I have a crush on a coworker.... HELP!!!?

Question

1.Never calls me rarely does, always texts, somehow we text each other every day i dunno why we just do. We have very random convos.

2. Never ever askes me to hang out, but when i do most of the times she says yes.

3. Introduces me to her friends and acts like she is lost of words around me, only at work..but when we are alone she talks like no other, when i compliment her she kinda blushes and goes thanks in a shy way, but not when other ppl do it. but thats no reflection in her personality by all means shes a touchy feely confident over the top type.

4. Lets me in her personal space the first time i met her, she slighty touches my back, grabs my wrist then lets go after a second or so, the 2nd time i met she puts her arms around me, and basically touches me more.

5. She basically ignores me at work, just saying hi, never comes to help me no more, never askes me to go to lunch no more, basically nothing, she just acts really shy and dodgy around me now...

She never calls me to hang out is this a bad sign??? Shes all chump chump with my friends but ignores me completely for some odd reason now..im in love with this girl..i was thinking right this moment to call her to go bowling or watch a movie or something..

I known her for about 2-3 weeks, hunged out with her about 1-2 times (1/4 of the time it was business related) the other half was pleasure. meaning we met at a cafe talking about business then it ends up watchin movie going to park etc.

Answer 1

When you go out with a co worker, just remember that if you break up there is going to be problems in the workplace. Usually one or the other gets fired, or has to leave the job due to the split. It causes awkwardness for not only the two people that split, but makes the workplace uncomfortable for everyone else too. Never a good idea to start a relationship with a coworker.

Answer 2

Here's the deal- workplace romances are usually bad ju-ju. This is probably the reason she's hot n cold kinda. She's let you know she's interested but she cant let everyone else know because- you know how offices are- the GOSSIP!!!!!!
Rumor central will jive up some story based on pure speculation that will be taken as gospel by all who hear it. Never a good thing.

Also- many companies have rules against that sort of thing and it's an automatic termination offense.

Those things being said, if you still want to pursue a relationship with this girl I would suggest this:

Call her after work and get together with her. Level with her and let her know how you feel. Go over the things you need to and how you're going to have to play it, then wing it from there.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Weeeeeeeeeeell...she probobly really likes you and doesnt know how to approach the situation especially because you work together. She probobly is all 'chummy w/ your friends because she wants to get to know you without seeming desperate or like as slut.
'You need to ask her out as a friend and then ask her how she fells about you. The smart thing to do on this 'date' would be to flirt casually and see if it leads to anything.
whatever you do...do not keep it on the low you will end up getting in more trouble for hiding your relationship because you will get found out...everyone does lol and if there is no such policy at your job prohibiting you from screwing your co-worker then ignore that last line lol
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Hope this helps and good luck

Answer 4

I think this is going nowhere with her and you are wasting your emotions and time on this girl. For some reason, she does not want her co-workers to know about you---she probably has a bf and she's telling you that she will play around--she shouldnt be "touchy feely" with you.

I would ignore her too, she is not treating you with respect, only playing games.

Answer 5

Man, you need to get over this girl, it is over with her for you. I can guess that she probably did like you at first, but then like so many other guys you smothered her with all your attention. Now it's likely she thinks you're either a loser with nothing else going on, or just plain desperate to get and keep her attention.

Girls want guys who have passions and interests in life, not guys who dedicate themselves to them 24 hours a day, save that **** for marriage.

Sorry if that's a little to "real" for you but you need to understand what I'm saying.

LS

Answer 6

Don't most companies have sexual harassment laws? Not a great idea to get involved/obsessed with a coworker nowadays.

Answer 7

Dating in the workplace is a bad idea. There is so much that can go wrong.

Answer 8

yeah she sound sjus tlike me with the mixed signals.
im doing the same thing to a guy
and i guess its dumb.
but thats what girls are taught. we are told that if we pursue men we look weak or desperate.
man i feel sorry for guys.