Why did my sister take my childrens dad?

Question

My sister & my mum didn't speak as she chose to stay with a man that abused her kids . My mum died and i supported my sister through her guilt. I encouraged the family to bring her back into their lives, i was by her side when she left her man.
I helped my dad get his youngest daughter back.
I then found out that my dad wasn't my biologial father and everything changed.
My sister was on her feet by this time, she became very cocky & self assured. I was now weak with the shock & while i was down my sister hooked up with my kids dad just to top me off!
I split with my childrens dad years before, we had remained very close. I felt proud that we had a good friendship. Even though we both had relationships on and off, we never let it get in the way of our kids.
We always did things as a family.
My daughter was bullied by my sisters daughter at school over her dad and she's now left. Her dad did nothing about it. Why is he letting this happen? Why did my sister ruin what we had?

Answer 1

Unfortuantely we cannot choose our siblings. Your X Husband may not have any feelings for you but he should his own daughter and to allow her Cousin to redicule her at School and also with the blessings of your Sister, stinks. You and your daughter need to make a Move (physically) if possible and just cut yourself off completely from those whom would do you and your Child so wrong. You both deserve better than that..

Answer 2

Your family sounds about as screwed up as mine. The truth is, you will never know WHY your sister does these things. She obviously has some issues and needs counseling. You mentioned that her daughter is also a bully. This could mean that some of your sisters issues have taken a toll on her daughter. My advice for you is to worry about your OWN kids and your own household. Cut your sister out of your life. This doesn't have to be permanent. But your sister needs to hit rock bottom or else she will never try to change. Once she realizes that she is completely alone and even her own sister can't stand her, she will HAVE to think about why that is. If she doesn't try to change after all that, then forget her. Move on. You have your own kids to worry about and you don't want them being raised around any bad influences.
As far as you childrens dad goes, he is probably just as confused as you are. I am sure he will see sooner or later that the family and friendship he had with you is much better than whatever relationship he could possibly be forming with your sister. Make sure he knows the toll this is taking on YOUR daughter. Chances are, he will come to his senses.

Answer 3

I guess your sister thought your ex was fair game since you and he were no longer married. It sounds as though neither your sister nor your ex have any conscience about the relationship you and your ex shared, and legally, there is nothing you can do about it. I suggest that you eliminate both of them from your life and look for someone who is not related to the family situation. I know it sounds cruel, but why go through such heartbreak, especially when you supported your sister emotionally when she was down? What she did was unconscionable, and your ex is not much better. I'd write both of them off until and unless they both apologize and break off their relationship. Meantime, get a life without them. Good luck!

Answer 4

Your sister is something people like to call selfish. You're definetly the biggest person probably in your entire family and don't let a girl like her get you down. Obviously you're going threw rough times and your sister is way too shallow to notice that. I know no one would like to do this, but you need to loose contact with your sister if she is just making matters worse. You need to talk to your children about why her kids are just like her.

Give her the time to realize she's been wrong for a very long time, and let her apologize. Just don't wait up for her. You've only got one life to live, live it while you can hunny.

Let me know how everything goes.

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Answer 5

Your sister is obviously very selfish for what she has done. She is not thinking about anyone but her self and what makes her happy in the moment. Unfortunately you cannot compete with your sister right now, because she is giving you kids father something that you are not and sadly its all men care about, so don't worry about it, do what is best for you and focus on the positive avoid your sister and keep it business like with your children's father...good luck, but don't let it continue to get you down, your sister obviously is not woman enough to find her own man!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Your sister needs help, she is searching for something in her life, that can not be filled the way she is going. Your family has suffer a lot, and it will take time and trials to find the forgiveness that every one needs to give. As for you , you can only live for you and your children, don;t let her or anyone run over them, take care of them first as well as yourself and move on if that is what you have to do.

Answer 8

there are just people who care about themselves and nobody else. They'll pretend to be your friend and leech off of you until they've had their fill then toss you to the side. They don't care if you're family. The only thing you can do is tell yourself that you're better than her because you're an honest person and you care about people. As for your daughter, can you talk to the principal at school maybe?

Answer 9

That's terrible, how can so much crap happen to one person,I understand about the relationship you and he had for the kids, when that is destroyed by a third party you enter stage hell till the kids are grown. For it happening to you with your own sister, my goodness, I feel so bad for you and you will be in my prayers.
God bless.

Answer 10

I don't understand what difference does it make that your dad isn't your biological father? If the man treated you like a daughter he is your Dad.
As far as your sister is concerned you gave and gave and she took and took. And when you had nothing left she took your guy but he had to have gone willingly guys don't go after gals they don't want.
Get counseling!!