2007-09-17 05:47:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because there's a huge difference in saying I love you and saying I'm in love with you. He's either not ready for a relationship or he loves you dearly as a friend and nothing more. You have to ask specifics with guys because a lot of times they aren't good at verbal show of emotion.
2007-09-17 05:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by d_marie_n 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There could be plenty of reasons, wish I had more of a description than what you have given us.
But if he finds you attractive and says he loves you, he may not want to settle for a 'titled' relationship yet. He may feel tied down if you ever committed.
He could also feel that you are truly a great friend so he doesn't want to lose that. Like you're wifey material and he may ruin things with what you guys have between ya'll right now.
Plus, relationships come with a lot of responsibility. If he loves you, finds you attractive but doesn't want to be with you, maybe that's the reason.
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2007-09-17 05:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be in a relationship with someone else and does not want to mess that up. But he still finds you attractive and loves you as a friend.
2007-09-17 05:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him. I think he just wants a booty call. With no strings attached. If he didn't want a relationship. He shouldn't have told you he cares for you. If he really loved you. He would want a relationship. Unless he meant he loves you as a friend and nothing more.
2007-09-17 05:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't know the guy, but i do know that, from my experience, lots of men will do almost anything to avoid hurting people's feelings.
i know that sounds crazy, but, many men don't like having to say no to women.
dudes are generally action oriented. so, to decipher male speak and behavior, it's often best to take out anything they say that has do to with feelings, and look at the actions.
he said he doesn't want a relationship with you. that is all that you need to hear. the other part is just cushioning the blow.
i'm not trying to be mean or negative, but don't waste your time mama!
2007-09-17 05:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jasmine A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants your booty and man enough to be upfront with you about his needs for variety I'm guessing. He wants the benefit of the booty, without the hassle and headache of a relationship, but not just a booty call. Looks like he is looking for something a little deeper when he says he loves you, but still not anywhere near traditional commitment, or he's just saying that to you to make you feel better about sleeping with him.
2007-09-17 05:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by chicagoshooter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did not include enough information. Did he just lose a long time partner to death divorce or they just left him? Is he very immature and smart enough to know it? Is he a cad and loves you enough not to use you and dispose of you like an old condom? Those are but three of a thousand possibilities that I can think of offhand. Ask him honesty in any friendship is mandatory.
2007-09-17 05:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Coasty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he doesn't want a serious committment, he could just want sex without the commitment. He could love you as afriend also and not in a romantic way. Ask him if you don't feel comfortable with the answers that you are getting from here.
2007-09-17 05:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couldnt have been real love, im sure you havent gotten to know each other that way if he is just a male friend. he probably meant that in a friendly way. im sure he did mean you were attractive though, but just cause someone says they love you doesnt mean it a "lovey dovey" kinda love. just friends.
2007-09-17 05:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Contessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be gay. Many gay people have very close relationships with straight partners. My wife was 'in love' with a gay man for years an vice versa. It never threatened me in the least. Of course, it was never consummated.
I'm sure there may be other reasons. Remember: que sera, que sera.
2007-09-17 05:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋