Ok, so I am a 20 year old american phillipino girl. Im not trying to sound vain or conceded here but only to help with my case but Im not an ugly girl. I am very athletic and have been told I have very pretty eyes and a smile. For the past year I have had to worst luck with guys! For instance I was introduced to this guy from a good friend of my parents. We hit it off exchanged numbers and later hung out that night. Nothing happened we kissed but that was it BUT I tried to talk to him 2 days ago and no reply? I have a feeling I wont hear from him again. I DONT UNDERSTAND! I dont come on too strong I know that but im not a dud or really shy. This has happened with the past 3 or 4 guys I have been introduced to!? Why do guys do this!?
2007-09-17 07:29:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and for the record... I only texted him 1 time and left it at that so I didnt seem like I was coming on too strong or anything! Also when we hung out he asked me to go to the movies with him.. and asked me when I want to go. Trying to play it cool I said whenever he wants to.. putting the ball in his court.
2007-09-17 07:42:34 · update #1
Okay you asking the guys only is kinda funny... There not going to tell you because there the ones that are not calling you back... Sorry guys I don't mean to bash but its true and I tell it like it is....
Guys like a girl that's confident and hard to get...(knowing that you don't need them)..... Really you don't. lol But that kinda makes them want to help you because they know you don't need them and that you just don't want them for Money, Clothes, Etc... This will draw them to you and they start to care deeply for you.
This is what I tell my friend that is trying to date....
1 Be yourself... Sorry but if they don't like you F them...
2 Never stick to one man when dating (keep your options open) Remember your looking for the right one and not trying to be that mans right one....
This way if they don't call back you can check them off your list and keep going till you get down to the right one. The one that you like the most.
3 Remember that this is about you and what you want out of a man. This is a game and your the prize Choose the winner! lol
Once again sorry for all the Man Bashing...
2007-09-17 07:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by x_crayola_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great girl so I think that the problem is that you dont know these guys well enough before you start going out with them. You are probably introduced by very close friends so you trust their judgment. However no matter how well your friends know you they might be able to pick the right guy for you. So the next time you meet a guy then just get to know him for about three months or more and by then you should have a better idea of whether he is worth your time or he is just a player.
I hope this helps you alot and Good luck!!
2007-09-17 07:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why this happened and here's why: You, like many of your gender, are under the mistaken impression that all we care about are looks. True, we would prefer if you didn't look like an anteater or be fat, but looks are just an introductory tool to get you on radar....it takes a good deal more to keep a guy's attention, and any "more" of substance that might be involved was something you neglected to mention through the entire question, so I can't really speak to the point.
2007-09-17 07:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just meeting guys that you have no chemistry with. Don't put us all in the same bag, please.
There's this desperation factor that some girls/women give off without knowing. Guys can feel when a girl is looking for a steady commitment from a guy she just met. The last thing a guy wants to do is commit to someone he doesn't even know. Chill out. You're only 20, have some fun in your life and people will see that and want to share in it with you.
2007-09-17 07:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
(1) They may be intimidated.
(2) They may not share your interests.
(3) They may be looking for easy women (especially if they're in their late teens or early twenties) and simply do not have a desire for long term relationships.
(4) They may be shy -- depending upon the kinds of guys you are set up with.
(5) They may determine that you were not that into them.
(6) They may believe that they are not that into you.
Not every relationship is a match made in heaven. It's okay -- just keep trying. Maybe you need to be "introduced to" other guys!
2007-09-17 07:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically guys fit into two varieties.
Guys who are just looking to have fun. They don't want to have any girls around them that they think might push for a relationship, it scares them, making out and sex is there thing. These guys are the majority until 24 or 25 years of age group. Usually this fades out with age, but some carry it with them to middle age.
Guys who are looking for commitment. Again these guys are rare in the younger ages, guys might act like they want commitment if they want 'something' from you, and play along for awhile, but you have to be sharp.
He's probably the first type.
2007-09-17 07:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jett 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is really puzzling to me. Where are you finding these duds? I realize men are quite simple and if they have a remote in one hand and a beer in the other they will stay in the same spot until hell freezes over, but if something walks by that sizzles and curls their toes there should be some reaction from at least a couple of them.
2007-09-17 07:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hook up with someone you meet. Don't let friends parents do your hook up that is never good. Stop getting introduced and just find someone you meet and could be interested in. Also maybe you are dating the immature and need someone who is looking to date, and who are not just going to make someone Else happy because they meet you. Find your mate on your own usually works out the best.
2007-09-17 07:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey relax. You sound like yoru about to die.. LOL calm down . realized that you seemed despreate which guys get truned off.. so do me a favor and play hard to get. Just have this what ever attitude. And take care of your self phyically and mentally. Be positive, every one has ups and down. Dont worry about it. Be confident in who you are and just enjoy life> you dont neeed a dude to do that. K. Take care XD
2007-09-17 07:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut the **** up jk. ;D Want some candies, with rainbow designs and pink fluffy stuff in them? :) Seriously though, I don't know. I don't think everybody's nice, the same goes with the bad attitude. Not everyone is bad. People just say what they want to say.
2016-05-17 05:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋