Hi all. so i found out im about 6 weeks pregnant. I am going to be having an abortion ( i just need to schedual it lol) I am just not sure if i should tell my ex (who would be the father). What do u think should i tell him or no????
Please dont tell me ur opinions on abortion!!! Just answer my question. Ive made up my mind. thankyou!!
2007-09-16 17:28:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, you can at least give him that.
2007-09-16 17:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that he has a right to know about his child... saying that be ready for him to either accept or reject the abortion. Y'all will need to be able to sit down and talk... (with a friend present if things ended nasty) not just a 5 second "Hey, you fathered a kid, I'm having an abortion BYE!" I also think that you need to tell him BEFORE the abortion takes place, it would be cruel, in my opinion, to tell him after everything had happened. But this is just my 2 cents take it or leave it. I wish you the best of luck through a very emotional time!
2007-09-16 17:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Krys 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i seriously dislike how some people are saying stuff like "flush a baby down the toilet" if you really think about it, how cold are you. why are you killing an innocent child?? and i also dislike the "lol" it's not something you should be laughing about. why don't you just give it up for adoption. at least they'll be able to have a good life and good parents. if you get the abortion you'll be left wondering what your child would look like, what would have it been like to have a child, will they be like you. the guilt will eat you up inside. PLEASE don't kill your baby
2007-09-16 17:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by lolagirl 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he's an ex, it's no longer his concern. You'll only get into more stress when you'll already have enough dealing with the abortion. Depends on whether you'd reckon he'd support your decision.
2007-09-16 17:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
OK first of all I'm not against Abortion for some cases i don't think people should use it as Birth control but anyways Yes you need to tell your Ex he has every right to know what if he wants you to have the baby it's a part of him you could have it then let him have custody i know you don't want to have it but still he should know you should give him a word about this i know you guys are broken up but if you guys had Sex you cared about him at one point in your life let him put his opinion in this as well
2007-09-16 17:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
No, I don't think you should. Sometimes, ignorance is bliss. Let him have that and continue on with your life.
edit- I asked my husband if he was in this situation would he want to be told. He asked if by being told would he be included in the decision or be able to change the out come? I said that, no, that being informed was all that you would get to know or do. He said, "No, I wouldn't want to know. What would telling me accomplish besides just making me feel bad about something I can't change."
2007-09-16 17:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Since the father is already your ex, telling him should depend on what sort of a relationship you have now & how you think he'll react.
2007-09-16 17:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
IT takes two to tango. He was there, and that is just as much his dna as it is yours. That child is just as much his, as yours, and the reality is, you are not anymore the parent than he is. You share equally. However, he ultimately doesn't get to decide what you do with your life, but yeah. Those are my thoughts. Also he ought to know, because maybe next time he'll think twice about sex... Just a thought.
2007-09-16 17:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by rayraylay 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Flushing a baby down the toilet must not be easy. Why tell your ex if your having a abortion, I do not see what is accomplished by telling him, other than to punish him or make him feel bad..So do what you want and keep it to yourself. Good luck...
2007-09-16 17:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you said: "i just need to schedule it....LOL" like it's something funny ! this is what this world has come to....seriously...
anyways definitely tell your ex, he needs to know there was something that was part of him in this world....
I hope you don't do it cause i'm completely against that...but good luck anyways....
2007-09-16 18:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by MQ 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i hope you know your murdering an innocent life here.
and the 'lol' scheduling thing, think about it before you do. seriously, it's YOUR fault you got pregnant, not your babies.
and why in the hell wouldn't you tell him? he helped make it, he might as well know. maybe he has an opinion, maybe HE actually WANTS the baby.
i think you really need to reavaluate your whole situation. sure, i'm possibly getting thumbs down for this statement, but really, how does murdering even compare?
2007-09-16 17:34:37 · answer #11 · answered by BAMF. 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋