Help me with this?

Question

Okay. Almost two years ago my parents split up. Only like a couple of months in our new house, my dad introduces me to this girl he's been taking on dates. I didn't know what to really think of it at first but I wasn't happy with it. She began staying over night in my house when my dad went to work. So I was basically left alone at home at night with a complete stranger. This lady began to stay more and more and before I knew it, we were moving all over again and she was moving in. My dad said I could say yes or no, but I'm a really passive/shy person and he just sort of shoved it upon me. I didn't really want it at the time and I actually said NO. But somehow he weaseled her in and she's lived with us since. I've gotten to know her since then and she's a bit weird. But the bad thing is whenever I want to talk to my dad alone about something, I can't. She is ALWAYS there and it's like she knows I wanna talk about something private with him. But I can't anymore.

And it's like she's changed him. The things he used to say yes to are always nos now. I don't like it and I'm seriously debating moving in with my mother even if I don't want to. I'm not happy here and I never have been.

Answer 1

I'm a really passive person too, but I've learnt to speak for myself eventually... My parents are also split up...

I think that if she still doesn't let you speak to your father alone, just tell your dad straight in her face what you think about her... It's a LOT easier said than done, I know... Don't worry about her hurting you because if your dad does love you, then he won't let her hurt you and if he sees that his 'girlfriend' even tries, he'll split up with her. Because then, he would've seen what the lady was like...

Anyways, GOOD LUCK!! You'll need a lot of self-confidence but don't worry, it'll work out if you do something about it! I'll pray for you! =)

Answer 2

FIRST OF ALL, talk to your dad even if it does not work. He should know your fellings cause you are his child. If you are uncomfortable at this state, try to act a little friendlier to your stepmother....you know, bond with her if you had the chance. Seek GOD's help. I know he is up there. That is a challenge in your life that you have to face. Trust me. I know. I have been in that state for so long I know how it feels. You know what i did when i was young, I confronted my dad one day without even thinking what to say and .... know what? It worked!!!

Answer 3

Next time you want to talk to your dad in private, tell her so. If she refuses to leave the room, tell your dad you can clearly see who rules his roost.

Answer 4

Then move in with your mom. And tell your dad why.