2007-09-16 14:30:54 · 42 answers · asked by Trillian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I'm 40 my beautiful wife will be 26. Don't listen to people who wouldn't know any better even if they DID care. Age is not a factor in the happiness of a marriage. My wife and I are happy and could care less what people say. Besides that, the fact is that men your age still have a lot of growing up to do before they can commit to a celebate, and serious relationship. I should know I was there once myself. My wife has told me that she loves the way I make her feel loved, 10 years ago I don't think I was capable of it.
2007-09-16 14:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tim F 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you need worry so much about social acceptance, as MUTUAL acceptance. As long as you two have enough in common to overcome the 15 years of age separation, I really do not think you need worry too much about what the rest of the world thinks.
I do not know how long this has been going on, but you are nearly a generation apart, so should find it hard to relate to each other in ways, and enjoy the same things. This applies to music tastes, T.V. & movies you enjoy, styles of clothing, movie stars & celebrities you prefer, your sence of history and even types of food that you go for. As long as you can overcome these & other gaps, I say go for it. Rearing children will be interesting, though, if things go in that direction, and it is what both of you want.
So, you must be very mature for your age, or he very immature (or both), or this would not have happened. At my age, (50), I could not imagine having any use for a woman less than 40, unless it were to kiss her on the forehead, pat her on the butt, and send her on her way!
2007-09-16 14:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by grapejuice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care at all. I have always dated older men and I couldn't care less what anyone else thinks about it. I am 26 and my current boyfriend is 42. We have been together for a year and we have so much fun together! If you love someone, you are attracted to them, they treat you good, you have respect for each other and you have a great time together what more could you ask for? It can be so difficult sometimes to find that. Once you get it, you don't want to let it go. It really all depends on your feelings for him. Is he worth any kind of issues that may come up because of your age difference? For me, every once in a while we will have certain disagreements that are indeed due to our age difference. But we get past it. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
2007-09-16 14:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not care about the people or social circles or anything around you...you should worry about how your life will be in the next 10 years....are you planning to have a family? do your math and find out the ages for both....you will still be full of life wanting to travel, party, socialized, throw parties and reunions at home, etc.etc. Usually a mature man, wants peace and quiet, watch TV and go to bed early. Not all of them just one by one, these is their nature.
So, think about it, are you ready to settle down and start a life like this? be honest and open with yourself, nobody else, you are the one living this life not anybody else.
If you decide to go with it, be my guest, but then don't complain about anything. What is done is done and you need to deal with it the best you can.
2007-09-16 14:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only say care about what you and he think and the heck with society.
I'm 48 and was dating a 28 yr old woman. We did break up, but not because of the age issue. I have also had dates with even younger women but realized a lack of common interests. But if the 2 of you get along, care about each other and have enough to fuel the relationship (and I don't mean sex) then the heck with anyone else... just be yourselves and be happy.
2007-09-16 14:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make to you what other people think? Is he single? Does he work? If he is divorced, find out why. Pay a private investigator and have him checked out. I have a 23 year old niece that married a 56 year old man. He looks like he is 30 and has 2 daughters that are teenagers. He makes a great living and is a stand-up guy. Go figure.
2007-09-16 14:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Tony G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 2 of you are both consenting adults. Other adults should act like adults and not judge you by your ages but by how you act and react towards each other. You should not care at all about the main stream social acceptance. If you are happy and he is happy then that is all that matters. There are plenty of happy successful couples that have a 15 year age difference and even more than that in some cases. My uncle and his wife have a 20 year age difference and it does not bother them at all. They are quite happy. He is 62 and she is 42.
2007-09-16 14:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you wont be social accepted among his crew. you will be looked at as a gold digger, dumb blonde, his trophy toy. you should care because these are the people that he will be spending and spend time with and you dont want them to constantly put you down, or disrespect you. you and he should talk and inform him about your feelings on this matter. also you need to know if your relationship with him is serious or are you just what is happening today. if not than you need to show his circle of friends that you are a real grown woman and you are here to stay. GodBless
2007-09-16 14:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is will it make u happy???if its a yes,why would other people's thoughts bother you.it shouldnt in the first place.coz these people will not make you happy.so long as you love and care for each other for real,social acceptance is out of the question.people can be very mean.and as they say u cant please everybody.if u do it right they still have something to say,if u do it wrong they still have something to say.so who cares what other people think??live your life w/o depending on other's thoughts.in a relationship, theres only one woman and one man, the people you're thinking are not included in the relationship.
2007-09-16 14:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by Cassenav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't care what anyone says!
I have never been in a relationship with an age difference, but my mom and dad were 11 years apart and they were together from the day they met, until the day he died.
In the beginning they got a lot of people telling them to end it (mainly her, because she was younger than him) but they never cared what anyone said.
Everyone is different, and every relationship is different. If this works for you, and he makes you really happy run with it.
2007-09-16 14:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Miss_Fits 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋