My family loves my brother more than me.No,I'm not being a 10 year old or any emo teenager.It's a fact.And I accept the way it is.The problem is,I just can't really open up to anyone anymore.I just can't,knowing that the sooner any friends of mine or whoever it is gets to know my brother,I would be the one getting left beside.I don't talk with any of my family members,when they're trying to be sweet and stuff,I just reject them,same with other potential friends.And to make things worst,the only person whom I think truly cared for me is not here anymore.She left,for something better I think.And my parents,they have their own problems(please kindly rule them out from any solutions).I'm going to college next year at 16 and any person with a brain will know that it's not a good idea,but it's the only way I get away from everything...and I'm not ready yet.(please also rule my brother out as a solution).He yells at my mother.When his friends are around,he act like a saint to her.
2007-09-17 01:13:25 · 10 answers · asked by Jordan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks a whole lot.I mean if you keep trying to be the best you can to just be someone who matters but you always keep being left behind after that,what would you feel?Actually my parents didn't really try to be nice,they don't really care,they talk to me about only their problems,they can't even stand up for themselves.But when I have a problem,and when I fall,they can't catch me,they just fail.
2007-09-17 01:54:02 · update #1
Going off to college will be the best thing for you because you will make your own life there, no comparisons.
2007-09-17 01:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not realize it but you're creating your own problems. Before people can accept you you have to learn to accept yourself. Before that can happen you have to stop seeing yourself as a victim. You will never make friends by rejecting people when they try to be sweet to you. Put yourself in their place. If you tried to be sweet to someone and she rejected you, how hard would you try again?
People gravitate toward positive people. Instead of focusing on everything that's wrong in your life, look at if from a different perspective. When your friends get to know your brother, they enjoy his company more because he's not wallowing in self pity. How many times has it actually happened that you lost a friend to your brother? I suspect it didn't happen as often as you think and I also suspect that you excluded yourself, they didn't.
I say these things because I used to be you. I used to think everyone else was better than me and no one loved me and my parents favored my siblings over me. I was a major victim and you are saying all the same things I used to think. Then I finally grew up. And I find that when I am just being myself and being postive, I have lots of friends. It's amazing how that works.
If you don't feel ready to go off to college at 16 tell your parents you're not ready. If they don't listen, make them listen. Yes, they have their own problems. But they are also your parents and whether you believe it or not, they love you and they want the best for you. You have to make them listen to you.
If you continue to float along through life feeling sorry for yourself you'll be miserable and you'll miss out on too much of life. Take a stand, let the world see who you really are and speak up for yourself. Learn to accept that you have the power to be seen. Stop hiding, get out there and take back your power and live your life.
2007-09-17 09:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you are real worried about losing friends to your brother, maybe stick to finding friends online. Talk with them alot, that will help ease a bit of your frustration.
Going away to college at 16 will be a very difficult thing to do, but sticking with it and coming out of it on top will benefit you in the long run.
Make every scenario you encounter the best you possibly can and more often then not, things will work out for you.
2007-09-17 08:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You perceive that your family loves your brother more - because you are jealous of him - and honestly, if you were at a party and met someone positive, (mostly) like your brother and you met someone like yourself, whom, by your own admission, you reject family and friends who try to be sweet and stuff, which would you choose to hang around with?
The person who "left for something better" probably got tired of the negativity - too much "victim" stuff from you.
You need to realize that everyone is different - doesn't make anyone better - just different. Stop being jealous of those around you who choose to participate in life - it isn't their fault that you feel the way you do about yourself - they are just your excuse for why you do.
2007-09-17 08:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree with you. You are pretty pathetic.
You are whining like a 2 year old and honestly need to get over it.
So your brother is a spoiled brat just like you.
If I where your Mother or Father and you rejected me when I was being nice to you - I'd swat your precious bottom like it sounds you need it.
And college for a brat child at 17?? Hell no! You are not mature enough.
2007-09-17 08:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dionannan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww even though u might not think so, they probably love u equally. when u start college ull meet loads of new people so u can try and make some good friends. If u cant talk to anyone u know, then u could try this website http://www.samaritans.org/
2007-09-17 08:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother has developed his way that is according to what you say above yours. Maybe learn from him and develop yours and it will get by do not worthy, There many many people in the world, and it is a real joy you are about to meet all those friends in your new study level, enjoy it tremendously, have dreams, love people and give yourself to them.
2007-09-17 08:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jesús Ernesto Miguel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just love all people arround you,and talk to them naturally,try to help them,and always think about the good things they make it to you,and imagine your self without them,the life will be really hard for you especially you have no friends,believe me just love them and everything will be ok,good luck
2007-09-17 08:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe you me, your problems are but a passing phase, experienced by many of your age, it will pass.
2007-09-17 08:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whats the question then =] ??
2007-09-17 08:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋