Ok this is really random I kno! But just wonderin if anyone else likes really rough sex? I kno people are into all sorts of random **** but sometimes I wonder that its not quite right for me to like being scratched and bitten etc whilst having sex. The other day i was in the park wiv my new fella and he put his hands on my throat wiv quite a hard force but i strangly liked it.....
Now im worried that im sum kinda freak! I like to be spanked and love role play etc....I'm always the submissive one...I guess I like to be dominated....thats not totally abnoamal is it??
Also just wondering...why is it that i like it? Where do sexual fantasies come from? Psychologically speaking....
2007-09-17 06:51:04 · 10 answers · asked by xjuicyxfruityx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not abnormal but it requires a high degree of trust and I find I don't trust anyone quite that much. But here's something to think about, particularly where this practice you described is involved: You need to a have a pre-determined, easily identifiable "kill-sign" that makes everything instantly stop in case you are (for whatever reason) unable to verbalize your intentions. (It could be as simple as three rapid taps on the shoulder).
Fantasy-wise people generally imagine what they don't have in real life. The fact that you like being dominated could be indicative of the fact that you have a reasonably high degree of self-power in your everyday life...whereas a woman who's had more subjugated experiences might find the dominance scene revolting. The same thing goes for rough sex...personally my life is violent enough as it is without me introducing severe levels of aggression into my sex life (at least not routinely), but someone leading a generally peaceful existence might enjoy the intensity for a change. From a Freudian perspective, our sexual fantasies and our sexual identity in total stem from our "psychosexual stages of growth" and are likely manifestations of any things left unresolved from that period in our development.
2007-09-17 07:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to sexual preferences, 'normal' really doesn't mean much. But liking to be spanked, to act submissive in role-play and enjoy rough sex - none of that's uncommon, not by a long way. I've met lots of people who love that kind of sex-play.
So no, you're not a freak - just a bit kinky. Go ahead and enjoy it! As for where our particular sexual fantasies come from - my belief is they're hard-wired into us pretty well from birth. Have fun!
2007-09-17 17:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing freakish about your desires. It's girls like you that make life worth living for guys like me. ;)
Sexual fantasies tend to sprout from experiences in our preteen years, right before puberty. We see something that will catch our interest, usually because we've never experienced it and our curiosity gets the better of us. I think the thing that triggered my own interest in adult spanking was Harvey Comics like Richie Rich and Casper the Friendly Ghost. Many of these comics featured spankings when the characters get in trouble. At that time, I'd never been spanked, so it was odd to me. However, I remember fantasizing about the neighborhood girls being spanked by her parents, though the fantasies included them being naked. This was before puberty, so I can't even call it a sexual fantasy.
There was also a poem in a Playboy that I had (my grandmother let me have it, despite my age) with a poem near the centerfold. (All I remember about the issue is the poem, and that Ola Ray was featured.) A line of the poem went "With up and down iambic rhythm... To teach them a new catechism." The line was referring to sex, but I had the image of the characters being spanked.
2007-09-18 21:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by baka_otaku30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm violent. LOL I love to forcefully shove and push my man around and do the deed on the wall, on the floor, against a table (I'm a freak, LOL I know) and all over the place = often all at once. I've playfully slapped him around (but no "official" spankings, like with a paddle or anything, that to me just conjures up images of 1800s English Boarding Schools with infertile, menopausal headmistresses and such...) if he wasn't doing a good enough job. So, I'm the same way.
But I'm DOMINANT.
Sorry - that's the way it goes.
This cherry's gonna go on top.
2007-09-17 20:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Please Don't Disturb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, but I don't like it all the time. Sometimes it's fun to have wild, rough sex but other times it good just to have the normal good ol sex. It's normal for people to want this, especially if they have fantasized about it for a while. I think as soon as you have maybe completed all your fantasies it will go away.
2007-09-17 14:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by padros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. People are different and like different things. Some people don't like it rough at all, others like it a little rough, some like it really rough. It just depends on the person and what they like and are into.
2007-09-17 16:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by sweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, let me just tell you that both me and my girlfriend REALLY like that rough kind of stuff. She loves to bite VERY hard and scratch me up... I can't get enough of it.. everyone is different, everyone is into different stuff... and no its not weird at all! You are just the same as my girl and as me, so if it is strange, then I guess we're all weirdos haha! :)
2007-09-17 13:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jack B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are definately not a freak...I feel great when I have rough sex...I luv it...it makes me feel like the animal that I am...but once in a while...slow and tender for a change is fun too!
2007-09-17 14:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by IDIOT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you're a freak...just kidding. Some people just like that kind of stuff. Just be careful with the types of mates you choose, you don't want them to strangle you to death...just almost strangle you to death.lol
2007-09-17 21:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah keep it going
2007-09-17 14:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋