2007-09-17 05:36:49 · 29 answers · asked by kb772003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope,
The only person's mind you get to change is your own.
Do you think he could talk you into never getting married, (you might agree, but would you like him or yourself?)
It's fine if you want to get married, just plan on marrying someone other than him.
Luck
2007-09-17 05:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the only one who can answer this one. A lot of guys say they never want to get married as a kind of safety shield; others are dead set against marriage. People change their minds about things all the time, but you need to clear the air with him soon to avoid big heartaches in the future. Communication is the key.
2007-09-17 05:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. I'm so sorry. It's called fear of committment. I understand why it happens, but I don't respect it and neither should you. It's cowardly and immature. Ask yourself what it is about this guy you love so much that you don't mind letting him string you along. I'll bet ya a million bucks he's not worth your time of day.
My bet is also that you haven't broken up with this guy because you're afraid of losing him. Trust me--if he's not committed to you, you're going to lose him anway (as soon as he finds someone he likes better). I don't mean to sound harsh, but that's the cold hard reality of it. If marriage is what you are looking for, you need to find a guy who believes in it too.
One more thing: you might try breaking up with him. If he truly cares about you--loves you, he will realize he is a complete idiot, turn around and beg you to marry him. It might take a while, though.
Good luck. Hope you can find someone who is more like you in the very near future. :-/
2007-09-17 05:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, how long have you two been together, and how old are you?
Men change their minds a lot. But this change of mind is rarely every happening, talk to him, reason with him as to why you want that final step.
If he is totally committed and want to not get married..... after 7 years you are legally together.
Marriage, unfortuantely isn't as great as a lot of people make it out to be
I want to be married, to share that committment, but honey, if he is deadset on not getting married, and you can't compromise
leave him
2007-09-17 05:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by sunsett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that many people change their ideas and opinions about marriage and their future, however...
He is sending you a very clear message that he does not want to get married. So, you have to make a decision about whether or not you want to stay with him. If marriage is important to you, you should end it.
Don't try to change him or change his mind. This will have a detrimental effect on your relationship.
2007-09-17 05:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by july2007bride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are definately people out there who never want to get married reguardless of the whom it's to or what the situation is. I think more often however the situation is the guy doesn't want to marry the woman he's with. I have some buddies who are in long term relationships and don't want to get married or move in with the woman but it's because they like her and are with her and enjoying being with her but just don't picture themselves marrying her. I don't really agree with it but they are kinda just biding time while they wait for someone better to come along.
Definatley are people who never want to get married but I think more often they doin't want to marry the person they are with.
2007-09-17 05:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might but you really shouldn't be holding your breath or waiting around for him to do so because more then likely he's not going to change how he feels about it and you will only grow to resent him when he doesn't. Ad he'll grow to resent you when he feels like you're just trying to change him. It's not fair for either of you especially when hes just being honest with you about what he wants, or doesn't want, in life. I would advise that you break it off now before there's too much attachment and find some one with similar life goals as your own. GOOD LUCK HUN!
2007-09-17 05:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he may. It takes a lot of maturity, and a sense of being able to financially and mentally support a marraige, and all that goes with it. You should also remember, that being married isnt most important thing, there are many people out there who should never be married, let alone live in the same house, or state.
2007-09-17 05:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not. And don't stick around long enough to find out. Then you will be stuck in this battle that you knew about from the start. So if you like this guy enjoy it for now and when something better comes along you can leave state your reasons and go and be happy with someone who wants the same things as you.
Good luck!
2007-09-17 05:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by sosexicopgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You are saying that the basis for a long term relationship between you and another person is that they have to change.
50+% of marriages in the US fail because one or both partners assume the other will make fundamental changes in who or what they are.
Consider yourself lucky and move on to somebody who you don't ever want to change.
2007-09-17 05:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might but it's all about your reasons for not getting married. If your reasoning is getting to know someone better then time will change things. If your reason is knowledge, well knowing that a woman at anytime for any reason can get up and leave her husband and take half his money then no. If it's just sexual and he's getting sex then no again.
2007-09-17 05:45:35 · answer #11 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋