this guy i like who goes to another school and is a totally different social circle then me. he likes me (he told me) but at the same time, he hooked up with a girl who goes to my school. i really don't feel comfortable with him coming to any school events since the girl he hooked up with would most likely be there and everything would be awkward. he told me about the hook-up and was concerned when i took it badly... i really want him to be able to come to events at my school, but is there any way for me to avoid a confrontation between him and her?
2007-09-16 14:31:03 · 18 answers · asked by sexychick2009 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he hooked up with her before telling me
2007-09-16 14:35:50 · update #1
by hooking up i mean making out and he did so after just meeting her... he goes to a different school and like none of our friends overlap...
2007-09-16 14:45:23 · update #2
This is what you do: you greet them when you see them, be pleasant and then sit elsewhere
2007-09-16 14:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So define "hook-up" for me then. Because I thought a hook-up was kind of a meeting, or a date or something. Did he somehow become your personal territory that she somehow violated. Is he not allowed to meet other people from your school?
Sure he told you he likes you, but did that instantly make him your betrothed? Did he get down on one knee, & offer you a ring, as well as his heart?
I think you are taking your situation with him WAY WAY WAY too serious.
Try to calm down a little, so that you can enjoy the times you share with him when he attends events at your school (btw he has a perfect right to do that regardless of you).
With time maybe the two of you will get a little more serious in your relationship. Trust will develop with time, so far you haven't had enough time for any trust to grow, so how can it be gone?
2007-09-16 14:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what this means. First of all, what does 'different social circle's means? What, is he slumming it? And who cares if he dated someone at your school.
If he was a real man, he will sheild you from the girl he dated in the past, and not cause friction for an upcoming event that should be fun. Obviously this guy is playing not only you bu this other girl. It seems like he is still talking to this other girl as much as he's talking to you. I would tell him no thanks. If he's not willing to be proud to be with you or to protect you from anything that this other girl at your school would say or do. He's not worth it then.
2007-09-16 14:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Vetty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just say go and have fun and try to keep in mind that there's nothing going on no matter if he says he likes you b/c as u said he hooked up with a girl from your school so that's going to be an awkward situation...I'd say give him a chance but if something else like this happen then just don't waste your time
2007-09-16 14:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when I lost have confidence for my ex. It replaced into executed. the element is he might have easily gotten it back, yet chosen to maintain doing the failings he replaced into doing. as though asserting sorry afterwards could make each thing ok lower back. That purely works for thus long. And marriage counseling?!? Yeah we did that. might have been too late by using then. Even the therapist hinted that divorce replaced into marvelous. have confidence is so significant. this is not any exciting and so undesirable to be in a courting without it. at times it ain't correct to the affection. I enjoyed my ex with all my heart, yet i wanted extra beneficial than that to maintain me in it.
2016-10-09 07:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by pharris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... how does his social circle differ from yours? If he's popular, so is she & you're not, then avoiding a confrontations is pretty unlikely. I fit's th other way around, then she may be too intimidated to say anything to you.
Now... I hate to break this to you, but if he likes you so much then why is he hooking up with some other chick? usually when guys like you they don't hook up with someone else. be careful with this guy. He sounds like a player.
2007-09-16 14:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if there wasn't any chemistry between him and this other girl than you shouldn't worry about confrontation. But a healthy relationship is based on trust....and if you can't trust him with other girls than that is not a good sign.
2007-09-16 14:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go hang out with alot of friends and give him the cold shoulder if you see him with the other girl. And make sure that if he talks to you with the other girl around that your friends are with you to back you up.
2007-09-16 14:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
does she still hang around with that girl? like have you seen them together recently. if not then try to forget about it. If he really was as concerned as you say he was, then he probably won't want to hurt you again.
2007-09-16 14:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is this a serious question? if he feels awkward about it he should have thought twice before cheating on you with some other girl.
2007-09-16 14:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by tatyana17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋