im a sophmore..ok, im dating a girl named ashley. she lives about 20 minutes away and in a different school. she's a junior. but me and her are always fighting about the gayest things, like twice a night atleast. and my feelings for her are basicly gone, and as they went down, the feelings i have for this other girl that lives short walking distance from me, same school, and is in 8th grade named rae have gone up. alot. and she likes me also. but she also likes this other guy named mike a bit more than she likes me.. i want to break up with ashley, but i don't at the same time... like i want to because we are always fighting aout the stupidest things and cause i want to go out with rae, but i don't because i don't want to throw away what me and ashley have/had..and im not even sure if she would pick me anyway.. she likes me 1-10 about a 6-7ish. and she likes mike about 8.. now that was about 2 weeks ago. It sounds like a small thing, but its really bugging me.. any advice?
2007-09-16 16:32:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make a decison about your relationship with Ashley and stick to it! If you are fighting twice a night it sounds like you are staying with her to say you have a girlfriend, not because you are good together.
The other girl should really have nothing to do with this until you make a decision to break up with Ashley. Otherwise it is like mental cheating. Don't be one of those guys that flit from one relationship to another or just stay in one until something better comes along. Start learning now to commit your interest to the relationship at hand and if it isn't working out end it before moving on to finding someone new!
2007-09-16 16:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are fighting with Ashley all the time about all the stupid little things, then your relationship may very well be doomed to fail anyway. So by breaking up with her the only thing that you would be throwing away would be all the time that you waste fighting with her while you really want to be with someone else.
That being said, if you really like Rae then you should flirt with her confidently. Make it obvious that you are a great catch and at the same time show her that she is a very special girl. Believe me, she wants to feel special. As far as Mike is concerned, listen to what she says about him, but don't be concerned. He is no competition to you. You will see that her infatuation for him will pass as she begins to see how confident, cool and attentive you are, and she will not forget how you make her feel when you're around. Let her know your interested, then let the chips fall where they may. Good luck!
2007-09-16 16:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Hypnotic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like you don't want to be alone. What your feeling is normal. (no one really likes to be alone) But it's not fair to the girl your with right now to string her along. Tell her how you feel. Maybe she's been thinking of how you both fight and it's bugging her too. There's a possibility that you two can work things out and have a better relationship as a result. Then maybe you'll stop thinking of the other girl!
2007-09-16 16:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by figuring out what you want.
Ignoring Rae for a moment, do you or do you not want to keep dating Ashley? If yes, then you shouldn't be focusing on other girls. If no, then you owe it to her to break up with her. If you're not happy together, then an amicable breakup would be best for everyone.
As to Rae.. if you decide to break up with Ashley, DO THAT FIRST....and then ask Rae out. Even if she likes Mike better, that doesn't mean much if he never asks her out..
2007-09-16 16:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by William S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also a soph. i think u should stay with Ashley. sometimes when you feel angry at a chick your mind can play tricks on you and you start to get drawn toward others. I'm assuming you'll get your drivers lisence sometime this year. so stick it out until then. the 8th grader is a bit young 4 u any way. if u break up with ashley 4 rae, u'll regret it.
2007-09-24 16:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by damoos91 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep ashley but don't hang out / talk to her as much and the stupid fights will probably stop. at the same time, hook up with rae and don't tell her about ashley. then juggle them both for awhile and drop whichever one isn't working out. make up some excuse for being busy. like you joined some kind of club.
2007-09-16 16:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kenrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about this other chick for a second. you sound unhappy in this relationship and if you dont have feelings for her anymore why do you continue to date her. the longer you wait the more it will hurt when you break up. its also not fair to either of you if you keep a relationship going when its dead. as for the other girl does it matter if u go out with her or not? its not like you need a gf to keep living life maybe you should stay friends with this person and remain single for a bit before you go jumping into things.
somethin to think about...goodluck!
2007-09-24 14:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 07:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by uhlman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just got yourself an enemy dude, not a girlfriend. stay away from her. make love, not war. look for other girl that you will surely lover and loves you in return. peace man...
2007-09-24 16:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have them both!
secretly is fine but maybe you could persuade them to accept each other
after all they should be great full you even like them ?!
2007-09-24 05:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋