have spoken to him, he said that he would look for help he didnt, he lies a lot about his addiction for me, at work, he is ashamed of it, but he dont stop. we have been married for 6 years, when i met him he said that he hated drugs, but later i found out he was addict to crack cocain, he has been addict for more than 15 years. Is there hope? have a 1 year old baby girl and we are always alone, my family doesnt leave in usa. i dont talk to my friends about it. What should i do, go look for help for myself? Try to help him, how can i help him if he doesnt want to help him self?
2007-09-16 12:34:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds like your husband is in denial. First thing to do is
get help for yourself and child. Here is a group that deals
with family members that have drug addictions. The group is called. "Co-Anon Family." The Phone number is 1-800-898-9985. These people can help you get started in the right direction. And help you find the nearest group in your area
and give you advice. These are the professionals.
2007-09-16 13:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't help someone if he doesn't want to help himself. Lying is part of the pattern of addition. There is also the feeling that you can make people believe anything because cocaine in particular and alcohol give you a sense of grandiosity, the feeling that you are better and more powerful than you are and that everyone else are fools. Lying or keeping secrets for him only enables him and makes the problem worse. Intervention is the only worthwhile course of action, but you cannot do it alone. He will not realize the depth of his problem until he loses everything, including you and the kids, and he will leave you destitute. Find a good lawyer and start looking for a haven for yourself and your family. You are going to need a place to go. Seek help. Good luck.
2007-09-16 12:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one in that situation can help someone unless they want to be helped.
I'm sorry that you're going through is... it must be very tough on you.
There is something you can do for yourself. Contact your local Alcoholics Annonymous and ask them for the contact number for Narcotics Annonymous (they will know it). They have a support group for family and friends that you can go to.
Please call them and get some support for yourself. I think you'll find some solice in it.
Good luck to you and your little girl.
2007-09-16 12:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Paramedic Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No legal way to force him into treatment.
He is lost. But what he has is contagious. He will destroy himself, including getting murdered for not paying a crack bill. He will take you down as well. So, if the crack bill collectors come around for him, and see you and your daughter, do you believe, they will decide to spare you?
Time to go.
2007-09-16 12:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by buttfor2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do, is think about yourself. dont you deserve better than this? Im sure you have done all you can, but now you have to take care of yourself while you still can.
Easier said than done, but please. like I said, dont you deserve better? good luck. life is too short. you need to enjoy it.
2007-09-16 12:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jamiep6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋