As a guy, sometimes I would ask? Why get married if you can have sex with girls around and even get them pregnant?
"I can have all the sex i want and not have a single responsibility?!"
If you have a daughter whom you love very dearly and she's growing up very fast.
...of course, you want her to have a good/happy life and a happy married life as well.
....but Divorce Legal Separation & Annulmenthere here and there is what you see.
2007-09-16 17:52:53 · 22 answers · asked by jace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think so.
I think marriages fail, because most people these days aren't exactly sure what love is. They get married, not knowing what they're getting themselves into, and not knowing the person they're marrying as well as they think. Plus, when most people get married, they think that's an automatic ticket to controlling their spouse. It's definitely not.
2007-09-16 18:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Shotgun marriages" still exist, so in that sense, I would say at least partially yes. If idiot kids are getting knocked up and then married, there's a great chance that they won't stick it out for their whole lives. Of course, this is only possible because divorce is so much more permissible now. Now I don't think the high divorce rate is a GOOD thing or anything, but I'd far rather people to be able to leave abusive, unhealthy, or [permanently] dissatisfying relationships if they so choose, rather than being trapped for life.
2007-09-17 00:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Marj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not. There has always been premarital sex. Greeks, Romans, Middle ages, Renaissance, etc. ON and ON throughout history there has been sex without marriage.
The increase in failed marriage has to do with the availability to get a divorce. Long ago it was darn near impossible.
2007-09-17 01:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe maybe not
in todays age as you say there is a lot of compedition
lost of people putting out and giving up
However the atttude that generally prevails is that
a woman who has been around is good for one thing
Its not the sex its the avaliability
In the days of yore men sought a woman
who could help them and share their life
these days due to the nature of our
entertainment and society young persons
are taught life is short and enjoy it while you can
Doesnt really leave much room for long term stability
in that mindset
The best thing you can do for your daughter is teach
her... I mean sit down talk to her about her life and
the values that you see
Explain what men will do to get her
and tell her you just want her to be happy
Sometimes you just have to trust that they
will do the right thing and hope for the best
Just make sure she gets a good education
and values herself
the rest is up to her
2007-09-17 01:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Warriorpoet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL u could place the blame of failed marriages these days on alot of things not just premarital sex.
its different influences, like TV for instance it makes things like cheating come across as sexy or good
also the fact that these days more things are excepted, we have a low morality...think of teenage pregnancies..its not frowned about as much as it use to in fact government (in my country anyway) made it so that they can continue with their education yeah its a good thing in some cases but u must wonder if that doesn't just encourage such things more
2007-09-17 01:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, or if it is very little. I think that the prevailing attitude in today's society is that if something is even remotely hard give up. Look at are schools, we lower the standards so that way the dumb kid does not have to feel bad. In kids sporting events they have done away with scores because losing is hard on kids. Giving up on a marriage is just a natural consequence of teaching are kids in the name of self esteem it is ok to be failures.
2007-09-17 00:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by satcomgrunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A resounding YES! and studies have shown so. Lets face it, people have always been people, so bad decisions in marriage have always existed but societal conditions were such that people were willing to put in more effort to make it work; nowadays, you have a minor fight and it's, "You're not the person I married! I want a divorce!"
Hey, the Bible was right all along, whodathunkit?
2007-09-17 00:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by abby j 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all the failed marriages but don't believe it's only cause of pre-marital sex. You get married for different reasons which is love and not to just say i'm going to have a baby so let me get married or otherwise.
2007-09-17 00:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YEESS!!!!!! im glad you ask.... when you get married you have nothing to look forward to anymore...all the excitement is already gone...
so why get married? my point exactly...once you have sex wit a person there's no point in getting married. Its best to wait and have something to look forward to, knowing you waited for the right guy and the one you'd marry...the one you'd have kids with
if you have premarital sex you will be used to havin sex for pleasure only, not for kids....which is also a very important issue when it comes to a marriage.
2007-09-17 01:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by MQ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not premarital sex that's causing it. There's been premarital sex since the concept of marriage was created.
It's the unrealistic expections people have on what marriage should be.
2007-09-17 00:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋