okay, so i know a guy and he's 17 and like i really like him, and were good friends and stuff. he's mentioned things like "god why do i have to be so frickin old? cuz if i wasn't i'd totally date you" and stuff like that. we also joke about sex and grabs each others butts and all. now is the law a 17 yr old can't date a minor, or is it that like he couldn't have sex with me? i want to know your opinion on this.
*most honest = 10 points
helpful suggestions or hints would be nice too.
=)
2007-09-16 11:39:44 · 21 answers · asked by kristyxmarie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have to ask, you already know the answer. you're not a kid for very long, so enjoy it.
2007-09-16 11:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's some real advice from an old pro... hehe. When I was 14 I dated a guy who was 17. We had sex all the time, it was really fun. Then I started to change my mind about the physical side of the relationship. He didn't feel the same way. He was more of the mind that "we already do it, what difference would it make to stop?" There was a few times that I would say no, and he'd hold me down and force himself on me. I know this isn't necessarily what will happen to you, but believe me when i tell you that 14 year old girls and 17 year old boys are not even the same species. All his body wants is sex--now, he's probably a nice guy from the neck up, but everything else is screaming to get in your pants. Be careful with this. I think a lot of the baggage I carried around for years was because I had sex way too early. Sex is definitely something that can wait. I'm not saying wait until marriage, that's a personal decision, but at least wait until you feel like an adult, not a kid (and trust me, at 14, that is NOT now).
2007-09-16 18:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Donna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can't have sex with you. It's statutory rape. I live in NY, so to be considered legal and have consent ( being able to have sex) the girl must be 17. I don't know what state you're in but you should try to find out.
This is my opinion though. What does a 17 y/o want with a 14 y/o. You should ask yourself that. Maybe he just wants the sex and nothing else. I mean if all you want is sex too, then do whatever you want. But maybe you should just focus on school and worry about sex until your at least 17. And of course whenever you have sex use a condom.
2007-09-16 18:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Omar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly:
He is waaaaaaay to old for in my opinion. You shouldnt even be hanging out with a 17 year old! He's practically a man. And a 14 year old shouldnt even be thinking about having sex. And a 17 year old shouldnt even be thinking about having sex with a 14 year old. The law doesnt say anything about how old you have to be to date, or how old your dating partner can be, but generally the age of consent is around 16-18 in the united states.
I gave you my opinion, but still, make the choice that you think will be right for you in the long run. Make the right decision
:)
2007-09-16 18:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually i think itz perfectly okay.. Nd i think that 18 yr old guys can't have sex with girls that are under age and they can't date girls that are under 16 w/o parents permission.. I'm pretty sure the that u and him dateing isn't breaking any laws.. I dated a 19 yr old guy wen i was 15.. so yea.. I don't think any laws come into play until he turns 18.. If you guys want to date you should try it..
2007-09-16 18:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by ksm_623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well truthfully I don't think you are ready to be in that kind of a relationship. If he forces you to do it with him then you need to just forget about him. You are 14. You should still be thinking guys have coodies. Well not exactly but you shouldn't be that involved yet. You are still young. Go out with someone your age and when you are much older, then go out with older guys. Seriously, find someone your age or 15 or something around that age group.
2007-09-16 18:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by Fishy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its fine im 15 and dating a 17 year old and its great. and no you guys cant get in trouble. if hes not 18 and as long as you restrain from sex. until your 18
2007-09-16 18:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by surferchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats its wrong for a girl your age to date a guy that might be more mature than you...but then again dating should not be categorized by age it should be categorized by the way you feel for each other
2007-09-16 18:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Becka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 18 and i will date who ever i want.the law says you cant have sex until you are 17 or 18. nothing about dating.do what you have to do,just dont get caught.
2007-09-16 18:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by jc c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 17 year old friend is right not to pursue a relationship with you because he CAN wind up in HUGE TROUBLE.
2007-09-16 18:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its 18 and a minor, but i also think sex is wrong, he's using you....a 17 year old guy normally would date girls his own age so i think he's using you....your gunna regret it.
2007-09-16 18:44:06 · answer #11 · answered by dimondbacks7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋