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Is it possible to be physically and mentally attracted to someone else when you're already in a relationship with another person?
Is it also wrong for someone to feel like this?
Please give a detailed answer.

2007-09-16 19:54:24 · 17 answers · asked by dilligaf7485 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

17 answers

Its totally possible, and its not wrong as long as you do not act on these feelings. If you are truely uncertian about ur current relationship or very interested in this other guy make sure you are honest with both parties so no one gets hurt. Some time u find the one thats right for you when ur in a relationship already. BUT some times it is just a crush...becareful that u know the difference!

2007-09-16 20:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

As I see it you can be attracted to someone that way. But I think that if you are then there is alot of something missing from your relationship if you can easily be mentally and physically attracted to someone else so easily. I wouldn't necessarily say its wrong as you haven't took the step to make the relationship with that other person more than just an attraction. But if you started kissing them or making out or something. Then there would be some real issues there. Because then you have entered into the cheating zone of things.

2007-09-16 20:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0 0

Uhh, hello? Do you not live in the World? The majority of relationships that break up are due to the fact that one of the couple fell for someone else.

Each situation is different and the reason you feel for someone else is because you aren't happy and content with your current relationship. If you were, you wouldn't even be looking elsewhere (even if you don't think you are).

Sometimes though, people just want the excitement of something new and then want what they had originally.

It will be up to you to figure out where you stand and then make a decision based on that.

Sorry i can't help you futher, but that is a complex question to answer without knowing the full facts of the situation or you as a person.

I wish you the best of luck!!

2007-09-16 20:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Guggi 4 · 0 0

It depends... are you attracted because this is your way of checking out of your current relationship? Ask yourself if your current relationship is waning and be honest! It could be that your current relationship has run it's course and you need to move on.

Otherwise, if you consider yourself a moral person, i would avoid any temptation and limit all contact with this person as much as possible. How many times have relationships been devestated because people play with fire and then are surprised they got burned? "oh it just happened," or "one thing led to another," etc. In situations like that, it wasn't an accident.

Personally I don't think humans are naturally monogamous. In fact I remember reading somewhere that monogomy is actually a cultural minority and that most cultures, at least before western civilization imposed it's "morals" on the rest of the world were polygamous, not to be confused with polygyny.

2007-09-16 20:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by chicagoshooter 2 · 0 0

It's definitely not WRONG, you can't control your feelings or be condemned for them. You need to sit down and evaluate whether the feelings are stronger for the person you're attracted to or the person you're dating. Sometimes people start getting attracted to others and it makes them realize that their feelings for their significant other have drifted and they need to go on without that person. Look at the person you're becoming attracted to and try to picture yourself in a relationship with him/ her. Would it be a good relationship? Can you picture having sex with him/ her? Think about whether you think it would be better or worse than what you have now. So to answer your question, yes it's possible, and no it's not wrong. As long as you dont act on it, because cheating IS wrong.

2007-09-16 20:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by jodirw28 1 · 0 0

Yes.
No.

Despite people's opinion, there is not one single person for everyone. Based on your own personal opinions of the type of person you find attractive, if you live in a city of say, 500,000, there's probably 1200 people you would be compatible with (based on presuming you're a man interested in a woman, or a woman interested in a man, which cuts the population down to 1/2, then presuming, of the 250,000 people left, only 1/2 of 1% are compatible with you, that's 1200 people.)

It's not wrong to feel attraction to another even if you're in a relationship. It simply means you find other people attractive.

Most people either have not realized or are unaware that biologically, human beings are not monogamous. We tend to choose to go that way but biologically and physiologically we are designed to have multiple partners.

Male semen has a component in it similar to spermicide. But it only works against sperm from other men. Why would such a component be there unless it was commonplace for women to have multiple men having sex with them? The spermicidal component would generally try to attack and kill the other men's sperm so that his would have a better chance of impregnating the woman and thus allowing his genes to continue.

So there is nothing wrong with being attracted by others, it's quite normal. It's just that in our (romantic) relationships with other people it's usually frowned upon.

2007-09-16 20:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by Paul R 7 · 0 0

I don't think it's wrong to feel that way. You know womens feelings change during time. Sometimes it can lead to others things if you don't have control over your feeling and being very prepared of what situation you're getting ready to put yourself through. Meaning good or bad this is really a generic question at the end you have to think about whats right for you and what makes you happy. you can be attracted to someone physically-( use of your body) or mentally-(use of your mind) DON'T LET A GUY GET EITHER THATS HOW WOMEN GET HURT,DISPPOINTED, LACK OF TRUST, your MIND,BODY,SOUL is yours take pride in it c/ no one will love you like you love your self. think about that. he is in a relationship with someone else and it really doesnt matter have respect and morals for yourself- go with the flow have fun it just a experience just dont lets your self get attacted that what he wants.. Professional speaking

2007-09-16 20:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Physical and mental attractions to others happen all the time. It's a part of human nature. I don't even think that it's wrong be be attracted to someone else. Just don't act on it.

2007-09-16 20:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by SoulDawg 4 UGA 6 · 2 0

Anything is possible, we're all humans. However, I kinda don't agree with the mental attraction. Reason being that that's a feeling YOU are allowing. For example, I have a boyfriend, and of course I see other guys as attractive but I wouldn't allow them to get into my mind so that I'm starting to be lured toward them. I won't indulge in too deep of conversation or anything like that or even put myself in a situation to be even friends. But if you are feeling this for another person and you're already involved, then your feelings aren't truly genuine to your partner. I have a bf I have been with for almost 3 years and I'm an attractive woman who gets her fair share of being hit on my gd looking guys,,,,I shine it. I'm completely happy with who I'm with and I don't even give those guys a second thought or glance. I'm totally fixated on my boyfriend. He completes me.

2007-09-16 20:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you are attracted so much to this other person while you're with someone else you have to ask yourself, are you realy with the right guy?

Wish you all the luck in the world

xxx

2007-09-16 19:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0 0

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