2007-09-17 01:16:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
childs peers
other family members
family friends
why??? what have you done???
2007-09-17 01:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO! and YES!
I could raise my kids the same exact way I am now in the city, and come out with different results if I lived in the country.
There are to many other things to take into consideration to blame the parents 100%. If the parent is setting a good example and teaching good morals and values, the enviroment the child is in and the friends they have could be the problem.
But if the child is learning this behavior from the parent, if the parent is not teaching morals and values, there is no discipline and the kid can do whatever whenever.. then yep the parent is to blame.
2007-09-17 09:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by billiecep2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are legally responsible until the child is 25 yrs old in some states. With that said, most parents with children over 18 yrs old don't have legally issue as a general rule.
But the sad part is, we spend less time with our kids than the schools, neighbors, other kids, other parents, the general public. Yet if a child misbehaves, it's the parents fault. So are we to keep our children home most of the time? Stunting their social skills? It's not fair. There are more parents out there that work and can not be there 24/7. You do your best to instill in your children good morals and standards, but the influence others play on in their lives can have a substantial influence and break down everything you try to teach them.
We need to spend more time with our kids, leave the house work, leave work at work. Spend weekends doing things with the kids.
2007-09-17 08:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it depends on who the child is around the most and the atmosphere they are in. I mean yes the parents if they are the main supporters and up bringers then they should be to blame for the child's misbehaving. But if the grandparents or baby sitter or day care spends more time with the child because of a parents schedule then they can have a negative or positive impact on the attitude also.
2007-09-17 08:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not necessarily. It depends on who is raising the child and what the home-life is like, the environment that the child is in at school, and the social settings that the child is placed in. There are so many factors that affect a child's behavior. The parents need to be the ones to reinforce that good behavior is the only acceptable behavior and to teach the child right from wrong.
2007-09-17 08:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe some traits are genetic. I have a niece who has been a challenge since the day she was born practically. She has a stubborn streak a mile wide, and is very physical. She's been beating up her older sister since she was a toddler, her sister is 4 years older. My brother and his wife wanted 4 - 5 kids but have stopped as this one is such a handful and takes up so much time.
She almost got kicked out of kindergarten because of her rough behaviour.
My niece can at times be the sweetest of kids but when she decides on something she can be a real pain. Her parents are very conscientious and their older daughter is a very nice well behaved girl. My sol did at one point quit her job so she could stay home with this child instead of leaving a daycare to deal with her. They are good and fairly strict parents.
Good news is that as she is getting older she is getting so much better. Her mother has worked very hard on her behaviour and it is improving as she begins to understand that some of the things she does are unacceptable.
My brother claims his wife is very stubborn when she sets her mind to something and I think though normally easy going my bro can dig his heals in to if he thinks he's right.
So my belief is that not all bad behaviour can be laid at the parents door. If they do nothing to correct it...well that's a different story.
2007-09-17 08:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think peer pressure can be a big factor. So can the music that they listen to, the t.v. and movies that they choose to watch. Many things influence children and how they behave. There seems to be an area in each childs life that the child rebels a little against being told what to do and what not to do by the parent, parents or guardian.
2007-09-17 08:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...but yes overall.
I own a funeral home - and parents bring kids here all the time (as well they should, don't get me wrong)...
but once they get here, they just walk away - and the kids are running, jumping, screaming and so on...and I will go to the kids and ask them to quiet down...no running and so on...
the kids will look at me and say "you're not my dad" to which I reply, "no, I am not, but this is my building, and you have to behave in here."
If the kids get too far out of line I will go find their parents - some will be apologize - others will scold me and tell me "you are not allowed to speak to my child - by telling them to stop, you are squashing their creativity"...
To which I reply, "Your kids are squashing my creativity as a funeral director...and if you cannot control your child, you will be asked to leave" Which of course, makes their child's behavior my fault.
Parents don't take responsibility for their kids, their words or their actions...so why should the kid?
2007-09-17 08:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say the blame ultimately lies with the parents because if the child has not been disciplined in the home, they are not going to respect discipline anywhere else. I do think peers influence children, but they need to fear consequences. I think that comes from parents because our schools are limited in the punishments they're allowed to issue.
2007-09-17 08:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Allison P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no, if parents are reasonable, no. If you do not like the rules it's not always the parents faults. if absence of love: parents fault. Be wise think twice. I'm 23 and today I look back and would give anything to turn back time just to change some of my behaviors. You see, it's 50/50. If you know your wrong, take a step back.
2007-09-17 08:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the child was grown up.
If the parents have grown their children completely under their control, then 99% its the parents to be blamed.
Otherwise:
Other people who can be blamed will be the teachers, friends and relatives.
2007-09-17 09:18:33 · answer #11 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋