I broke up with my bf of almost 5 years cause i was sooo tired of him acting like he can be a jerk and i just have to take it, him saying he wants to be with other people, and that i'm not really what he wants. He had broken up with me several times, some of them i insisted we work things out, and he took me back, on the condition that i alone fixed everything. Others he just said he missed me and i went back. It seems that this time he wants it to be as simple as that again. He has said he wants to be with me. I ask what has changed about all the other stuff, and he won't answer cause he says i'm just looking to fight again. He tells me to just 'behave'. I mean, if he REALLY wanted things to work, he would work on those issues with me, right? I know they won't magically go away... But since i want to talk them out, he says that all i'm saying is i don't want to be with him, and acts offended. I'm saying we need to work it out so we can be ok...
What should i do?
2007-09-17 05:59:17 · 19 answers · asked by jade 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I just don't feel strong enough to go through it all again, that's why i absolutely NEED to re-establish the relationship 'rules', so we both know what's ok and what's not, and stick to it!
Otherwise i feel it's just going to end up the same as soon as his eagerness to be with me is replaced with him being bored of having me everyday.
2007-09-17 06:04:27 · update #1
Oops! sorry.... the last question i was in was in the dog's section... i thought i selected the singles and dating though??
thanks anyway... i will repost.
2007-09-17 06:05:37 · update #2
You know what's weird? I'm getting more answers on the wrong section than in the right one! much appreciated, thank you!
2007-09-17 06:21:59 · update #3
For those who think your in the wrong section...he's a dog and your in the right section. :). Dump the guy and get over it. If you don't you'll just give him the tools to walk all over you. You cannot work something out with someone if they don't see a or want to acknowledge a problem. You can't change others only yourself. The more you take him back the more he will walk on you. Why put yourself through that? Your self esteem, or whats left of it will be snuffed out.
2007-09-17 06:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
After the little one is born have the paternity experiment regardless. If the little one is yours then it is yours. Now that was once useful. BUT, if the little one is not yours then 2 matters can occur, you'll be given the baby or reject the baby. Either means the little one merits to have a scientific historical past of his organic father and that aspect of the household. Adopted kids are generally scoffed at however they're selected, generally fought for and constantly desired. That is greater than a few average kids can say. So what ever you do, what ever making a decision, get the child a scientific historical past of his organic father regardless of who that perhaps.
2016-09-05 17:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 things. #1 You can't change him. He will have to want to change himself. And at least 90% of the time, the only thing that can change someone is if their life depended on it. #2 He's your EX-boyfriend for a reason. You've given it a few shots and it didn't work. It's time to move on. It's hard but in the end you'll feel a helluva lot better.
2007-09-17 06:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are a "young person." Think "out of the box" and know that you don't have to take "foolishness" from any mate of yours. While you are wasting time with an "iffy sweetie of yours", you could lose a "fine, new connection" which is right there in your face, while wasting time on a "raggedy, worn out" relationship. What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-09-17 06:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is a jerk and sounds controlling. Turn around and run as far away from him as your can. Has he ever been abusive? You have been with him for 5 yr and he hasn't changed yet, It is unlikely that he will change now. He just wants to keep you on the string. He is using you and you deserve better.
2007-09-17 06:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What should you do? Well, first, try asking this in the correct section, then dump the a$$hole. He's a POS and doesn't deserve to have a girlfriend.
Honey, he isn't going to change. He has proven that he doesn't really care about you if he just wants you to 'behave.' Get him a blow up doll and tell him to shove it up his @$$.
2007-09-17 06:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Shanna 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ordinarily I'd ask why you posted in the dog section, but I see why. Your bf is a dog!
If he broke up with your several times it's because he's taking a break while he roams. He's only coming back because he can and because you let him. You can do better.
My motto is NEXT!!
2007-09-17 06:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You deserve much better. Nobody deserves the treatment he is giving you - he is controlling and does not value you. Dump him, don't return his calls, don't talk to him and don't look back. You are worth more than this. Work on your self-esteem, because that's what's keeping you from moving on. You WILL find someone else who is better if you value yourself.
2007-09-17 06:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is in the wrong category... Or, is your bf actually a dog? If so, I'd suggest getting him fixed. Now that I think about it, this could help a human bf too! ;)
2007-09-17 06:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Rayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's a sin and adultery.
I can almost guarantee that it isn't going ot last.
The Bible says to not do this until you are married.
he wants to use you .
Go to god and not that person who says he wants you.
I can guarantee Jesus has been wanting to invite you in for a loving relationship and he will never leave you nor forsake you.
Get a bible and start reading in james and follow what it says.
2007-09-17 06:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kit_kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋