I am getting married in November and I don't think I will be able to walk down the aisle b/c of my nerves. I am afraid that I am going to throw up right in front of everyone. How do I stop from being so nerves? I mean its so bad that just talking about it makes me nerves. Can someone PLEASE help me I am desperate? I am so tired of being like this!!!
2007-09-17 02:42:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You've got a couple months, so that's a good thing.
What you need isn't tranquilizers or alcohol or anything like that, but good relaxation techniques.
First off, when you start feeling anxious, take a deep breath, hold it for a moment, and slowly let it out. Repeat as needed. Then shake out your arms and legs. This relaxes your body which is surprisingly helpful in relaxing your mind.
Second, come to terms with the fact that something will go wrong on your wedding day. The fear of something not being 'perfect' is a big part of wedding nerves, but the fact is perfection doesn't happen in real life. Someone will be very late, something will be forgotten, or a vendor will screw up in some way. The important thing to remember is that as long as nobody is fatally injured and you wind up married to your true love, there is no wedding imperfection that can utterly destroy it. Tell yourself every day 'something will go wrong at my wedding, and I'm okay with that,' and you'll be amazed at how much less pressure there suddenly is.
Sometimes wedding nerves are a function of spending too much energy on one thing to the exclusion of everything else. Pick a day now and again and declare all discussion of the wedding off-limits. Think about something else. Do something that has nothing to do with flower arrangements, menu plans, seating charts, or dresses. Take a bubble bath or a long walk. Play video games. Play with the cat or dog. Just pick something that relaxes you that has nothing to do with the wedding and do that.
If all of this isn't enough to take care of your problem, consider a session with a counsellor or a hypnotherapist to help you find answers that work for you. Or take a course in meditation.
2007-09-17 05:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about it is making you nervous? Is it the getting married itself or all the preparations? If it is the wedding preparations and making everything perfect, this is what I reminded myself.
Should anything not go according to plan, chances are the guests will not even notice. Should something happen, it will most likely be something you and your hubby can laugh about when recounting your wedding. Most importantly, you are getting married to the person you love. If someone shows up late or the flower arrangements are not exactly how you pictured it, who cares?!?! it will still look beautiful and you will still be saying "i do". Now, if it is the getting married part that is making you nervous, that is very common. Talk to your mom or other married female relatives, they will probably have some stories for you!! If you are still having strong doubts and anxiety, then you might want to sit down and think if you are really ready for this.
Best of luck to you.
2007-09-17 02:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by tinyavenger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every bride gets nervous about walking down the aisle. It's normal. I'm married and I can tell you from experience that the minute you step into the church and see your fiance smiling at you, you will forget everything and everyone and just focus on him and how much he loves you. I don't even remember seeing the guests as I walked down the aisle! Then, when you get to the altar, you'll be holding his hand and it will give you a great deal of comfort. You will be fine.
2007-09-17 03:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by PinkMonkeyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I am getting married in November and I don't think I will be able to walk down the aisle b/c of my nerves. I am afraid that I am going to throw up right in front of everyone. How do I stop from being so nerves? I mean its so bad that just talking about it makes me nerves. Can someone PLEASE...
2015-08-26 12:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sonia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just being yourself (or as close to yourself as you can manage!) and chatting with your friends and mom, or whoever's in there with you getting ready, will take the edge off. Also, whenever I'm about to do somethign nerve-racking, like audition for a part in a play or meet someone for an important job interview, I tell myself to expect at least three things to go wrong. Then, if anything does screw up, I can be like, "well, I expected that," but if everything goes flawlessly, it's an added bonus!
2016-03-13 05:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety and nerves are normal at this stage.
You will survive!!!
Getting married and buying a house are the 2 most stressfull accomblishments in your life.
Take a deep breath, take one day at time.
You can only solve on problem at a time - try not to take
on so much and worry so much.
it will all work out.
Millions of people have done it
GOOD LUCK;
2007-09-17 02:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Fuzzybutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can get an anti-anxiety medication like a Xanax or an Ativan or something, it'll probably wear off long before the wedding night lol, but you'll have to avoid mixing it with alcohol. Personally, I might just smoke a joint before hand.
2007-09-17 03:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you talk to a counselor. I get nervous too and I'm a little concerned about walking down the aisle, but not nearly as worried as you are. I can talk about it now and not get upset about it.
2007-09-17 02:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by clg1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing about taking Xanax, although it helps, you may not be up to your best come the wedding night...
I suggest a few tips of whatever makes you giddy... such as a nice stiff drink of Jack Daniels... Ask the minister, I'm sure he has a few bottles packed away.
2007-09-17 03:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by Yulik MahBaht 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your doctor for a prescription of Xanax.
Also, a shot of rum before the wedding helps, too.
2007-09-17 06:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋