not sending the kid to school all the time?

Question

I am the older children of a large family (i am an adult) my father has second family where the baby well he is 10 doesnt go to school enough i think he has had at least one day off a week since school started in january. He is a little larger and lazy and i sure he gets picked on at school but thats not a reason to go to school. My other brothers and sisters are wondering what we should do it is not good but his mother lets him have time off all the time. My dad works alot so he not around for all the days off but is there some way we can school involved or them to call to see why he has so many days off? we have all sort of brought it up and we get the usual oh he hates school, kids are mean, he's tired, etc etc. Both parents are older and i think he wears them down but this can't be good

Answer 1

Yep, this can't be good. Try these:
-Talk to his school counselor?(If the school has one)
-Deal with the bullying that is affecting him
-Let him sleep a bit more. Also, try giving him a diet.
And if these doesn't work, or you tried everything, what about stop letting him go to school but get tutors to teach him while he's at home.
No bullying, No tiredness because there's a bed and a good food supply.
Another problem is he thinks school is boring, bad and a place where you get tortured. Explain to him that why school is there and his parents only send him there because they want him to get into university (or whatever reason).

Thats it. Good luck!

Answer 2

First if a kid misses to many days of school the school will not pass him into the next grade. So that might motive right there, Maybe you could work with your brother and show him how school can be fun and teach him ways of dealing with mean people and being tried. Eat better and go to bed earlier maybe work out a little. The school may or may not let you know anything about your brother since you are not legal gardian which is a shame since you might care more for his education then his parents. What about finding him a different school maybe a chater school where they do activities that he likes or a private school. the most important thing is he is hurting himself if he knows it our not. what about making him a deal like my uncle did with my little sister if you get let say an A I'll give you $5 for each A and $2.5 for each "b". Just ideas hope they help.

Answer 3

I would contact the school counselor or student service center and tell them you have concerns about your little brother missing so much school. They cannot give you any information, but this may lead them to check into his attendance record and often they will put a plan into action to get him back into school full time. It is against the law for him to not be in school full time at that age.
If it is bullying, the school needs to know so they can take care of the problem. Schools in this day and age are more inclined to deal with these problems due to all the suicides and shooting sprees.
Good luck

Answer 4

Where I live if you don't send your kids to school then you get in a lot of trouble. My daughter gets sick quite often and I got a letter from the school and court because of the days that she has missed. Try to see if you can meet with a guidance counselor about the days he has missed. The sad thing is , he is just going to get behind. I know my daughter did. Hope you get this resolved.

Answer 5

It's admirable that you want to look out for your half brother. If he is missing that much school, the school has the responsibility of contacting your parents in regards to his continual truancy. If the parents are ignoring the school, then the school has to follow policy. Unfortunately, since you are not the kid's guardian, there's not much you can do. We can only hope that the school will catch this and act on it since the parents are not acting responsibly.

Answer 6

why don't you and your siblings set up a roster for taking him to school. With the permission of his mum of course. Maybe a change in schools will help if he is that miserable at this one but something needs to be done or he will fall way behind and will hate school more because he can't do the work

Answer 7

Talk to someone at the school about truancy. Not sure where you are but in South Carolina, they do not get credit in school for the year if they miss over a certain number of days.

Answer 8

Speaking from the teachers point of view, it will eventually go to truancy. That is where your father or whom ever will be a warning, if it does not stop after the warning, they will then be prosecuted. Its not something fun to go through, and your father is not setting a good example to him. If they dont nip it in the butt now, then he wont have a very Fun future ahead of him! Best of luck!

Answer 9

perhaps you could go to his school and discuss your worries with his principle,eventually(well,should be the case),the school is going to wonder why he's having so many days off! The parents involved aer'nt doing the child any favours by keeping him home,infact they're just holding him back on learning.

Answer 10

Doesn't sound like proper "parenting" to me ... unless something is wrong with him that you don't know about. I would suggest (before you go poking your noses into this) that you talk with the child (the 10 year old) about "why" he gets to miss school. Try it. You might find what you're looking for.