What's your opinion on marriage?

Question

I'm 25, and I see some girls from my high school class that have gotten married. Based on my evaluations, I doubt 75% of them are mature enough to handle marriage. A lot of them, I think married because one partner has money or because they have family that think people should have certain things done at a certain age. I don't know, maybe it's a small-town thing.

Is this why most marriages in America turn for the worst?

Answer 1

I think that its wrong to marry people because of money or other intrests you may have because marrage is a serious thing that you really need to commit to and if you cannot do that than why marry ? You can't be playing with people's feelings thats really not nice.

Answer 2

My opinion in marriage.. is the best. I believe i´m still too young lol, but of course I would like to get married.

Marriage is great (even with the problems and hard times, headaches , etc if both love each other and are there for each other no matter what) the fact that you believe that they are not mature enough... I believe that is something only they can decide.

Of course there are times when they get married just because they want to, or because it is the next step, or because of family pressures.. i mean there can be thousands of reasons of why they get married.. but the only way a marriage can actually and really work is if both are there all the way.

Marriage takes a lot of things into consideration, and it means that there are going to be a lot of thing you may dislike of the other person (the way the eat, the fact that they leave the bathroom all wet or leave the dirt clothes in bed...) but the fact that even with thst ugly stuff, you can still work things out!

Answer 3

I think marriage is a special vow and commitment that two people take in good faith. I think marriage is a special thing for only those who are serious should take part in. Don't get me wrong marriage is a big step in any relationship and is a bigger risk then anything. I think so many marriages fell in America because marriage is not as respected and as serious like it is in other countries. So many people marry because they have a child together or young people right out of high school who think they know what love really is. I think if people did not marry for stupid things like money and popularity the divorce rates would drop at least 50% or more. I also say marriage is a big risk because how can anyone be sure they want to spend the rest of with one person. That is a big thing, who knows if "you" want to sleep with the same person night after night, and come home to the same person everyday. I also think marriages fell because of the huge amount of substances abuse and physical abuse on women kids and men.

Answer 4

I believe thats part of it. But we are all still raised that you're nothing if you don't have someone, or that there is something wrong with you if you're not married or in a relationship. I have a lot of married friends that are unhappy and I've asked most of them "when you were walking down the isle did you know you were doing the wrong thing and did it anyway" all of them said yes. I think women are more in love with the huge wedding and that perfect day that they aren't really taking the time to think about who they are marrying. And guys just don't stand up and say anything at all. Better to be profoundly embarrassed by ending an up coming wedding then 5 or 10 years down the road sitting in court in a bitter divorce and custody battle.

Answer 5

Wow it's like you were reading my mind. I just recently found out that 3 girls I went to high school with just got married and they're all 20. It made me sit back a think, why are they getting married so young. I'm happy for them and all but the reality is that their marriages won't even last. This just makes me think that these are the same girls who a couple of years ago were dating and breaking up with their boyfriends every other day, and now they think they're mature enough to get married.

I just think that people should wait and truly think things through before they get married especially young people. Don't just get married because you're head over heels in love or because it's a marriage of convenience, you have to think about the long term and everything that marriage entails. This is probably one of the reason we have such a high divorce rate in this country.

Answer 6

Married for 28 years and I am still looking for the institution part. It's a partnership, I never did understand why anti-marriaige people decided it's an insitition. The reson so many marraiges fail is do to the fact that you have so many selfish people who are unwilling to give up their right to be selfish. everyone wants to take and no one wants to give. I'm all for it, but I do also agree with you that if your not mature enough, you shouldn't be married. your still young and you still have a lot in life to explore. be your own person for another 5 maybe 7 years. then start looking at finding a mate. Life comes at you pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you might miss it.

Answer 7

I married young too. But back when my husband and I married we knew that we were going to be together for life.
Today you are right , young couples marry for all the wrong reasons. immature, money and pregnant . No its not just a small town thing its happening all around us. I would LOVE to sit and talk to some of these young women who want to be married and have not thought about the rest of there lives. Men will always be here and looking for a good woman, a woman can be dogged by a man and not ever want to marry one, or will marry out of revenge. Having a baby does not make you a mama, and ready for marriage. Please STOP and think about what you are giving up for this man and what he is giving up for you. That's why men cheat. they don't get their run out.

Answer 8

I think you're close. There are basically two things you get from marriage that you can't get either without formalities or through a contract basis: (1) Government approval and (2) church approval. Everything else that a man and a woman could otherwise get from marriage could be handled either by signing contracts or just doing whatever it is they would do, whether or not they have a marriage license.

People often get married for the wrong reasons.

Answer 9

Marriage can be wonderful, but u both have to be committed. It can't be half assed. I don't recommend it, but hey, to each his own. IT can work, but it is work. U should be happy to work at it, it shouldn't be a chore. Yeah, so if UR not into it, or are for the wrong reasons, if things dont change during ur marriage, it will be doomed. Its not a small town thing, its a societal thing. If ur not married by a certain age, people think there's something wrong with u.

Answer 10

I want to get married, but not to have a husband. I just want to experience having a wedding. I might not be mature enough to realize the beauty of marriage, so that's why I'll wait and see what happens. But for right now I think in the future I'll be fine without a husband.