I have a 4 and a 3 year old. They are well-behaved. I just don't know whats wrong with me. They get on my nerves so bad, with every little thing they do, I can't seem to get over it. I used to feel so close to them, now I just feel like I can't get away from them enough. What is wrong with me?
2007-09-16 19:17:06 · 20 answers · asked by Hicktown girl66 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Stay at Home mom by the way.
I just realized this tonight after the 3 year old had vomitting and diareah ... everywhere ... and the 4 year old peed the bed ....
2007-09-16 19:26:37 · update #1
Take it easy on yourself! There is nothing wrong with you. Everyone needs a break and by the sounds of things you don't get much of one.? Cut yourself a break too! One of your children is sick and as exhursted as you are, you had to change some sheets which doesnt help the cause either!
Having two children close together can be a task and a half (i have a 2 y.o and a 3 y.o.) so there is another issue within itself right there! Time for time out for mummy! Do you have a strong support network? Are there friends or family you would feel comfortable to leave your little ones with so you can go out in the fresh air, go for a walk, have your hair done, have a wander in the shops and go for a coffee with a trusted dear friend? These things can help with switching your perspective and mindset into a more postive one. It helps you to be a great mum when you are feeling great. Hang in there, see if you can get a some time out on a regular basis and maybe if it is an option get hubby (?! or significant other??) the mind the children while you go out for a quiet drink with a girlfriend. Look after yourself in between looking after everyone else.
2007-09-16 20:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by kelstar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depression, maybe? Call up one of those parenting hotlines that will keep you anonymous -- it's probably not the kids, but something else that's going on in your life, and the kids just don't fight back like whatever that Something Else is.
But if you keep doing this, you will probably mess up your kids.
You know that, and you know you are having a hard time. So, try and talk to someone in real life who can help you sort through your feelings. You may need to take a break, with some daycare or babysitting. THIS IS OK! Every mom needs a break now and then!
But please, please get some help. It might actually be something that's really easy to fix.
Edit: Just read your extra details -- yes, that makes it especially tough. They are sick, and you might be coming down with something too, and there are all these icky jobs, and it gets to be too much. Take time to breathe a little, have a cup of something warm and soothing, and then get back in there and do what you have to do. BUT do call someone to listen to you. You may really need a break.
2007-09-16 19:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Madame M 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Before you decide there is something wrong with you...check to see if you need some rest and some relief. Do you take care of your children alone or do you ask for help when you need it?
You might be caught in the storm of the moment, but you may need some adult companionship to assist your to see things in a different light. Try the parks where there are other mothers to compare problems with...while you watch your children play without messing up the house. You might want to get trade days to watch kids one day a week and have another mother watch your kids one day a week. That moment that is all yours can really be worth the extra work for one day. And your children will have different input and get out of their rut as well.
NV the ancient one
2007-09-17 02:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by NITA E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably overwhelmed since one is sick. Try finding time just for you. Warm long baths, girls night out, movies by self, dinners with hubby and the kids have babysitter. Things that do not involve the kids. You sound like you are depressed which probably stems from being at home with the kids every day. Try a part time job, even if its a couple of evenings a week when the hubby can watch the kids.
2007-09-16 19:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a break - a little time for yourself, to recoup your energy & repair your outlook on life. Can you get a few hours away?
Those 'up all night with a sick kid for 3 days running' weeks are always hard.
If you can't get actual time away, give yourself permission to do the bare minimum for a week. Food, clothes, basic necessary cleaning only. Spend the rest of the time playing with the kids, doing things that make all of you laugh & smile & hug.
2007-09-17 03:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are experiencing burn out that can be common. However............ the level of that burn out determines if you need professional help with depression or if you just need a break. Its ok to take a break. Being a full time mother is a full time job. It takes from you on a constant basis. You loose the ability to take adult time for yourself. You feel like you dont have any time for yourself. THAT is normal. On the other hand keep in mind that things are going to get even more complicated. I mean right now they are sick, or hungry, or tired, or cranky........ simple but time consuming problems. Wait till they get closer to their teens and they can mentally process ways to try to out smart you. Trust me its coming. Or the questions about sex and life and drugs and all the rest. Its a long road ahead. Take time out for yourself, focus on yourself, be selfish for a day and do what you love to do and then nap. If this continues for an extended period of time then you need to see a professional. Good luck.
2007-09-16 22:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by Kerrick C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way at times Today my 2 girls had lice I was taking them out of there hair my 9 month old son was crying then one wanted me to flat iron her hair she was begging I started yelling nearly in tears of stress. I totally understand u I think you need to find some time for yourself Its stressful being a stay at home mom Get a sitter and take time for yourself Counseling would be a good idea as well . I just think you are fustrated not that u really dont want them seek help Good luck to you
2007-09-16 19:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are probably way to overwhelmed. Maybe you are even a little depressed. Do you have anyone that can watch the kids for a day? You should just get out by yourself or with your hubby or a girlfriend and just relax and forget everything for a while. I would try talking to a doctor in case you are a little depressed. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-16 19:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by Christen T 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 16:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by chatan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult. They're very small children.
You're their mother, not their best friend, of course you get sick of the sight of them now and again. You're allowed to be, nobody took your right to boredom and frustration away when you gave birth.
Do you have some time on your own each week? It's important that you get them some good trusted childcare and get yourself doing something for you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2007-09-16 19:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by snaffle 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋