child-rearing, and other family members do you defend yourself when they pass judgement or bite your tongue and let them rant?
2007-09-17 06:55:31 · 11 answers · asked by Vwgirl18 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
my boyfriend and i have different views on alot of major things like politics, religion, homosexuals, stuff like that, believe in aliens and stuff.
we usually argue about stuff but he can never be wrong and he usually gets mad at me for questioning things, but i dont take it to heart. but im also not very passionate about any of the subjects. we usually just end the conversation and talk about other stuff.
try to not talk about these things when youre with your family but if you have to id say bite your tongue unless they are attacking you personally.
2007-09-17 07:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the most sensitive of topics are politics, religion and sex. people have different views on these things and some get super sensitive about them to the point that they take it seriously and against you if you don't see it their way. it is difficult to make another person agree with you or understand your point of view when it comes to these issues. it is better to defend yourself to your family. they would be fools to take it against you. Part of being in a family is extending patience and understanding even if they don't want to, they can't take it personally. you may have a heated argument but it doesn't make you any less of a person to express your views.If you discuss this with other people, its different because they are not obliged to understand you like your family is. i always defend myself on my religious views to my father, it can get very heavy but its better that i be heard by him. he cannot disown me for that even if we have different opinions.
sometimes age matters when discussing things like this because elder family members think/feel that you should follow their beliefs verbatim since you "don't know any better" and they "do". it takes time but you should always use facts to base your opinions so that you are more credible and hopefully they will shut up and leave you be and respect you.
2007-09-17 14:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by painintheneck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best not to get drawn into the person or persons dialogue. It's a no win situation and just creates bad feelings. We have best friends that we travel with that are opposite our political beliefs entirely. We know and respect that and discuss everything and anything but that. It works.
2007-09-17 15:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defend yourself, but don't get caught up in silly arguments. Explain to them that you have your views, which are different from theirs, but neither one of you is going to change the other's opinion. Just accept the differences and do your best to co-exist in the same family!
2007-09-17 14:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Katie G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah i know how that feels....we have the same situation with my dad's side of the family.....well ....they simply don't like us....they don't like what we believe, our political viewpoints, etc.....they are in the wrong on mostly everything on my account and we just stopped defending ourselves against them because they are so adament that they are right......we just let em' have it if it means that much to them to be right becuase their mind will never change and accept truths at hand..we are not the ones at a loss...haha....so yeah.....just let them say what they want....only when is crosses the line of insulting you is when you should stand up and say something
2007-09-17 14:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by truegrit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On my mother's side of the family, it is known that there are very different opinion's on things such as religion and politics, but no one will bring it up. We just accept it.
2007-09-17 14:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how much they get under my skin...most the time, it is more of a hassle to argue with them. I use to when I was younger and now realize, my opinion or their opinion is not going to change , so why bother arguing? Life too short.
2007-09-17 13:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by The other GUY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't enter into a discussion with a family member who is so self-righteous they believe they are always right.
Nor would I invite them to my home or spend time with them elsewhere.
2007-09-17 14:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Instead, when this person tries to drag you into an arguement say something like, "I understand your viewpoint, and respect your choices. Now please respect the fact that I feel differently." Then change the subject or walk away.
2007-09-18 14:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let them try to press their beliefs on me, but I would allow them to express them. It's family, so I wouldn't want to openly argue, but at the same time, if they are trying to tell me how to live my life, I would defend myself of that.
2007-09-17 15:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋