I went to a wedding yesterday in which the bride was 7 mos pregnant and wearing a white wedding dress (and the couples' combined 3 other children made up the flower girls/ring barer) What do you think...is it really ok to wear white today regardless of the situation?
2007-09-16 15:03:11 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, it's perfectly ok. Why do you care what she wears, as long as they're happy?
2007-09-16 15:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 5⤋
In this day age, tradition is completely being thrown out the window. And to be honest, it really makes me sick. I've always been pretty old-fashioned and a white dress while one is pregnant is a BIG no-no! True, we're not in the 50's anymore and June Cleaver isn't wearing pearls and high heels while she's vacuuming, but the point is that some traditions were just MEANT to be followed. The whole reason the dress is white in the first place is to signify innocence and purity! What's pure about an extremely pregnant bride?!?
2007-09-16 16:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
fox_mapl,
To be quite honest with you Fox, these days anything goes!!! As rediculous as some things are today, her heart wishes, she was still a "Virgin" and I'm sure she's most likely faithful to the one she married. So, in all honesty she had her dream wedding!! Her children were apart of it, and so was their "unborn Child" so the rest doens't really matter when you really think about it!! I mean if you look at other things like Brittany Spears, and her really psycho ways, this wedding really makes, things seem normal in comparison to so many other things going on in the world, today!! I myself wouldn't wear a white wedding dress, if I were to get married now that I'm a mother of 4 children and 4 grandchildren. But, I would definately find something close, if I were to ever have a big wedding, that is!! I've been married 3 times, and none of them were big weddings!! I am too shy. Or was in those days anyway!! Now, I'd do anything to have a big wedding!! And to be able to wear the almond colored Specially Designed dress, that I've always dreamed to wear, would be so Awesome!! So, good for your friend, who was brave enough to get out there and feel like a "Virgin" in her white gown!! Hey, atleast she's got backbone!! I'll give her credit for that anyway's, right!! Smile!!! I do understand your being shocked at the fact that she's obviously NOT a virgin!! But, these days anything goes, honey!! That's what the world today has become!! Sad, but true!!
2007-09-16 15:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, a toughie.
Heres the history of the white wedding dress.
It was the wedding of Queen Victoria that spawned the interest and popularity of white wedding dresses as we know them today. Queen Victoria married Albert of Saxe in 1840, and wore what would then have been considered a flamboyant white gown. Of course, this did not start the tradition immediately; however, many women saw this as a statement of class and style, and copied the Queen by also getting married in white. The white wedding dress in those days had nothing to do with being virtuous - it was all about wealth. Getting married in a white, extravagant gown was a sign that you could afford to buy a dress that you would never be able to wear again because of its style and color (whites were not easy to clean in those days as they are today!
There is a bit of folklore about the color chosen as well.
All in all, it is her choice.
2007-09-16 15:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jaderae 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really do not think the whole white wedding dress really stands for what it used to. Even though they had kids it was really obvious. But women are suppose to wear white to show a sign of purity. How many women do you think are actually virgins the day of their wedding anymore? It is just not the same 'tradition' anymore.
2007-09-20 14:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society's moral standard has deteriorated to such an extent that they feel no shame anymore for being pregnant on their wedding day. White is meant for virgins not pregnant brides. It's a combination of people not wanting to judge them and they not feeling any shame. If they want to follow the rules of wedding etiquette closely, they should be wearing pink.
2007-09-17 05:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if the bride is comfortable in a white dress, then by golly she should wear it. Yes, it used to be the custom to wear white if it was your first wedding and you were a virgin. But I think those days are gone. Now I think whatever you are comfortable in, is acceptable. In fact, at some weddings, they aren't even doing the traditional wedding march. It may be just a popular song that the bride and groom both like.
2007-09-16 15:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by i2donails 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it's perfectly alright. Regardless of the situation. How many brides are walking down the aisle that are virgins?
I would bet not many. I say this with a kind spirit as to defend the pregnant who got caught...
Possible others did the same thing, but didn't get caught doing the same thing.
I am saying this also from a heart that will stand up in the front of the line for not being perfect and have actions in life my I am not that proud. I am thankful for those who did not point their fingers at me or treat me poorly.
It's o.k. wear white....or any color anyone wants.
2007-09-16 15:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by 1whowants2know 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Just because you could see the results of sex before marriage at that particular wedding doesn't mean the vast majority of other weddings don't have brides who could be avoiding white for the same reasons. At this point, white is the traditional color for brides, but it has very little to do with "purity" or a virginal state on the wedding day.
2007-09-16 15:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by detailgirl 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes, of course. Traditions have changed. If the bride wants to wear white, black, purple, or leather - it's her special day to choose.
I don't think anyone wants to go back to the days when white was a symbol of virginity and the stained bed sheets were hung out the window to prove her virginity on her wedding night.
Just enjoy the fact that you have been invited to witness and celebrate their wedding, that is quite an honor.
2007-09-16 15:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by Mystic 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
People don't hold much to tradition anymore. They wear all kinds of colors that would have been shocking years ago. Lately even first time brides with no children are wearing off white or buttercream or dresses with a colorful ribbon (red, brown, even black) around the waist!
I guess in the case of the pregnant bride, her white dress was not a symbol of purity, it was just a symbol of being married.
2007-09-16 15:07:35 · answer #11 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 9⤊ 2⤋