My boyfriend is really rude to me sometimes. Recently, for example, we were talking about this really cool animal store in the area, which he has never been to, and we agree we'd go there sometime together, since we shared a common interest in reptiles. When we made plans to go on our day off, he said he was visiting with his brother and wasn't sure when he'd be leaving, so I shrugged it off. Well today, we talked on and off, and I just called him about 30min ago, just to see what he was up to (besides hanging out at his brother place this entire weekend) and he said..."oh I'm going to the ***store I mentioned** with my brother.....did you want to come?" This pissed me off so bad! It's like mentioning a restaurant you really like and then that person taking someone else. Wasn't that rude? Also, i've noticed that my b/f tries to always make fun of me in front of friends. When ever we're around others he'll make really rude/humiliating/just plain mean
2007-09-16 13:13:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
comments to me. He's even yelled at me harshly in front of others. I'm not really the fighting type...i'm normally just extremely shocked at how rude he'll be, especially in front of others. He's usually pretty respectful and nice to me when ever we're alone, but in front of others, (even when he's on the phone with me!) he talks extra loud and says harsh/rude/and just plain inappropriate things and makes me feel like crap. He has apologized for his behavior like this in the past, but he continues to act the same. I'm ready to just blow up on him and put him on the spot the next time this happens. Why does he try to ...almost...degrade me in front of others?! Does he not truly care for me as a person? Please help!! Any advice is appreciated.
2007-09-16 13:16:57 · update #1
Your boyfriend is abusive, mean, thoughtless and uncaring. So if thats what you want from a guy youre with the right one. If not, nothing you can do will change him so you need to dump him and find someone who actually cares about you.
2007-09-16 13:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure that the thing about the store was intentionally rude of him. After all, he did invite you when you just happened to make yourself available. Perhaps he thought at the time he & his brother made up their minds to go to the store, he assumed that you were otherwise occupied, & that he would make another trip there with you when you were available. I don't really see that as particularly rude.
HOWEVER, deliberately humiliating you (his girlfriend) in front of others (friends or not) could be described as rude, but I think it would be better described as profoundly disrespectful. I think you have a totally legitimate gripe with him on that one, & I highly recommend that you set a clear boundary with him immediately.
A wise man once said "You teach people how to treat you", so if he continues to be so disrespectful to you after you have spoken to him, then it's because you are allowing him to get away with it.
2007-09-16 13:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about your boy friend... not your husband. He's putting up all kinds of red flags. I would dump him.
2007-09-16 13:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by writeright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing with him . just get shut big time.
2007-09-16 13:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋