suicidal thoughts...........!?

Question

Ok, for like the past year i've felt like everything i do is wrong and my friends and family would be better off with out me. Well the main reason i feel like that is because my friends are always talking about how much they hate this other girl and yet while she's around they act like her best friend because they know that nobody else likes her and they feel bad for her. Because of that im starting to feel like they secretly hate me as well. I've thought about suicide quite a few times but i would never actually do it. I do cut though and i really wanna stop however i cant tell my mom or my aunt (who i live with) because my lil sister threatened to kill herself a few weeks ago and i dont want to make them have deal with 2 potentially suicidal kids. My friends wouldn't take it seriously if i told them because a lot of people at my school cut because they think its "cool" or w/e. How can i get rid of these feelings and thoughts??

Answer 1

This what you are saying is typical teenage kids problems and I know you will get over it. You just need some time and find things that will take your mind of it.

Answer 2

Hi. When you say your family and friends would be better of without do you genuinely believe it? Further in your question you say "I don't want to make them have deal with 2 potentially suicidal" so you think they would be worried, they care and you're trying to protect them so you do care too. They like you, they care, you're part of their life, they're there for you. Are they perfect? Probably not. But neither is one single human on the face of this earth. If you finding it hard to deal with all those thoughts you must know you're not alone. Friends, how they act and react, how we make them and how we lose them is one of the most complex things in life.. but the truth this is not about them, is about you, about how you must respect and love yourself, believe in your abilities, learn from your mistakes and move on. Just one more thing, if you cannot talk to either your friends or your family, and because sometimes even if you could it is not enough or the same as talking to a complete stranger that doesn't know who you're talking about and doesn't judge you at all, go see a psychologist. Professional help, it is the best. And remember that it is probably just a phase, it is like weather. And try to wake up and think that the day that is beginning is the first one of the rest of your life and filling it in with good vibes is your call.

Answer 3

It is very common for girls (and even grown women) to gossip about the friend in the group who isn't with them. It is a very stupid thing to do but, unfortunately, many women and girls do this and there usually is one or two girls in the group who instigate this type of bad behavior. Do NOT let it get to you. If you do not participate in it, some of your friends might treat you the same way for a while, but some will respect you and want to be your friend later when they themselves become tired and ashamed of themselves. I know this from experience. Spend time with friends who you like and who you think are sincere and ignore the others. And also find meaningful things to do on your own.

As for suicidality. I think it also common to think these kinds of thoughts when you are stressed or confused--especially during adolescence. I did as well often and I did have a difficulty in my teenaged years, but I did indeed get through it. LIfe has ups and downs and things change at every turn. This is the beauty of it. It's important to "go with the flow" and see what you can experience and learn, even if it is difficult at times. We can become wise and compassionate that way.

Self-injury (common among teenaged girls who have emotional problems) is a kind of neurotic disorder. Ideally, you should see a doctor who could give you psychological and behavioral counseling and also give you medication to help you not do this to yourself and not be thinking about suicide. That this is a problem with another family member says that something is wrong in your family or in your genes about this thing. I'm very sorry about that. It doesn't seem that you will get the medical help you need until you're old enough to seek it on your own if you can't get help from a family member about it. (This was my problem, too, at that time). In the meantime, be strong, find a discipline and a strategy and an ideaology to help you get through the difficult moods. Is there something creative or academic that you really like to do? A place in nature that you really like to be? Something that you believe in that you want to learn more about and that might give you emotional support? Please look into these things. Be a survivor. Make your own life for yourself and please strive to make it a happy one. No one can do this for you. You can indeed do it for yourself, though.

Answer 4

You need to find yourself a whole new group of Friends, the ones you are talking about aren't worth talking to, let alone killing yourself over! You need to tell these b!t(h friends where they can get off and leave you alone, they aren't worth your time, they think to put someone else down is to build themselves up. You and your sister need to stick together and find friends that don't act the way your old friends act! Your so called friends don't care what happens to you or anybody else, they are just trying to impress each other so they can stay in the click with the group. So don't bring pain on your family by doing something dumb(don't be like your so called friends)find new friends. Maybe start by finding out who don't like these friends of yours and hang out with them, there is strength in numbers! Or you and your sister start your own little click and go your own way! Good Luck and stay out of trouble you don't need that!

Answer 5

There is a great support group for depression at www.webmd.com. Alot of different groups there just put down how you are feeling and see how many people respond to help you. It helped me and still does. Many times I felt like ending it and i post on there and just to hear how many nice people care and dont even know me, helped me stop. You truly need to talk about it. Maybe help your sister thru it too. If it gets too hard tell someone at school. Its a private issue and you dont need to explain yourself to anyone. Just ask for help if the support group online does not do it for you. I know you will get results there.
Always remember, you are special. God put you on this earth for a reason and your time is not up. He gave you life with your mother cuz she deserves you and loves you.


Blessings.

Answer 6

WHY ?? You are beautiful and special, what ever you do. Join some sports in your school. And find a new friends. If you want to be SMART you can get rid of these stupid suicidal thoughts. It is not cool to cut oneself,so stop doing it.

Answer 7

if you feel that way about your friends they aren't your friends but dont take it out on yourself because they are like that you can find other friends better ones who care ones that will consol you if you talked to them about cutting yourself and tell your mom please that's the best thing you wont be alone you really need to talk to someone about this. trust me i have felt the same way at times but i realize that life is beautiful and things are going to get better. trust me. im going through so much right now but i refuse to give up and i know you can make it just take it one step at a time. prayer is the key and the best answer i can give you sweetheart if you think no one else loves you God does, and so do i,if i didnt i wouldn't have thought twice about your question but i dont want you to think about killing yourself please. just talk to someone i love you

Answer 8

It takes time, loving friends, and professional help. Talk to your school nurse or your guidance counselor (or social worker if you have one at school). They may be able to come up with some concrete advice on how to deal with stress in your life.
The fear that people are talking about you behind your back is paranoia. If you indulge in paranoia, it will drive you crazy. If you can't trust your current crop of friends, find some new ones. You can find lots of friends online in support groups. There are dozens and dozens of support groups on Yahoo and MSN.

Answer 9

Do not cut yourself!! It only hurts you! If you feel hated you need to talk it out. Write anonymous letters to your school's guidance consulor. Don't kill yourself whatever you do. That's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Who knows? Maybe your friends don't hate you. You need to take a deep breath and find a way to feel loved. These problems will pass in time.

Answer 10

Before you act on suicide, admit yourself in a psychiatric hospital voluntarily. While you're in there, you'll receive a social worker, a psychatrist, on call nurses, 3 meals a day. It's not as bad as people claim it to be.

I view you as someone who doesn't know what a beautiful spirit she has. We're each important and have a role in this world and a mission you need to fulfill.

What counts is you're trying. God has a reason for you being here. You have a mission to complete and suicide is also considered "murder" in his book.

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Answer 11

well its clear that you have some emotional things that have involved with this. id like to talk to ya since what will do best is another person that has been through what you have. i was through 4 suicide attempts. im only 15 as well. id like to talk to ya and help you out... because what can help a lot is just someone to vent to that you might not even know. a whole new person to let everything out in and to let them help you.

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