He dosn't talk to me, and when he does it's only over the computer where he makes it very clear he no longer loves me. He won't be my friend because after he broke up with me I told him he didn't love me. I have since apoloigized for saying that. We hang out with the same group of friends, wouldn't it just be easier to atleast be pleasent instead of pretending I don't exsist. I hate how weird it makes things when he won't talk to me or join in on conversations that I'm a part of. I know he no longer loves me, not only because he has told me over the internet, but because it's been 9 months since our short 4 month long relationship. Is it really to much for him to just talk to me like a normal person?
2007-09-16 13:48:47 · 29 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be yourself and dont treat him any differently than your other friends. If he cant handle it then let it be his problem not yours. Dont let his attitude bully you or bother you. Let him be miserable if he wants. You can choose not to let it bother you.
2007-09-16 13:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it's been 9 months since you broke up? And you were only together for 4 months? That's 9mths too long to be thinking. First of all, you need to let this go. Why put yourself thru all that mess w/ talking to him online. Why not block him on the computer? Don't talk to him, why? So you can still feel bad about yourself? If you have the same friends, and they are not weirded out about the two of you no longer being a couple, then take turns being with them. You need to find some new friends.
But I would leave everything else w/ this guy in the past. If he continues to tell you that he doesn't love you, than he's a jerk. Obviously he's not free of you in his head. If he didn't like your or love you, he wouldn't care anything about you. He wouldn't contact you, talk w/ you, NOTHING. And as I think Tank Girl said, say hi, don't be evil, and move on. Learn how to deal with it.
He's surely not worth a hill a beans. So move on, meet new folks, enjoy your life.
2007-09-16 21:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Vetty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
There are only 2 possibilities: Either he's angry at you or he still loves you & wants you back but is afraid of being turned down (after all you already broke off). Now here's my question: What about you? Do you still love him?? If yes, then I'd say go make the 1st move, try smoking him out and get to know the real score. If no, then do it just the same after all you still friends..Don't be so sure about "him not loving you anymore"..Human are very complex beings. Especially men, where they will say & do things that they don't really mean.
2007-09-16 21:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either two things are going on. (1) He's punishing you for saying he didn't love you, when in fact, he may have loved you, and you didn't believe him, so he's hurt and licking his wounds, so to speak. However, nine months is a long time for him to be sulking, so (2) unfortunately, he no longer loves you and perhaps never did -- at least as much as you seem to care for him. What I would suggest, is to write him off, at least temporarily. If he sees that you are no longer pining after him, he may do an about face. If not, then you aren't really losing anything, so go look in greener pastures. You sound like a very sensitive young lady who deserves better treatment. Good luck and God bless!
2007-09-16 20:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it has been 9 months since the breakup of a 4 month relationship? I think you are holding on to something that never really was. A guy rarely 'loves' within a 4 month time span. And 9 months later whatever he felt is long gone. I am sure he has moved on and is not wasting his time on thoughts of you and what could've/should've been. If he hasn't moved on and still thinks of you, 9 months would have never passed without something from him. Do yourself a favor: LET IT GO!
2007-09-16 21:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be asking yourself why you are giving this so much of your time and energy. Yes, it's easier said than done, but you need to move on. Do things to take your mind off of this guy who it's clear you are still crazy about.
Take Salsa lessons, go on a trip, go shopping, etc, etc.
Don't let yourself try and connect with him, until he tries to connect with you. Hope for the best, but expect the worst in this respect. Internalize the fact that the last civilized words you had for each other were said long ago.
This will make you sad. Do what you need to do to mourn the loss, then move on. Don't, don't, don't, pine over this guy who is, as you will find, replaceable.
2007-09-16 20:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by chicagoshooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have hurt him really badly. Your remark that he didn't love you hurt him. It only shows that he loved you intensely. It will be better if you can talk through a common friend and apologize. Don't be bothered even if it takes a few weeks to arrange a meeting. If he is still not reconciled and keeps aloof, it only shows that he is a person who is
not adjustable and you should forget about him and move on.
You shall always be unhappy with him and even for minor 'hurts' he will keep a grudge and torment you. You seem to be a -fun loving and friendly- person. He is not your type.
2007-09-16 21:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by jillybilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he still cares for you. you can care about someone and not love them. He also sounds like he has not moved on, it is very hard for most people to be around there x and see them getting attention. There is not a whole lot you can do for the way he acts he has to do that for himself. The computer chat that easy there is no emotion in the written word unless you put it there. That is part of his safety net.
2007-09-16 21:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by freeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing a game, if he did not want to talk to you he would try to not hang out were you are at even if youhave the same friends! he enjoyes your company just as much as you do. just think about that when your out near him again but if you want to play the game too when he comes nea you wal away and then when he gets up you come and st back down do that a couple times the table will turn!!!
2007-09-16 20:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by scoob48413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play like it don't effect you.
Then it's his problem, not yours.
Then he'll hate how weird it makes him feel when he's on the outside of conversations that your a part of. It than becomes more of a loss for him than you. Get it?
Myaybe he'll come around when you don't show that his actions effects you.
2007-09-16 20:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just tell him how you really feel, and that he can just talk to you like a regular person and that you would like that very much! Just pretend that nothing ever happened and just start over!!!
2007-09-16 20:53:31 · answer #11 · answered by Jacqueline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋