help with learning how to keep a safe environment for their kids? Although, I really have no sympathy for the parent. only for the children who have to live like that. They are very lucky they have an aunt like you to look out for them.
Is there another relative that could take them? just temperarily if it is decided the parents could turn around and fix their situation? I hate to see kids go through the foster system if other options are available.
Just know in your heart you are doing the right thing and regardless of the outcome you did not just stand there and let the abuse happen.
2007-09-17 14:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you and your parents can't care for the children, is no reason to keep them in a home with neglect.
They'd be better off in a foster home.
Do the right thing and make the call again! Your county isn't being a good example of careing for children!
2007-09-17 14:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
better off keeping mum!! and good for you for having the nerve to call on them BRAVO!!!!!! There are too many people out there that just look the other way but you got involved because you care you did the right thing!
2007-09-17 14:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to stay silent on this one--major conflict if you speak up.
2007-09-17 15:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nemo the geek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋