ok i have a boyfriend he is 17 and im 12 almost 13. hes really sweet! (sometimes). he says that he loves me and i love him. but he has this friend that told me he likes me and i like him back. im not sure how much though. i cant stop thinking 'bout his friend and i fantasize 'bout him all the time! you know about hugin and kissin him. what should i do?
2007-09-16 14:04:16 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, you're 12. Have fun, but be careful!! There's not need to be dating someone seriously at your age.. Just be a kid!
2007-09-16 14:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Katie Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please sloooooow down!
At 12 years old, you shouldn't have a "boyfriend". You should have friends who happen to be boys or girls - JUST friends. This is the time of your life when you're supposed to have innocent crushes on guys who are your age.
The majority of 17 year old boys are just looking for "conquests"...girls who will have sex with them. There's no "love" involved in that type of thing. Boys will tell you they love you, will tell you all the things you want to hear, just so they get what they want - DO NOT believe them!
What you need to be doing now is studying, taking part in clubs or extracurricular activities and enjoying being 12!
I know that the times, nowadays, are speeded up for kids - everyone is trying to act grown up before they really are. My suggestion is that right now, you should enjoy being twelve! Trust me, I would switch with you in a minute! Being grown up might seem wonderful to you right now, but with it comes a lot of responsbilities.
Okay, enough of a lecture - What I suggest is that you back off from your boyfriend AND from his friend. A 17 year old boy is way too advanced for a 12 year old girl. He will want things that you shouldn't be doing right now. And the fact that even though you have a boyfriend, you're attracted to his friend shows your immaturity. But I do NOT mean that as an insult! At 12 you're not supposed to be mature yet!
Please slow everything down. Once you cross over into being an "adult" you can't get back your innocence.
Please think about this. I'm only telling you because I care!
2007-09-16 14:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by harmonyfleur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 12 you shouldn't be huggin and kissin on any boys 17 years old. Boys this age are mainly looking for sex, sex and more sex and you are at the right age to be tricked into giving it to them.
About the friend, you should talk to both of them until you are old enough to go out on a real date and have an exclusive boyfriend. Daydream about all the good looking boys you see, and flirt with everybody you like. Have fun until you are absolutely sure of the type of boy you want a relationship with and what you want in a relationship.
At 12 you are just beginning to understand having a crush on the opposite sex, and your ideas and thoughts about boys will change so rapidly you won't be able to keep up with it yourself. Don't get fooled into any sexual activities by thinking a boy loves you and you loving them. If a boy truly loves you he won't push you or pressure you, he will wait until you are old enough and mature enough to make a knowledgeable decision.
Be careful and have fun growing up.
2007-09-16 14:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by boj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 12 you're much too young to be thinking about boys, especially 17-year-olds. You don't want to get in trouble, maybe wind up pregnant. My advice is leave the older guys alone. What do you parents think? Chances are, they know nothing about this 17-year-old. Take my advice, sweetie. Wait until you're at least 16 before you start getting involved with boys. You'll be a little more mature and know how to act in a relationship. There's plenty of time for that. You're still a kid, whether you like it or not.
2007-09-16 14:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 12 still very young so getting serious shouldn't be on the top of the list right... so if you realy love him them I guess you would have eyes for him only but mybe it just a diffrent kind of love. anyway above all else have some self-control beside people change you don't want to go for your boyfriend's friend only later to find out that hes a women beater or a chearter. If you have a good thing and you love him ditich the sinful thoughts.
P.S you 12 him 17 *light goes on* furtuer child milester eww eww lol
2007-09-16 14:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by miss d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should avoid sex in your relationships because you obviously can't afford to take care of a baby. The reason I say that is you are very vulnerable because you are very serious in your relationship, your bf is almost 5 years older than you, and you are fantasizing about physical affection.
About the other boyfriend, if he is any younger, tell your older bf he is so much older you want to try dating younger boys now. You might like him and you should be able to find out why he likes you. I will warn you, he might just like that you are willing to date other boys.
2007-09-16 14:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Frank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best I can figure if you can,t control your oversexed view of yourself ( referring to your title). you may as well get pregnant by both or either and go ahead and ruin your life. If you see any other outcome for a 13 year old and a 17 year old let the rest of us know. Try to fantasize how your parents will raise your child while you word a minimum wage job.
2007-09-16 14:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your name, sexy lil mama, I'd say that you might have more on your mind than huggin' and kissin'. You're only 12 so slow down. You'll have had a dozen boyfriends by the time your 18 so don't get too excited over this one.
2007-09-16 14:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey I'm sure you're going to hear this from lots of people but when you're 12-13, 5 years is a big age difference and whether you're dating your bf or his friend, they are not going to want anything more than the physical, and really, I'd question any guy that age that was going to a girl your age to get it. Because I promise you they want more than hugging and kissing! Please be careful, look at the guys your own age, I am sure there are lots who would love to hang out with you and have fun without pushing you for more than you're ready for.
2007-09-16 14:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm.. u sound a littl eyoung 4 both these guys come on! 17 and a 12 year old!! u need to stick w/ ppl ur own age but i would say follow ur heart and think wich one do u truley love and u know will never hurt u wen u get that then u can pick which 1 to date...but still think about ur age!
2007-09-16 14:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your just a little to young to be dating a 17 year old when your only almost 13. Maybe you guys should just wait till your older. And if your unsure if you should stay with him, maybe you should go on a break and think things out. Hope this helps and I hope everything works out.
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2007-09-16 14:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by Prettyinpink :] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋