who, by tradition, is supposed to be your maid of honor? i have friends who could be my maid of honor, but i wouldn't know who to choose, so i was thinking i could just choose my mom, since she and i are close, etc. is it ok to have your mother as maid of honor? also, she is married. thanks in advance!
2007-09-16 13:03:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had a really hard time picking as I'm really close with only a select few girls. I ended up picking my best friend since 5th grade, granted I knew one of my other girls longer, we were just closer and we're the same age, so we kinda grew up together more oddly enough.
My other friends were understanding, though I know my one friend was a little butt hurt that she wasn't my MOH, but I also knew her the shortest amount of time so I just told her that's why, and it's not that I cared any less for her by any means.
I wouldn't have my mom as my MOH, we're close too, but she's the mother of the bride, and already has enough on her plate with me let alone having to have MOH duties ontop of what she's already helping me with.
2007-09-16 14:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Mom is the Mother of the Bride and has special responsibilities of her own. Your best girl friend, or your sister (if you have one) is supposed to be your Maid (or if married, Matron) of Honor.
But you will need to pick a friend to do the honors, if you have no sister. A close female cousin could be the Maid of honor.
Though it's sweet of you to want your mom for the job.
Congratulations and good luck.
2007-09-16 20:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by teacupn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if go you by tradition, it should be your sister, if no sisters are available, then a cousin, first on the father's side, and then on other mother's. Of course, people "defy" tradition all the time and go with their friends. In reality, no one really has to be the matron or maid of honor. That title really means that they are the formal witness to your wedding (in some churches the maid of honor and best man sign as witnesses). I have been at weddings where all the bridesmaids and groomsmen gave the toasting speech - it came out nice since everyone contributed to it and the final speakers asked us to raise our glasses.
As for your mom, it is a nice gesture, but honestly, not really the best of ideas. Your mom has a special place in the wedding and you want her to be more than just a bridesmaid.
2007-09-16 22:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by nnaming2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make anyone your maid of honor.
Most people choose a mother,sister,or best friend.
When a made of honor is married they are called the matron of honor and the matron of honor's husband should be the best man so that they can walk side by side down the isle as they once did when they got married and as you and your husband will after your wedding is over.
I hope I could help: BlackWidow62206 age 24
2007-09-16 22:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by blackwidow62206 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The maid or matron of honor is generally a sister or a best friend, but you can choose your mom. I don't think there's any rule against that. However, a married woman is generally referred to as the matron of honor. A maid of honor is a woman who has never been married. Good luck and congrats!
2007-09-16 20:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got engaged, I asked my mother either to walk me down the aisle or be my maid of honor. She chose to walk me down the isle. I think that it is perfectly fine. If you can't pick a friend or don't want to cause a rift, have them as your bridesmaids. That would be a great solution. Otherwise, do you have a sister your close with or a future sister in-law? Maybe they could be your maid of honor? Good luck and most of all, with all the stress, remember why you are doing it. You want to spend the rest of your life with this man and everything will work out. Keep your head and think before you say or do anything to spare feelings and save on stress. Congrats!!
2007-09-16 20:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Just a girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of a mom being a maid of honor but I think that would be an excellent choice. In my opinion, a maid of honor is that one person who has been though my ups and downs, who hasn't judged, and a person whom I have the utmost respect. Tradition is what you make it. Congratulations!
2007-09-16 20:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by powderpuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wanted your mom to be your maid (or matron, if she's married) of honour then I don't see why you couldn't do that. There's no "traditional" person to be MOH. It's just whoever you feel closest to. I'd personally want my mom to help give me away and not be part of my wedding party, but that's just me. If this is something you want, go for it!
Also, you don't HAVE to have a MOH. My brother's fiance couldn't choose between her four really good friends so she's just having them all as bride's maids and no MOH at all. They'll stand next to her in order from tallest to shortest, to avoid "picking favourites."
Usually the MOH signs the marriage certificate so in their case I'll be signing it as sister of the groom.
2007-09-17 11:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually that's a bit awkward. Usually the MOH plans the bridal shower. However, It's very tacky for the MOB to plan a shower for her daugther. Your mother should be honored as your mom and your MOH should be your sister, cousin, or best friend.
2007-09-16 20:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having just a very very small wedding. You could have your mom. I would not have your mom. Your mom is walked down the aisle prior to you as all eyes will be upon her. She is escorted to her seat. Then all rise and watch you and your wedding party walk down the aisle. You would out of all of your friends pick the one who you have known the longest, and been with you during the good and bad times.
2007-09-16 20:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋