I've read all the reasons why women don't like needy men. They're insecure, they have low self-esteem, they need constant reassurance that you are attracted to them, etc. Well, why are these bad things? Do men HAVE to be "manly", "macho", etc? I think some men are more suited to have partners, and some men (like myself) would be better paired with a nurturer/caregiver, and that's OKAY. Yes yes I know, women want to nurture kids, but to take me for example, I am 34 and have absolutely no interest in ever having kids. So of the woman wants to nurture someone, she can nurture me instead.
Plus, needy guys are very loyal. They worship the women they are with, so there's virtually no chance of him ever cheating. They're safe, generally are homebodies, preferring to stay home and watch tv or play video games or just fool around with his woman, so no worries of him coming home drunk and hitting her or anything.
And to those who say a woman can't make me feel good about myself..
2007-09-16 11:37:35 · 9 answers · asked by egocentric_loner 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well I would rather not take other people's word for it. I would like to find out for myself if a beautiful woman nurturing, caring for, and constantly reassuring me would make me happy.
And before anyone says "well you want a one-sided relationship", nothing could be further from the truth. I would always be kissing, cuddling, squeezing, massaging, telling her I love her and how beautiful she is, and what more could a woman want?? What I have to offer is the only thing that should matter to a woman....LOVE.
Instead of complaining about how needy men are insecure, and lack self-confidence, I wish women would see this as an opportunity to use her nurturing instinct and care for a guy who will give her all the love and affection she could ever need.
2007-09-16 11:38:05 · update #1
I've dated needy men and it's too hard, I need someone who is secure enough with themselves to see that I am not cheating and that I don't always need to be with them.
You need a mother, not a girlfriend.
2007-09-16 11:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, I am a Cancer woman with an Aries rising, so Im not really emotional unless Im am 110% in love, then I may get those feelings sometimes and I have to take a moment to be by myself and put me in check. I think that it isn't so much your sign that makes you feel this way, though it may have a small influence. I have found that it was more of the man who brought out these negative feelings I didn't want. Im dating a Pisces with an Aries planets too. He doesnt play mind games or blame me, and he is the most selfless person I have ever met, we have been together 3 years and have never had a real fight because we talk normally to each other. It took him a while to open that part up, but when you do, its worth the poking you had to do to coax it out!
2016-05-21 03:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, no.
the cons heavily outweigh the pros you listed. needy men are more trouble they're worth. you want a nurturer/caregiver? why don't you just come out and say you want a second mother? most women are not open to being w/ needy men b/c if we wanted to do all that coddling and nurturing we would either get a child or a dog. there is nothing masculine or attractive about a needy man.
needy guys are only loyal b/c there are no other options. needy guys are the type that call a woman 5x during her trip to the grocery store to make sure she's really there and not out cheating on him w/ a real man.
please visit a therapist so you can work out your mommy issues and gain the confidence you need to become a real man ♥
2007-09-16 12:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You sound like a nice, caring guy not a "needy" guy. Women like to be treated special and loved unconditionally, just as your example. I think when the word "needy" is used, it's in the context of "lazy and smothering". I use that word when the guy is not working, (pulling his weight) and wants to control who your friends are, when you can go out and constantly asking where have you been and so on.
You sound like you have great qualities. Hang in there. The right woman for you is out there somewhere.
Keep smiling!
2007-09-24 10:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by hugskisses4707 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dude. I think I already dated you. And if I recall things correctly, the reason I dumped you (or, you know, your long lost brother) had nothing to do with failure of my ability to nuture or of your loyalty. I broke up with my you-ish guy because I'm an adult, and I date other adults. I don't require reassurance constantly or have low self-esteem. If I did, I think I'd get some outside help, rather than a boyfriend. See, because I'm an adult.
I hope this is a joke. Please say this is a joke. Otherwise, I hope you find a way to be less self-absorbed, because you won't have a healthy relationship otherwise.
2007-09-24 09:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by July 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You listed all the pros of a needy man but you left out the cons. Needy men are potential stalkers, controlling, and insecure. All woman love the cuddling and affectionate part of a relationhip but that's not what it's all about. It's about compromising and getting through eachothers differences. And the comment about needy men not cheating is not true. If a needy man keeps getting rejected he will cheat.
2007-09-16 11:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
i have 2 agree with the other women needy men r 2 much work & they r usually lazy, insecure, childlike, & looking for a mother that they can depend on 2 take care of them. god says man should be the head. no one is lookin 2 adopt a 30yr old child sorry.
2007-09-24 09:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Needy Man/woman, no matter which, drags the other person
down. "I love you because I want you not because I need you."
2007-09-24 11:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by jenny 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HEY ARE YOU DATING?? EMAIL ME
2007-09-24 09:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋