There's this girl I work with that is a lesbian. Now, I want to make this perfectly clear: I have NO PROBLEM with someone who is gay or lesbian. Anyway, I am a straight woman and this female co-worker keeps saying things to me like you're pretty and I love you. Most people would take that as a joke, right? Well, I thought it was a joke at first but she was dead serious when she said those things. She's really freaking me out. How would you deal with a co-worker that did this to you?
2007-09-16 19:56:25 · 7 answers · asked by Goddess Princess Minky 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
There are lots of strategies.
Firstly you could spend all day talking about your boyfriend (or boyfriends).
You can say things like, you are a lovely girl, too bad that I am not a lesbian.
You can just be rude to her and hope she will go away.
You can complain. You have the right not to have to put up with sexual advances at work. But I think you are a nice person and don't want to say anything mean or hurtful to her.
Maybe talk to another colleague who can ask her to stop or talk to her directly.
I once was working with a guy who kept trying to hit on to me (and I am not gay). He was a friend. I didn't know what to say.
Good luck, I hope it all works out.
2007-09-16 20:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by flingebunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want to be friends. That you don't believe in having personal relationships at work.
Take her aside - where others can't overhear.
Rephrase something like this: "I know I may be overreacting - I thought you were just teasing me, but in any case, this is starting to make me uncomfortable so I need to talk to you. I am flattered that you think I am attractive, but I need to be able to focus on my job when I am at work. I am starting to feel uncomfortable when you compliment me and I don't want this to interfere with our working relationship. Do you think you could change your interaction with me?"
(Okay, I'm tired the end of that is REALLY awkward and needs to be changed ... but you get the idea I hope!)
2007-09-16 20:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by tigglys 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
play dumb. whatever she says or does, don't think too much about it or try to figure out her motives. just do your job and whenever she's around, be non-chalant and project an image that shows how you don't take things too personally - even if you're affected. she's a woman - she's perceptive so she'll get the point and leave you alone.
2007-09-16 20:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's called sexual harassment. Anything that makes you uncomfortable and is inappropriate in a work setting...
Speak to her about her behavior. If that doesn't work, report her. Documentation or corroboration are helpful.
2007-09-16 20:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by soundproof 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to be friends and you have nothing against her.Don't be freaked out,she might take that as an insult.
2007-09-16 20:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by nickson faction 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your not in the union that's gay talk meaning your not gay.
NYPR69
2007-09-17 11:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make her very clear that you cant treat her more than a friend
2007-09-17 00:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by VG! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋