I work in the IT department in a large firm. My office mate is very cheap and he asks me to borrow change every single day(for the snack machine). I would not mind if it were once or twice, but I added up lasts month's tithing to him and it averages out to about 20 bucks a month! He has also asked me twice to get him something when I was running to McDonalds and said "I will get you for lunch" or I will go to the ATM at lunch and give you some cash" but he had the nerve to "forget ..both times. I cant even go to the snack machine anymore because I know he will ask me for change and I am almost to the point of being rude to him, and dont want that to happen because I tend to have a very sharp tongue when I get angry. The thing that really bothers me is that he is the type of guy who points out ALL of my mistakes no matter how petty but yey he cant bring his own f------ change!! ughhh what can I say without being rude while letting him have it?
2007-09-16 12:09:24 · 21 answers · asked by only_in_vegas 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tell him, "Oh, sorry, after I get myself something here, im out of money."
I would also go to the snack machine before break and lunch times, just so that you would already have it.
*I also agree with "drshorty"
~good luck
2007-09-20 09:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't really feel sorry for you if you continue to do it. Tell him it's stopping now. If he doesn't like it it's his problem. He only does it because you go along with it. If he wants something when you're running for lunch, tell him to give you the money up front or he goes hungry! Better yet, get his order, and when you come back tell him you forgot!!Unfortunately sometimes you have to be rude to get your point across. Bring your own snacks, that avoids going to the machines. You can only be taken advantage of if you allow it-good luck!!!
2007-09-16 19:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Miss Keir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's 240. a year. Start saving your change at home.You would be able to buy yourself or some one else a nice gift for Xmas.
You could even sponsor a child with World Vision, better they get the money than him.
He keeps doing it dear, because you allow him , there is No reason you can't tell this guy that you can't afford to feed him.
This will probably teach you some great life skills, only thing is you probably won't know them till your fifth. Good Luck.
God bless.
2007-09-16 19:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by luvspace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really wouldn't worry about all the back pay that he owes you. You've just paid of a life lesson. The next time he asks you for change just say No. simple as that.
I've never understood why people feel the need to jump through as these hoops not to hurt someones feeling or just for the sake of being polite. Just say No (that's a perfectly decent answer) without all the excuses of why you can't.
2007-09-16 20:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by lelars30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some ideas to say politely...
(You see all these have 'I'm sorry' in it... to make it polite even if the sentence isn't.)
"I'm sorry... I only have enough money/ change for me."
"I'm sorry... I'm not rich... I can't afford to give out money/ change."
"I'm sorry... I'm on a tight budget."
These help just in case if you say, "I don't have anything" then he could see you with change/ money later that day and will point it out embarrassingly to you.
You could also go... (the next time he asks you)
(Play situation)
He: Hey do you have any change I could borrow? (or something like that)
You: Are you just going to borrow it and pay me back?
He: Yeah - no problem, I just forgot today and am going to the bank tomorrow and going to give you it back.
You: Well, if you are going to pay me back - could you please start by paying me back the past month's you borrowed money from me?
*Try not to sneer with your tongue... but if he's been "borrowing" from you... you need to confront him
If none of these work,
then I suggest to immediately confront him... and don't care if you sneer. Tell him you're not going to give you anymore until he pays you back.
Also, if possible - try to get other people on your side. Have a friend going to the vending machine or out to eat... either have him borrow from your friend or have your friend back you up saying you only have enough money for you or have your friend say that she is treating JUST the two of you...
and also... *post note... if none of these work... talk to your boss and see if you can have your office transferred to another part of the building so you don't have to deal with him!
I really hope this helps!!!
2007-09-16 19:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him to start bringing change to work because you shouldn't have to buy snacks for him. Also remind him that he said he would pay you back and he never did. Make sure you sound stern (not mean) so that he might think twice before asking you for change every day.
2007-09-16 19:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ant Pile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him you are short on cash this month as some unexpected bills came up and you can not continue to spot him - this may even guilt him into paying you back without you having to ask him.
2007-09-16 19:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by MuffinMom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say No. Sorry, but I gave you the last of my change last time. Or, sorry, I only have enough change for myself.
2007-09-19 15:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either tell him in a friendly way that he never paid you back for all the other times so no. Or you can just say you have no change and leave it at that.
2007-09-16 19:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by ST 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Listen girlie...he knows EXACTLY what he's doing. He keeps doing it because you haven't stopped him. Next time he asks, say "You know I would because I have been, but quite honestly, you've wiped me out. I have enough only for myself" Say it with a smile and say it often. He'll stop.
2007-09-16 19:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋