i have a wedding to attend on saturday its a friend from work who i have known a while but have never really spent any time with however my girlfriend is a good friend of the brides mum and therefore she insists we go , the wedding starts at 1 and will go on till approximately 1 am i dont mind going but a chap i work with has recently become very hostile towards me and has had numerous words to say to me this morning about how much of an idiot he thinks i am also this guy is a really good frfriend of the groom and will be going to the night occassion , i cant help but feel that after this morning the chap will get drunk and start hurling abuse at me and cause a lot distress to party goers and my girlfriend do bare in mind this guy can get pretty personal and will ulmost undoubtedly have something to say about my girlfriend and such like what shall i do ?
2007-09-17 00:14:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please note that the abusive chap is my boss' son , its a horrid situation . i know what hes like and has already said that the groom has been slagging me off whether its true or not is another matter , the whole night could become very comfortable very quickly , if i reported this guy to my gaffa i would not achieve anything other being uncomfortabl at work and at the wedding
2007-09-17 00:25:34 · update #1
does your girlfriend know about the situation with this guy?
Maybe you should explain that to her and explain that you dont want this potential problem to ruin the wedding for the bride and groom.
Although you would hope people you be well behaved at a wedding!
2007-09-17 00:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie Bradshaw wannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really commendable that you are considering not going to the wedding because you fear someones actions towards you will cause others distress. But sadly, you kinda have to go.
This guy is the one with the problem, and what I really honestly would do is ask him for a word.
Tell him you realise for whatever reason he doesn't like you, and you don't mind, as you can't be everyones friend, but that you would appreciate it if he stopped being offensive towards you because you have to work together. Then mention that you are also both going to the same wedding, and you don't want to feel uncomfortable - as it is someone else's special day.
If he is still being a nasty person and refusing to let bygones be bygones, I suggest you tell your girlfriend and she can talk to the brides mother. The bride won't want to know the details, but the brides mother can talk to the groom and perhaps sort this out, if she wants to. The brides mother will know what to do if you cannot get this guy to see sense yourself.
After the wedding, I would also have a word with someone in your HR department, as this guy shouldn't speak to you like this in your place of work.
2007-09-17 00:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by fire_woman_1978 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding (don't let him stop you) as your gf wants to go explain the situation to her so she is aware of it.Stay out of his way all night and enjoy yourself and if he wants to start trouble that's his problem and everyone will see that you didn't start anything and they will see what a prat he is or being he shouldn't start anything as hes mates with the groom and if he starts trouble he will only be upsetting the groom and even the bride and will spoil there day.He will only be making a fool out of himself.Its a free world and your gf has being invited so theres nothing stopping you from going ad remember if he starts he will be the idiot not you!!!!!!!!!! Hope that helps xx
oh and if he does start on your gf then maybe you should start something but bear in mind DONT UPSET YOUR GF IF YOU DO YOUR THE ONE WHO WILL BE SORRY.
2007-09-20 01:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, attend the wedding and enjoy yourself. Don't let this creep get you down. Don't avoid him to the point where you're always looking out for him, but, equally, don't go and place yourself in his path. If you happen to meet him, be polite. If he starts being nasty, interrupt with, "This is neither the time nor the place; this is the bride and groom's day, and we should respect that." And then walk away. Don't listen to him, and don't rise to the bait. He's bullying you, and the only way that bullies respond is if you respond to them - so, be mature, and ignore him. He'll soon get the idea.
2007-09-17 01:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by bouncingtigger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should go , and try to avoid this guy when he arrives .
Just make sure that if he really wants to start trouble that everyone is well aware you are the innocent party
Hopefully he will be on his best behaviour , if as you say he is good friends with the groom he would not want to spoil his big day .
2007-09-17 00:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding and enjoy yourself. Make sure your g/friend tells the bride's mother the situation with this boor and tell her you are prepared to leave early if there's trouble. The family will tell you to stay on of course and hopefully chuck him out. (That suggestion about the MP3 recorder sounds pretty good. You could threaten to let his father see it if he cuts up rough at work.) He sounds pretty obnoxious so I doubt if he's that close a friend of the groom. Or if he is, he won't be for long. Stay calm and let him embarrass himself.
2007-09-17 00:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is jealous that you are going to the ceremony. Its not your fault you got an invite and he didnt. Just go and enjoy yourself. If he tries to make a scene at the evening do just tell him you refuse to make a scene, walk away and ignore him the rest of the night. If he starts a fight at his mates wedding then he isnt going to be the grooms friend for very long is he? Dont be drawn into it. Just be cool.
2007-09-17 00:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Big kid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've had an invite and accepted, it would be rude to let the bride and groom down. stay away from this man, if he is horrid to you walk away an dont rise to him. you could always make an excuse and leave early, but you really should at least put in an appearance. the couple have gone to hard work arranginging their wedding and alot of expense, show willing, maybe they know this bloke is a jerk already!!!
2007-09-17 00:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did no longer attend a marriage on 7/7/7, even nevertheless there have been an excellent kind of weddings right here in Scandinavia that day. We took a force interior the country facet and each church, approximately 15, have been having weddings. right here friends of the couple additionally submit symptoms on parkway overpasses, etc. an excellent kind of symptoms submit on Saturday! because of the fact many human beings think of that day became into specific, i think of many greater of the marriages will a minimum of ultimate longer than the extensive-unfold marriages.
2016-11-14 16:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by jetter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a bit odd on his part that, out of the blue, he has taken a dislike to you. Can you talk to him and suggest you stay out of each others way on Sat, therefore making sure that he does not start? Explain that you do not want to ruin their big day and I am sure he does not want to as well so it is best you stay out of each others way and enjoy the night. I am sure he can be mature for the sake of his best friends big day. Whatever happens, you need to rise above it and be the mature one here. Make your girlfriend aware that there is a problem and you intend to try and be a grown up about it. If you cannot talk to him, try e-mailing him.
2007-09-17 00:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋