I knew this question is quite pathectic.. my bf passed away for nearly 8 weeks but I still missed him a lot and wish we could hv a conversation to get some queries on my head clear. I really really missed him a lot and wish could speak to him. Every 2 weeks I thought I start to get over it and I end up back to the same cycle of depression again.
I seen from movie before where people could speak to dead through a medium, do you think this is true and where could I get this? I understand this medium can get their spirit into their body so you could speak to them. Can anyone give me direction on this?
2007-09-17 05:46:14 · 33 answers · asked by Dreamer 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can assure you that if anyone speaks during a seance, it will either be charletain or a demon.
2007-09-17 05:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I think you are very strong and I cannot imagine how hard it must be to be in your shoes right now. I do believe there are some real psychic's that can help you, but how to find one that is real could be very difficult. I wish you a lot of luck with that. What I could suggest is that you pray and you talk to him directly yourself. Remember he will always hear you. Anytime you need to speak to him he is there. Whenever you miss him, tell him. Whenever you are going though a hard time, tell him, whenever you want to tell him you will never forget him just talk out loud to him. You will feel amazing. Hang in there. It will get better. It has only been 8 weeks. There is no time limit on grieving.
www.sylvia.org
Music always helps me get through difficult times. There is a song that just came to my mind regarding your situation. It is called "Probably wouldn't be this way" by Leann Rimes
2007-09-17 06:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First let me offer my sympathies for your loss.
Second, I do not see this as being pathetic. Irrational perhaps, but you are trying to regain some of what you have lost and that is very understandable.
However, you need to come to terms with the fact that you can not regain your boyfriend. He is dead and gone. He only survives in the memories of the people who knew him.
You need to move your life forward now. It it trite, but true that life is for the living. You need to go out there and start living your life again.
I do not know how your boyfriend felt, but if my wife were to just stop her life when I die, if she moped and just lived in the past - then that would make me (if I was not dead!) very unhappy. I want her to enjoy the life she has left as much as possible.
I am guessing that you boyfriend was someone very special to you. It is great that you had someone like that, even if just for a short while. It is tragic that it was lost to you. But your life goes on. Make the best of it that you can. Remember the good times and strive to make more memories worth remembering.
2007-09-17 06:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Simon T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off i'm sorry for your loss. You can typicaly go to a psychic but be aware of fake ones. I really don't know which ones are real. I guess you could just go upon your instincs. I do beleive in mediums and i think you need some closure in your loss. They might be costly but i always found out that going to the grave site and just sitting there talking to the headstone really helped me get over my grandparents loss.
2007-09-17 05:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by jslavens69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend, and I know how the deep grief that you are feeling can cause you to believe things that ordinarily you wouldn't believe. There is no way to speak to the dead, even though a lot of people who pay mediums really want it to be true. Allow yourself to grieve, and have these conversations with friends and family, who can help you through this tough period.
2007-09-17 05:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by barbara_in_missouri 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, sorry to hear of your loss.
Second of all, I'd highly advise against going to anybody who claims to speak to the dead. First of all, I don't believe it's possible. Second of all, I've seen better explanations for everything they've done. Third of all, the most precious thing you have with a loved one after they pass away are your memories together. Going to an alleged medium takes away that one thing you have by planting ideas in your head.
2007-09-17 05:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you believe the Bible, then it is an effort in futility. But be careful. You could have an experience that you will regret.
You may want to check out this article about what really happens after a person dies.
Article id #338240 Your Next Experience Immediately After Death: What Really Happens After You Die
You can read it at....
www.ezinearticles.com
According to the Bible, you cannot communicate with dead people. The article gives the Bible explanation very clearly.
If you believe in God, it is always wise to check with Him first about issues relating to life and death.
Show N Tell
2007-09-17 05:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by ccttct l 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl, I'm so sorry for your loss........ but that medium thing is crap. Your BF is gone and you have to let him go...... life goes on and he wouldn't want to see you hanging on to this idea and being unhappy cuz you have some unresolved issues with him. Just drop it, he no longer is among us and there is no way you can talk to him again until you die too and meet him somewhere, someday........ Try talking to a counselor to find peace, try not to stay at home thinking of him and your questions, spend time with your friends and family and be happy for him becuz he's in a better place now...... and I'm sure he wants to see you happy too.
2007-09-17 05:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lprod 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your boyfriend.
But that stuff in movies (Ghost, with Demi Moore/Patrick Swayze is a good one) is just fantasy.
It's fun, comforting and wonderful to have the fantasy that our lost loved ones are still out there wanting to communicate to us, but sadly this isn't the case.
Consider talking to friends or a therapist about how you feel. Mourning takes time and loss is a natural part of life.
good luck.
2007-09-17 05:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Morey000 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Can You Talk with the Dead?
Since so many persons say they have talked with the dead, it is evident that at least some of them have spoken with someone from the spirit world. Over 3,000 years ago Saul, the king of Israel, had such an experience. Let us see what we can learn from it.
A mighty force of Philistines had come up against Saul’s Israelite army, and he was very much afraid. Saul knew God’s law: “Do not turn yourselves to the spirit mediums, and do not consult professional foretellers of events.” (Lev. 19:31) But Saul had turned away from God God. And now, in this time of trouble, he was so desperate for information that he went to a spirit medium in En-dor.
The spirit medium was able to bring forth the form of a person that she could see. According to her description of the form, Saul identified him as “Samuel.” Samuel was God’s prophet who had died.
“Why have you disturbed me by having me brought up?” asked the spirit person that had been contacted.
“I am in very sore straits, as the Philistines are fighting against me,” replied Saul.
“Why, then, do you inquire of me, when God himself has departed from you?” the spirit asked.
After this bad experience, Saul became very much afraid and fell dejected to the ground.—1 Sam. 28:3-20.
This person from the spirit world could not really have been Samuel. Samuel was dead, and the Bible says “as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all.” (Eccl. 9:5) Furthermore, while he was alive Samuel had refused to see unfaithful Saul. (1 Sam. 15:35) Surely now, even if he were alive after death, Samuel would not allow a spirit medium to arrange for him to meet Saul. So we can be sure that a spirit medium could not force God to give Saul a message through dead Samuel.
But suppose the living could actually talk with dead loved ones, as the people at this séance are trying to do. If they could, surely a God of love would not say in the Bible: “There should not be found in you . . . anyone who inquires of the dead. For everybody doing [so] is something detestable to God.”—Deut. 18:10-12.
Who, then, was pretending to be Samuel? A wicked spirit person was. Wicked spirits, or demons, are the angels who joined Satan in rebellion against God. To promote the lie that death is only a change to another life, they pretend to be persons who have died. But the truth is, the dead are completely unconscious, awaiting the time when God may remember them in the resurrection. (Acts 24:15) So neither you, nor anybody else, can talk with the dead.
2007-09-17 13:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Keith 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey sweetie that's really not possible. I'm sure your bf is in Heaven. No medium is for real. They will just tell you everything you need to hear. I am really honestly sorry you have had such a huge lost in your life. The only way you can get closer to him is by getting closer to God. Did you know that you can talk to your bf from where ever you are now and he can hear you? Talk to him and watch for his signs that he will send you in everyday life. I don't want to get to religious on you, but if you get to know Jesus he Will take away your depression, and he will bring you closer to your loved one. Good luck finding what you are looking for.
2007-09-17 05:56:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋