Do you think its wrong that im a virgin ?

Question

Im a guy,,

just want that one real connection, waiting for marriage but marriage isnt the thing here, its that emotinal release that you get with your true love, wow im sounding like a chick haha

anyway here is my problem, i do club and stuff, i can dance well maybe not the greatest dancer but i do get errr aquainted with a lot with girls, the problem is how do i just move away without hurting their feelings ? i know they want sex, and you know that akward situation, i just dont wanna lead anyone on, how do i move along without making the women wonder about where she has gone wrong ?

I KNOW A LOT OF WOMEN WANTS ME TO TELL THE TRUTH,,,

I have had 6 women who laughed at me because i told the truth,,why is it so contradictory here, i mean i see a lot of women saying nice things about it here and in real life they tend to laugh,,is it to protect their ego,, why dont they understand that i dont want them to feel akward,im looking out for their feelings and i get hurt,

I COULD KISS EVERY ONE OF YOU,, THANK YOU FOR PUTTING MYSELF AT EASE

Answer 1

I truly admire and respect you for your decision...I am a girl and I have made the exact same decision...and I know what you mean. I go to clubs once in a while too and when I dance with guys, I just want to dance with them and have a good time but that's it. when I'm tired, I tell them thank you and we just go our separate ways. Sometimes though the guys start touching me and grabbing me and it really gets me upset...I have to defensive. These girls laughing at you are definitely low in self-esteem....TRUST ME...I have heard some of them just break down because they wish they never lost their virginity and how boys only use them to get some (which is precisely how they present themselves). Don't think about hurting their feelings because they don't feel the same way about you...just know you are a bigger person inside and just have some fun (in your definition of fun and not theirs)...I hope this helped!

Answer 2

I commend you for the choice you have made. I go to clubs, I dance, I have a good time. I don't go looking for sex or even expecting it. I just go to hang out with my friends and meet new people. A lot more women than you think will totally respect your choice and probably have a lot more respect for you in the end.

I'm not a virgin. haha I have a 3 year old daughter. If a guy told me he was a virgin and intended to stay that way until he met the right person/married, I would be very much okay with that.

Most of the guys I see at the clubs we go to, dance, and move on... If you find that one clingy girl that you can't get away from, then explain it. Until that happens, I wouldn't see why you should explain anything.

Good luck..

Answer 3

If you won't have sex with them, someone will...there's no shortage of guys willing to be accomodating in that regard. But being a virgin is not a bad thing, and waiting until you are truly ready is a sign of wisdom on your part, so just move along in as matter-of-fact a manner as you've been doing. People tend to seek out folks who are at a similar stage as they are without laboriously thinking about someone who is at a different stage and wondering why.

Answer 4

You have to meet girls who feel the same way.

You need to meet a nice girls who doesnt need a good thrashing twice a week.

You could always go part way. Give them a bit of a finger pie instead.

Dont knock around with the local bike and find a classy young prude?

Answer 5

Ya, you do sound like a chick. You are over-thinking life. Life is short. Go have fun. Maybe you have sex, maybe you don't. Women can be responsible for their own actions. It is nice to care but don't start caring before you even find someone to care about. We make mistakes, and you will, even if you never open the door to a future.

Answer 6

I think that waiting is great. Besides the girls that you are meeting and what not, are looking for sex. Just say thanks for the dance, and move on... You'r not going to meet a girl who you want for life, at a club and what not, and if you do, thats great. but Highly unlikely...

Try going on dates that friends set you up on, or do dating sites... Honestly, You will meet the girl you are looking for, one that won't laugh at you, but maybe knowing that you aren't looking to shag and leave, will put her at ease...


Don't ever think its wrong to be a virgin... A lot of us, who aren't, probably wish we were....

Answer 7

Be upfront & tell them that you are waiting for marraige. You don't have to tell them immediately, but if you find that you are in a relationship & you start getting into petting that you are waiting. Most girls will respect that & if they don't, then obviously they are not the one for you.

Don't feel bad about waiting. More people do it than you know. It's just that a lot think that if they tell people that they'll be looked down on. Most people think it's cool. It's only the insecure people who are not comfortable with themselves & their sexuality that think that you need to have sex early & often.

Answer 8

well the problem is if you go to a club and dance with a lot of girls, there going to get led on even if your not trying too. it's part of life, but if you go there with a friend or a girl friend and just dance with them, then theres no chance of leading anyone on.

Answer 9

Congratulations on your discussion. if more people thought like you there would be less divorce and disease in the world. Be proud of waiting and find women who also share your standards. Just don't lead woman on, make sure they know where you stand. And let them know that there is nothing wrong with them.
Good luck....

Answer 10

If you're teasing them, that's one thing. If you're just dancing, that's another. Most women can tell the difference. Also, don't assume that women find you irresistibly attractive and they all leave with broken hearts. Take a more realistic view of life.