How do I move on???

Question

My x-boyfriend and I have had a rough relationship. He has had a meth problem for many years. He now seems like he can possibly stay clean. He has a good job and has for several months. However, he still has major paranoia. He has been hurt in the past by other women cheating on him. Thus, he thinks I am a cheat and constantly says horrible things to me that involve that. Nothing could be further from my character. I broke up with him a few days ago because I was tired of being insulted and not being treated well. I know in the long run this is the best for the both of us. However, I am having a really hard time being alone. I don't want to look for anyone else because I have a lot of self-esteem issues that I need to work on. I just don't know how to move on without all these emotions getting in the way. I have no friends and no family, they dropped me because of all the drama for the last 2 1/2 years. HELP!!! What do I do??

Answer 1

U need to learn to Love yourself before you can even think of 'loving' someone else!
If you can't stand to be alone, then why do you think that anyone would want to be "alone with you"???

Work on yourself for a while...date yourself...be your own lover...
HEAL YOURSELF!!! The rest will fall into place, and the family and friends who left you in the past will find their way back to you again!
And the best part, you'll discover that you don't even need this after all!!

Answer 2

Finally a girl with some sense. You did not have any for the last 2yrs it seems, but now you are on the right road. You are moving on, by doing what you are doing. It is refreshing to read about someone who is in this kind of thing and is not thinking clearly and is doing something about it. You are 1000% right when you say 'in the long run this is the best thing'. You are going to look back on this and be more pissed at yourself for wasting 2 yrs of your life. You get over it by time. No contact , no matter what, dont take calls from him. He is sick and I am sorry but 7 months is nothing to be sober or off drugs. Everyone always wants to celebrate when someone has stopped drinking and drugging, the truth is, it is a time bomb waiting to go off. These people are weak and the first sign of trouble, they hop right back into the crap they are trying to get out of. Do not ever be fooled by his words of sweet nothings, because they will turn out to be nothing. Experience is the best teacher. I know. Next time maybe you will see the signs and not get involved. Be proud of yourself. Again, only time will help you and you have to get involved with things you like. It will be less as time goes on. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You sound like a very good person. The best thing you can do right now is try not to be impatient. I understand it is hard living alone but if you look at it as temporary it will make it easier.

Take the next few months to focus on just you. Do things to make your life easier and try to get out in the world a little. This can be as simple as going to the mall once a week. You might also try to put yourself into situations where you will meet people. Church, classes and volunteer work will help.

In time you will meet someone and your life will get better. Best of luck.

Answer 4

He does have issues of insecurity...I think that if you botrh find a common bond, like religion, God, and Jesus..that you can build the trust you need...Tell him to have you followed if he wants to. Tell him to hire a detective, if that will make him feel secure, Tell him you don't care, because you have nothing to hide...and tell him that you really do love him and want to make it work..I know about the drama bit...Tell him you were with him through the darkest hours, and wish to be with him through the best..try to call him up and really, really talk to him.