it takes him 10 mins to eat crackers and drink a can of pop. At home he can eat that in 2 mins? He said that he can be his self with me and wants them to think he has manners. I want the manners and him being polite to.
2007-09-16 14:48:21 · 14 answers · asked by judith s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Please tell this to your husband in a polite way. It will be a good chance for you to open communication and respect with each other.
2007-09-17 18:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal behavior for a male or female. You want to look sofisticated in front of other people, but at home with your spouse you want to be yourself. No need to put on airs. Don't worry about it. If it really bothers you a lot just ask he to show a little more manners at home. You can do the same also. He might not like the way you eat at home.
2007-09-16 14:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably recall the times when romance flew out the window, when the hidden belching no longer hid, or the private breaking of wind became the highlight of the dinner table. He has grown comfortable with you, to the point that he can adjust himself and maybe (ahem) sniff. Though I would focus on his good points while thinking "Calm blue ocean" or "Serenity Now", why not try having a date night where behavior counts. You could let him know what you want and gradually mind you, ease him into the appropriate behavior. Another idea, (this only works if you have a basement or someother room that can be designated as a 'Man Cave'. The man cave, and ONLY there, is where he can be as gross as he wants, at the table he must be on his best behavior. This works for me. My girlfriend knows that my man cave is off limits, not that she would dare step in there for fear of contamination or something. Anywho, every man needs to feel primal and be able to regress to a lower form of life at times. I hope this helps.
2007-09-16 15:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by billyboomerang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that familiarity breeds contempt.
A bit of distance and appearance needs to be reserved even between husband and wife. You are still 2 people and need to maintain some civility towards each other.
2007-09-16 17:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by whuz007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no worse than the wife who nags her husband to death about his manners, appearance and behavior every chance she gets and then publicizes them to everyone she knows and even complete strangers.
2007-09-16 17:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by steinbeck11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hah, I wish my husband could eat nice and slow around people. But it seems like your husband is just being himself when he's around you. You can tell him to slow down or something.
I think my husband just inhales his food. I'm not sure if he even chews anything. Ah!
2007-09-16 18:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by krivera_fierro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he just feels more comfortable with you. I'm not sure you can change that. I would be glad that he is obviously not comfortable around his female co-workers. That's a good sign that he's not fooling around.
2007-09-16 14:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by StormyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one: because he knows you'll still love him, even if he's a bit of a slob. If I had good man otherwise, I'd settle for his love, and not worry so much about the "slob" part :-)
2007-09-16 14:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's at home why can't he just relax. why does he have to be as uptight and uncomfortable as he is around other people with you. he's obviously comfortable with you, why change that. unless he's making a huge mess and not cleaning it up I say let things be and if he is making a mess tell him to clean up after himself. that might straighten him out.
2007-09-16 15:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rainey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and find yourself a nice superficial pretender. Good luck!
2007-09-16 15:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by dddbbb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋