Question to parents?

Question

Do you feel pressure from society on what you should raise your children to become so that they will benefit the society, or do feel that society has nothing to do with it and that you will raise your children in a way that you believe will make them the most happy.
I'm not a parent, since I'm still a teen. I was just curious.

Answer 1

There is a lot of pressure from society on how to raise your kids. I noticed this when my son started kindergarten recently, and his teacher is quite judgemental towards some of the parents. My husband and I are very confident in our parenting skills, and we don't let society get in our way.

Answer 2

Wow For a teen this is a deep question. As a mother of 2 I want them to be happy, but I feel that they will be happier if they fit in socially. So I guess society has a lot to do with how I raise my children. It doesn't mean let them do things just because their friends do, but teach them to make responsible decisions on their own. Do I feel pressure. No but I am the kind of person who doesn't give a F#@K what others think of me. I am the Family B!#(H. If anyone has a problem they call me and have me take care of it. I guess for my family society plays a part but morals, values, and education supersede society.

Answer 3

Oh easily I do. Raising children today is not the same as it was even 30 years ago when I was a teen. Things are so different. The internet plays a huge role in how kids interact these days. There was nothing like that back then...we were lucky we were able to get Pong. Today's society deems that parents be "politically correct" with their children...sitting them down and asking if they understand what they did wrong. I never really bought into that. I think kids know what they do is wrong, so why bother asking. If you're the parent, you should know, as well as them, that they did something wrong and punishment is abound. I try to make my kids happy, even tho it sometimes comes at the price of me not having a cent in my wallet. That's my fault however and I believe alot of parent's faults. Parents want their kids to have more than what they had. Geez, my kids have 100 times more than I could have ever had as a kid. I never had a tv, computer, phone or anything else in my room. I was lucky I shared a 13" b/w tv with my sister in the same room. Now the snafoo in all of this is when it comes to disciplining children. Today, even the smallest smack can be considered child abuse. Kids today know that and use it in their favor. That I feel is where society has gone wrong. I do not condone hitting children, but do feel there are circumstances where the old "do you know what you did wrong" just does not cut it. Say your 2 year old runs into the street and just misses getting hit. Do you rush out there, grab your child and give them a wack in the tush to make your point, or do you take them calmly back and say "do you know what you did wrong?" I'm sorry, I think in that case I'd have to make my child know that it is WRONG to run out into the street even if I had to smack in the tushy. And if my child ever utters a FU or any other disrespect, I think a smack in the face is in order there. Kids today get away with alot in regards to adults such as parents and teachers. Everyone walks on eggshells. It's pretty sad because then kids grow up thinking they own the world and that YOU owe them. Not so. They are the future, so in essence, they owe us...respect and hope that the future will be safe and that there will be laws that provide for our future as their elders. But that's just me.

Answer 4

I raise my daughter to be as smart as possible (benefiting both society and personal wellbeing, I suppose) She has been skipped from kindergarten to first grade already, so I know that what I'm doing is helping! :)
However, society can have negative impacts on young children (such as 5 and 6 year olds idolizing the "Bratz", it makes me sick. These girls are learning that skinny girls that act like divas are acceptable and encouraged, and that's not cool.)
I, personally, believe that society should not delegate how you raise your child, and shouldn't be a factor in deciding which ways to raise them either. Do what makes them happy (within reason, of course) and just guide them in the right directions. Suggestions should be made often, but made as that...suggestions. Pressuring a kid to be a doctor (for the good of society) will not work if the child's heart is not in it. Give them the best advice you can, but don't force your opinions on them or try to live vicariously through them. They are their own little people and they will do what they feel is best for them. Trial and error...if they try something and don't succeed, push them to try again...but if they do try again and fail again, then be supportive as they figure out what else it is they want to do. Love and cherish them. Let them know they matter and everything else will fall into place.

Answer 5

We raise our children to be ethical, moral, kind, positive and with social resposibilities. To give is a gift, and when you give, it makes you a better person.
I don't like the way society has turned out these last 25 years. It's really different from when I was a child. You would never talk back to an adult, teacher, parent unless you were ready for the consequences. What happen to work ethic? Why are fashion magazines dictating to our society what size you should be? Why is violence acceptable in all types of ways?
So, the short answer is; I want my children to be happy with whatever they do, whoever they choose. I want them to be true to themselves and not what society dictates.

Answer 6

hello, i am a parent and have 2 boys, 10 and 8 years old. i was a teen once and i have studied child psychology in college. First and foremost you have to give your child all the love and affection to make him/her feel secure. during the childs growing up from the age of 2 to six they learn the most than they will ever learn in their lifetime. this is the age that you are able to shape and mold them. However once you have done the sacrifice for them it pays off in the years to come. Society and peer preasure on the other hand plays an equally important part. However if you do have constant family meetings with your kids and explain to them whats good and whats bad and let them make the decision to decide for themselves while you as a parent guide them effectively. The child will become what you want them to be. However they will have their own identity and be a better person in society. this debate can go on and on but i have provided you information in a summarized form.

Answer 7

My husband and I feel that society has nothing to do with the way we raise our daughter (14). We are both firm believers in spoil the child, spare the rod, and she has turned out pretty good so far. With all the negativity in society, it is hard for us as parents to shield our children from it but to know that we have instilled our morals and values in our daughter, we know she will not let this change her. And years from now, our daughter can make a difference in society, contribute to society as an upstanding citizen, and be heard for what she believes in.

Answer 8

I am going to answer this very honestly .. I am a mother of three I am only 29 My oldest is 12 and my youngest is 3my middle child is 11. Now I have been raising my children on my owns since 5 years ago and I am teaching them that if you do good karma will be good if you do dirt then karma will be a beach when it comes around . What goes around comes around. You have to work at what you want. If you do nothing youi get nothing if you help others laugh then you will succeed God is watching and you do things right the first time so you do not have to do it agaain later.. In todays age You have to let your kids know exactly whats going on so that when they come up against something they know how to handle it . Joy does not come out giving pain so behave so do unto others as you would like to be done to you.

Answer 9

Raising a child to be happy and the best person they can be is my parental goal because those types are a benefit to society. There is such a wide range of people who can potentially benefit everyone else, not just the highly educated or highly paid. Profession has no bearing on the ability to benefit society.

Answer 10

I raise my son according to what I believe is morally correct. A lot of how our parents raised us has a huge impact on it as well. I am not so much worried about what other people will think of my parenting techniques, but more worried about how my child will be viewed. I like to help him stick with the latest fashions and try to make sure he has a few cool toys, but ultimately, I am his mom and not meant to be his best friend. That will happen when he is older. Respect for your parents is important because they have been through a lot of the same things although they may not seem like it. They are only protecting you from what they already know can happen.