I dont consider myself extremely shallow or picky. That's not the problem here. The thing is that girl does not turns me on. But I have just had like 2 dates with her and I think it is too soon to discard her. With other girls I have fallen in love instantly there was just physical attraction and it didn't last for long. Therefore I think that just focusing on looks would be stupid. Anyhow, in the long term she has to turn me on, no matter how good her personality is. I am searching for that. If it comes out, that would be great if it doesn't, well at least I can say I have tried.
I must add, that she's just 5.11 and I am 6 feet tall and she is not the kind of girl that you will normally call hot. But i do not mind about that as long as I end up liking her. That's the main thing here. Apart from that I think that the fact that she is not a hottie will mean that she may have other things that compensate that. I don't know how will it end, but I know I want to give her a try.
2007-09-16 21:27:33 · 6 answers · asked by Trust 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I would definitely applaud you for giving it a try.... it woukd be too soon for you to just make a bog judgment since it has berly been 2 dates.... but you dont have to settle either... everyone has the right to be picky... I mean whatever turns you on... when its meant to be it will be....
Maybe this on is if you see something that intersets you in the next 2 dates but after than that if you dont see nothing then try and break it off because maybe she does like you and well you dont want to lead her on....
Maybe the next will turn you on with looks and personality... there is no rush! =0)
Good Luck!!
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2007-09-16 21:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you don't consider yourself "extremely" shallow. I think you used the word "extremely" shallow because you KNOW you are shallow. What? Do you think every girl you meet is going to fall into the "hot" category?? If HOT is what you're looking for, because it certainly seems like you're focused on it, maybe this girl is better off without your attention. I know plenty of guys who would have it bad for her because of her height alone, which is something that you appear to disdain. And you use the phrase "I think it's too soon to discard her." Not only are you shallow, you're vain. Discard? You make it sound as though she was put on this earth simply for you to gaze upon and then cast off when you don't find her appealing enough. And you said that because she's not a "hottie" that will mean she may have other things that compensate for that. Why the f*ck should she have to "compensate" for ANYTHING just because she's not a 10 on YOUR Hottie Meter?! You vain, selfish creature! Maybe YOU aren't a hottie in HER book! You say you don't know how it's going to end?? Give me her phone number and I can tell you EXACTLY how it will end! Jackass.
2007-09-16 21:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by Superfluous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chemistry is extremely important, but it could be that the type of girl where you both have strong chemistry wasn't right for you.
If you don't think you could have sex with this woman then she's not for you and maybe you should say something.
If it's just that you don't feel something yet, it's possible you might in the future. You could see if she's interested and see if it might be worth trying, if for no other reason than having a regular girlfriend has got to be better than not having one even if she's not all that attractive to you.
2007-09-16 21:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Paul R 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
cool i kinda did the same thing,but i soon fell in love with her personality,you know after your with someone for awhile you dont realy look at them like that anyway,cause even the beautiful are ugly if thats thier personality,know what i mean,so yeah if you like her go for it(look at it like this when your old whats gonna be more important her looks that faded or her personality that remains)
2007-09-16 21:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by jmcslob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is do you enjoy being with her. If you do, there is no problem. If you don't, quit seeing her before she gets the wrong idea.
2007-09-16 21:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how to answer your question since you didn't ask a question.
2007-09-16 21:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋