We are starting our third week of school today and my eight year old daughter is very teary before she gets on the bus and when she's at school. Her new teacher is fantastic(the one she really wanted!)90% of the class is the same as last year, no problems with peers,school work(at the top of her class) or here at home. All is well on all fronts. I am a stay at home Mom and have been since she was born.. She attended preschool for 2 years prior to Kindergarten with no separation anxiety at all. Until now. Any thoughts and or advice would be great, we're kind of at a loss on this one!!! Thank you.
2007-09-17 03:05:27 · 10 answers · asked by Ee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Wow! Your situation is very similar to mine. Sorry to hear that your daughter is going thru this. I can definitely relate. My daughter is in second grade and is sort of acting the same way. No problems with kids, teachers or classwork but is still anxious about having to go to school in the mornings. I am also a stay-at-home mom and never had a problem with this before so this is new to me. I have been leaving notes in her lunchbag and it seems to be helping. I write a funny joke that she ends up sharing with some of the kids she is sitting with for lunch. Comes home telling me how funny it was or I make up some ridiculous poem for her . Hang in there. Sometimes we forget they are only children and being away from home for so many hours and taking a bus everyday can be a scary thing.
2007-09-17 04:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by yoga1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really stupid. Here is why I think that: If they have laws limiting junk food in school, it does matter, but they should have warned all of the students beforehand. She brought the candy to school, assuming she could eat it. What I do not understand is the detention. You shouldn't just hand out detentions willy-nilly like that, they should address the issue with the parents included, I have no clue what happens in school for the administration, but this sentence is petty, despite the fact that this girl is only 10 years old, if I was to go to that school and hand out lollipops, would I be arrested? I don't think so, what is the logic behind this sentence? A girl goes to school, goes to lunch, takes out a piece of candy she has been looking forward to, and has it taken away from a teacher, and is then sentenced detention for what, a treat that she brought out? Now, this answer is just me ranting, and it may not make sense since I just now read this question, but, really?
2016-05-17 04:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't baby her with these feelings. I know it's hard but if you are like "oh honey" and "mommy loves you" she will only get worse. You have to be firm and say things like "you HAVE to go to school" and "I love you very much but if you continue this behavior you will be grounded from your gameboy or playstation or whatever". Tough love is the key here. I am sure you are a great mom, I can tell by the way you posted the question, you just might be a little to much of a pushover. No offense, at all, just toughen up a little and I guarantee she will stop. I think sometimes children this age think school is optional.
2007-09-17 05:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a stay at home Mom, then try togo to the school and have lunch with her a coupls days a week. The two of you probably spent a lot of time together this summer and it's difficult to not want your best friend around. She is just missing you. Why not try dropping her off and picking her up at school? Or set a "date" with her one day a week when the 2 of you get that special time together. I'm sure you miss her too. I know I miss my daughter when she goes to school.
2007-09-17 04:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by beach mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there another sibling at home? She might be a little jealous imagining all of the fun things you do while she's at school all day. I loved the first answer and I agree with the suggestions. You might also want to play down what you've done all day. Let the focus be on her when she gets home. Plan special things to do when she gets home and let her know in the morning. It might help her get through her day and have something to look forward to. Good luck :)
2007-09-17 03:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you see her off in the morning, say "I'll see you in a little bit", so it doesn't sound/feel like an eternity for her. Or, if you know who her best friends are tell her, "Say hi to [name] for me?" Give her a picture of you or her family to put in her pencil box or pencil pouch. Something to remind her of home. Maybe have a conference with her teacher and seek some advice. Teachers have to go through some child psychology classes in college, so she might have some ideas. Also, if her teacher knows about your daughter's anxiety, she might be more willing to work with you on helping her.
2007-09-17 07:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through this stage. A bit younger but still went through it.
I just talked with the teacher and made sure that her teacher could spend a minute with her to help settle her in. Sometimes doing new things and new schedules can throw them off and a little extra help by the teacher can really help her.
You could give her a picture of you and let her take it to school and she can look at it whenever she gets sad.
You could pop up there at lunch or recess just to say hi.
I would really talk with the teacher. They are great at handling these situations.
It took my daughter about 2 months to get used to having to do "Big girl things:"
2007-09-17 03:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe get her up a few minutes early so you and her can spend a little 'Quality Time' together. (My mother used to do it w/ me). We would talk about girl stuff while she did my hair or got our breakfast ready. I couldnt wait to go to school and come home and start the day over so we could have our 'Girl Time.'
Or you could leave little notes in her back pack and lunch box that she would find through out the day. Just reassuring her that she will be ok and just how much she is loved.
2007-09-17 04:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go shopping together and buy a special neclace for both of you. like a heart necklace or something like that. tell her everytime she feels sad she can hold it in her hands and think of you, and and you can do the same throughout the day. best if luck!
2007-09-17 03:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by jessica g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give your daughter and yourself something that you both can wear when you are apart. And make it sound exciting and very special. Make her feel like you two are connected even when you are apart.
2007-09-17 03:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋