He never kissed me but arranged to call me & said he wants to see me again.
He is such a lovely guy & good looking.
Whats the best thing for me to do next?
Am I just being a worrier for no reason?
2007-09-17 04:59:06 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sharkie! ha ha my avatar name is calandra loves marzipan!! I wouldn't date a food product! ;)
2007-09-17 05:15:45 · update #1
yeah don't worry, if he was good, cool, and kinda shy. he likes you alot! :)
Like the REAL MEN we want a serious relationship (sex isn't in our head 90% of the time) because we have been through girlfriends that cheated on us or we found out it wasn't that great.
***reason why to take it slow is becuase he didn't want to scare you saying, "i want a serious relationship." otherwords i really like you and i want to be your boyfriend and probably THINK "YOUR THE ONE".
but of course if we said that you would be running faster than a pack of wolves chasing you.
****take things slow also means, i wanna see also if we BOTH can have A STRONG, TRUSTWORTHY, CHEATLESS relationship.
take care, god bless, and don't worry
2007-09-17 05:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Joking? Take your time and don't rush it. There is nothing better than developing a friendship with him before it goes further. Let him take the lead here and you should follow it. I have found that if a guy is really into you he will keep pursuing you but if not, it's not gonna happen over the long term and if you push it he will run. Take the opportunity to get to know him better for your sake before you jump in. What if he is a real creep? Don't be in such a rush and live the moment and enjoy the attention at whatever level that is. If it does not work out you will learn a lot about yourself and be ready for the next opportunity when it comes your way.
2007-09-17 05:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by Laura F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it by ear. If it is a real commitment type relationship then it will come at the right time-NATURALLY. Love is a natural feeling and things like this should not be preempted. Don't rush things to come so prematurely. You really need to get to know each other more. Enjoy his company. While you are in the getting-to-know-you stage, take advantage of your freedom and hang out more with your girlfriends. The most typical thing to happen in a new relationship is you missing your friends or your friends missing you and somebody might end up resenting the guy. You will spend so much time together when you are a new couple and there will be a lot of changes. Sometimes it takes a while to get used to being in a relationship so don't rush anything. Remember easy come easy go.It's better for you guys to have a good solid foundation in your relationship that way there is more trust. While you feel that he is sending you serious signals, you might also be misinterpreting him and the level of his sincerity. One date will not tell you everything you need to know.
Good luck!
2007-09-17 05:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by painintheneck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you're being a worrier for no reason. Sounds like things are right on track. Just make sure that his words and his actions stay in alignment. What I mean by this, for example, is: If he says he wants a relationship, and wants to take things slowly...I'd be VERY cautious if all of a sudden he starts making rules about how the relationship will go and how you should be behaving. This would be a BIG RED FLAG to me...and would scream of control issues.
Good Luck...and Enjoy!
2007-09-17 05:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be serious, the best thing is to take things slowly. I've jumped into TOO many relationships TOO quickly because of first impressions and "I really liked her" and then a couple months down the line, I said to myself, "Self, what the hell did you do?"
Get to know each other. For example: What do you like to do on weekends? Go partying or visit relatives?
I'm not saying, don't get physical, that's part of getting to know each other. But don't use that a a trap. Many people think that if they sleep together, they are a couple forever.
An I wouldn't worry. He's probably been burned before and being cautious. It seems like he does like you, so see him again and ENJOY the time.
GOOD luck
2007-09-17 05:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dan Bueno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow!! At least he's not rushing into anything. he must really like you. I'd be flattered. You're probably worried because you've never been in this situation before.
( It's natural to worry when you're entering into new territory). Get to know him first, then you can decide if a relationship is on the cards. Remember that every relationship is different, the slower you take it, the more fulfilling it can be. Hope it works out for you xx
2007-09-17 05:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by sparkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give it another thought.
All first dates are exploratory. You, and of course him - well- you want to check the following things;
1. Do you like to talk about similar topics?
2. Do you get each others jokes, sensitive issues, do you listen well, are not vulgar or loud in public?
3. Are you ( or him) interesting ?
The question is; do you like him enough to say yes to a second date? If you didnt, you would not have worried so much about his impression of you on the first.
It seems to me that you like him already. Good luck on your second date. If he does not seem to be as attracted to you as you are to him, just shrug your shoulders and wait for the next guy who will unmistakedy fall for you right away.
Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
2007-09-17 05:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if anything its way too soon to start thinking too deeply about it.
its just a first date... take it for what it was worth... enjoy the fact you had a good time and met a great guy...
i mean i really dont know the whole back story about your situation but from my experience, dont set yourself up for something grand only to be disappointed in what the outcome turns out to be
just take everything for what it is and dont let yourself get too worked up with too many thoughts...
he calls back, great. if he doesnt, oh well, you will date the next guy...
you seem to want love and a relationship and i wish you the best of luck...
remember you are a great person and deserve a great man who will treat you right...
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2007-09-17 05:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by DONEinNJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like you are worrying over nothing. so he wants to be a gentleman. to take things slowly is not wrong in fact its the best thing to do this way you can get to know who he is and he can get to know you. if things don't work maybe you can be good friends. if he has arranged to see you again that a good thing. don't rush into a relationship take it easy. take things as they are you may end up not really liking him at all or you may find out that he is the guy for you.
2007-09-17 05:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by KAT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sounds like you're a bit too worried. If he said he wants to see you again and everything was good, don't sweat it. Let him call you and go out again...see how things go. Just because he didn't kiss you on the first date doesn't mean he's not interested. Good luck!! =)
2007-09-17 05:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Vbonics 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋