I have a unique living situation. I am 30 years old, single and no kids. I live with my oldest brother (45) and his son (23) in a home. Neither one of us owns the home, its my mother's however it the family home. My problem is this....my brother's girlfriend has moved in. She is 27. Along with her having Grand mal seizures, and a "smart *** mouth" she and my brother have loud sex. Granted I have had my guy over and things got rowdy, but I aplogized for it and took in consideration the noise level the next time. However they are ridiculous. I have to get up at 5:30 a.m. to go to work and this is going on at odd hours of the night. I would much rather hear loud music then the moans and groans of my brother getting his groove on. Its almost like hearing your parents have sex. What should I do? At this point moving out is not an option. I'm not unhappy here. It beneficial for me save money rent, close to family, but this situation is causing havoc on my sleep.
2007-09-17 05:46:29 · 15 answers · asked by divaat29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have a private talk and tell him flat out that it is ridiculous and there are others in the house and they are trying to sleep and you have to get up early to go to work. Ask if they could please make it quieter. Or switch room with somebody or something that it is getting to you and would like to accomplish something on this subject.
2007-09-17 05:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by lana s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your brother for a compromise. At least if they could keep the rowdy sex to a minimum when it's a work day for you, that way you won't do poorly at work due to loss of sleep. They could also plan "date nights" so that maybe the people who don't want to hear it can be warned to be out of the house. You can't be the only one who's uncomfortable. I'm sure that his 23 year old son can't be too happy to be hearing that from his father, I don't think I'd handle it too well!! Also, you should try to keep it down yourself! Make sure you don't make too much noise with your bf, that way your brother can't bring that up as a point against you.
2007-09-17 06:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invest in a set of earplugs, available at any pharmacy. No problem. To be sure you wake up, get an alarm that lights up and/or vibrates so you won't have to count on hearing it. When I worked for the prison system, and stayed in a dorm with guards and other nurses, all working various shifts, earplugs were invaluable.
2007-09-17 05:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does anyone pay rent? Since its a family home I would tell your brother his girlfriend needs to move out. This should have been a decision everyone made not just your brother
2007-09-17 05:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ear plugs will help as everyone else has said....but what you need to do is record the sounds and when you get up at 5am...after your very loud alarm has been going off for 10min..so they can hear it...after you get up and go into the kitchen play the recorded sounds back at a very loud level so everyone else can hear the loud moaning and groaning too...that might help them keep it down some..good luck
2007-09-17 05:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised that you and your brother are not descreet about your sex lives. Out of respect for each other, that is one boundary that he needs to keep. I see that you have apoligized for one of your moments but he sounds very disrespectful. I would be blunt to him especially if he is already a dad. I lived my my mother with my husband for a few years and I never was loud enough for her to hear during our private moments. Talk to him and tell him to get rid of that abnoxious gf.
2007-09-17 07:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some ear plugs?
Turn your music on to cover up the noise?
Turn on your tv?
Do the same and belouder :)
2007-09-17 05:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would mention it, by asking them to keep the noise down. As they are not the only ones living there. Drop hints on how pathetic they sound.
2007-09-17 05:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try earplugs or if u say you like loud music go to bed with head phones on.
2007-09-17 05:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a very long talk with your brother about the situation and he may or may not understand but at least you know you have tried and if it doesnt work i dont know what to tell you
2007-09-17 05:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by CAMERON_AND_JEFFREY 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋