I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. I feel like we DID have alot of potential and love for one another. We also both were mature and had a good head on our shoulders. Well, his ex-g/f tried to break us up, and it's ruined our relationship, I've let my insecurities ruin our relationship. I made too big a deal out of it. Now trust isn't there, we're both more paranoid, even though we're entirely open with each other. The big one is, respect is gone. We used to highly respect each other, and now the things we say to each other now I could've never imagined EVER wanting to say that to each other. I used to feel like he was head over heels for me, but now it's so different. We used to have ALOT of fun together and brought out the best in one another, and now I feel like we just argue alot more, and don't really do anything. All we do is sit around and watch TV. I felt that our relationship had so much potential, but jealousy & immaturity has gotten the best of it. How do I fix it?
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I know we still do have love for each other, but we've both become selfish and mean to each other. And I KNOW it's because I let jealousy into the relationship, it used to be an amazing relationship, but now we're very disrespectful towards each other. The ex g/f thing happened a year ago and I still get mad about it. How do I get our old relationship back, or is it doomed now? I KNOW we had alot of potential, but I think we're both turning into really selfish/bitter people because of our relationship.
2007-09-16 14:04:48 · 5 answers · asked by Consultant 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm not sure that your relationship with this man is salvageable--without a recurrence of old problems. If you know you are both lesser people for having had this relationship--It sounds like it might be better to take what you've learned (and it sounds like you've learned a lot) and move on to build another, better relationship with someone else. :)
2007-09-17 05:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the love is there and you feel like there is potential then don't loose faith. think about the things you all use to enjoy doing together or enjoy doing together now and try and do it more often. also, insecurities can be a really big and bad thing. it's tiring being the one feeling so insecure and paranoid all of the time and imagine how the person receiving it feels like nothing they do will make you trust them anymore. this is something you have to get through on your own and you can't look to your boyfriend for help because there's not much he can do.
2007-09-16 16:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rainey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things can't be fixed and you two seem to have found yourselves in circumstances that aren't going to be fixed. You each need to deal with your jealously and insecurity problems but that doesn't mean that you will have your relationship back. A lesson to be learned is what you have here. Take yourself into some counseling and get your head straight but move on from this relationship. It will drag you down trying to figure out why you didn't work. Some things aren't meant to be.
2007-09-16 14:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a long term relationship then you should have got married a long time ago.
2007-09-16 14:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is this an etiquette question?
2007-09-16 14:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋