ok I got my g/f pregent and Im 16 and shes 17 she tlod her mom already and now i need to tell my dad wat is the best to tell him with out him kicking me out or nething cuz im supposed to go to college for track and stuff help me plz
2007-09-16 15:43:25 · 20 answers · asked by gibby2434 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, you can kiss college goodbye. I hope you have a good job and extensive health insurance. Both familys will hate each other. You'll probably end up paying child support for 18 years. The child could end up in foster homes. On the bright side, Walmart is having a sale on diapers, 1000 for $1000.
Talk her into an abortion and fast..
2007-09-16 15:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Get a baby present and give it to your dad with a card that says hello Grandpa. Seriuosly get straight with him right off the bat. It may seem like the hardest thing to do, but be a man and face it. The hardest part comes when the baby is born and you got to be the man. So now I have to ask this, Do you have the stuff to do the right thing and take care of this child. It will mean working to support this baby while at the same time pursuing your education. Being there for this child and helping to raise this child. To make this child your world.
Sorry if this seems harsh, but I believe if your man enough to make a baby then your man enough to take care of this baby. I got my girlfriend pregant and didn't run, was it easy no. I did it though and got married. And have a 17 year old daughter who is the light of my world and makes be proud I'm her papa. No I wasn't a teenager, but it didn't make it any easier being an adult either without a job. Good Luck with your Dad and being a respondsible young man.
2007-09-16 23:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by gonecrazytoday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that, except I was the girlfriend.
It's very scary, but life does go on. Write down everything you want to say. In the heat of the moment you may forget something important.
I would try to have a supportive adult present. Maybe a friends parent or a school counselor.
I don't know how far a long your girlfriend is, but as one other person said, abortion is an option. I chose to place my baby for adoption and it's haunted me ever since.
There will be no easy answer. You really did screw up. If you choose to have this baby and raise it yourselves you can kiss college goodbye. You will be too busy at a low paying job just to scrape by and don't count on your parents to raise your child. They be willing, but in time they will resent the position you put them in.
2007-09-16 22:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lonelywife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Go to him and say dad I need to talk, tell him that you have made a big mistake and need his help, tell him that you want to take responsibility for your future child and with out getting an education there will be no hope for the child or yourself. Ask him to help you that you have no where else to turn. When doing this look him straight in the eyes. If he says to get out then you have to ask your girlfriends mother if she will let you live with her and her daughter, then you will have to get a job to help with bills and try to go to local college to get a degree so that you can make a better life for your family. If she won't then either you will have to give up your rights to your child and continue on to college like you planed. I hope you make the right choice, it's up to you so do some serious thinking about it. God bless and good luck...
2007-09-16 22:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok since your GF mom knew about it, maybe try coaxing your GF and her parents to meet at your house and break the news to your parents. It may seem very kamikaze but remember that you have already put yourself in this situation and this would be the only way to talk and discuss amongst the parents on how to handle this situation. Afterall with the presence of the girls parents I believe will not make your parents jump and make wild gestures at you or kill you (but be prepared when your GF parents have left). Get your GF parents to do the talking, get your GF parents to say something like, OK our kids have taken their relationship to another level and now she is pregnant... (what happens next only god knows) . Then after all the whats! and the why?! and the occasionally "I'm gonna kill you!" let your parents and her parents do the talking. Good Luck!
2007-09-16 23:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by bartongue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I will be honest with you I is gonna be difficult for you to tell your dad, but he needs to know so he can support you, do not let this stop your life it will make you and your girlfriend stronger and you both can go to college still keep your plans, I will not be easy, but do not let a child stop you, still be the best parent and boyfriend with a college degree, this is all from experience, I got pregnant at the age of 17 started my senior year in highschool and stayed in school and went to college and graduated and I am very proud of myself and I made it through and you both can too, yes my parents where disapointed, but prove them wrong by standing up and finish what you started.
2007-09-16 22:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by hotsexyveronica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I no a lecture isn't the best thing for you right now, but this could have been prevented if you had used condoms, or if your partner had used birth control. Anyways, that's the past now. There isn't really a way to soften the blow when you tell your dad, all you have to do is tell him and hope for the best. Are you planning to keep the baby? If not, you could tell him that it's going to be adopted etc...
2007-09-16 22:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is 17 and you are 16 it may be statutory rape. Go to your dad right away. Tell him what she did to you against your will. Explain the details. Get a lawyer, and maybe your dad and the lawyer can help you out of this totally screwed up situation. I am sorry she took advantage of your youth and innocence. Tell your dad NOW! This is what dads and moms are for!
2007-09-16 22:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by John D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's why you shouldn't have sex until you married. But I still have advice.
1. No abortions. That's basically murder, even if it is legal.
2. Adoption
3. If she decides to keep the baby you should help her raise it. One of the hardest things for a mother to do is to raise a child alone.
4. If she keeps the child you should get married eventually.
That's a very tough situation you're in but don't give up. Just support your child and girl friend.
Good luck.
2007-09-16 22:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your girlfriend how she broke the news. No matter how you tell him, he's still probably going to be pissed. Parents don't stay mad forever though. Remember that.
Stay in school, take care of your girlfriend and prepare yourself for that baby the best that you can. It probably wouldn't hurt to get a job if you don't already have one. Keep your grades up and do the best that you can at track. Hopefully you can get a scholarship to a good college. Good luck.
2007-09-16 22:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just bite the bullet and tell him as straightforwardly as you can. I don't think you should just blurt it out, nor should you beat around the bush much. If you try to face him like a man, and take responsibility for what you've done, I think he will respect you more than if you leave it up to the grapevine. I don't know what kind of relationship you and he have, but you might tell him that he's important to you, that you still need him, and that you're sorry.
2007-09-16 23:02:32 · answer #11 · answered by tizzoseddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋