She was a former co-worker that I had interest in (she seemed equally interested, but we never talked about it) and we've reconnected recently on line. She's married and I'm single. We went out for lunch and it was really nice, but it felt like a date I would go on with a single woman. She said she would like to make these lunches a regular thing, every week.
Okay, I'm attracted to her, so I'm not sure if I'm reading this right. I need perspective. Is this an innocent friendship? I mean, given that she's married and I'm single... it seems awfully dangerous to me, for both of us.
*I was married before and my wife cheated after we became so distant. It broke my heart, but I understood she was lonely. We divorced, in a mutual arrangement. I'm worried that I may not be giving her enough credit, but I'm also worried that she's pursuing an affair.
What do you think her intentions are by what you've read - I'm not interested in sermons about fidelity... I can make up my own mind on that.
2007-09-16 19:24:16 · 4 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has to have something on her mind if she wants to see a single man every week. If you were her husband, would you approve? I think not. If she is cheating on her husband with you, then she is no better than your ex cheating wife. How can you have any respect for her? If I were you, I would be wondering how many other men she was sleeping with, and watching my back constantly.
You deserve better. Why would you want to play second fiddle to any woman's husband, when there are so many attractive and interesting single women out there?
2007-09-16 19:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually a married woman that has recently ran into a guy I went to high school with. Apparently he was "crazy over me" back in our school days, and even though I've recently found this out I still asked if he wanted to catch up. I have no intentions on an affair, and I would meet with him weekly if we became good friends. One of my best friends is also male, we used to date, I talk to him on the phone at least once a day if not see him. It all depends on the type of people in my opinion, if you're still attracted I'd say that's not a good sign. But, you can never have too many good people as friends male or female.
2007-09-16 19:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by I_wanna_know_it_all 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, dude, she is married and may be she needs a little fun on the side, a NSA friendship, are you ready for it? She may be needing just a fling, she likes you and has suggested to make this dates often.
2007-09-16 19:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by smoothguy008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she is interested in you then she will have to get a device tel her that with out it that there is no relationship if there is one at all.
i have many good friends that are women and i have no interest in them other then as friends and there partners have been jealous a little bit in the past but after a while they know nothing was going on with us other then just friends but at times i can get closer to them then there partners and that has been problems at time with them.
just be honest with her and see what happens
2007-09-16 19:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋