how do u dump a girl and not break her heart?

Question

i need 2 dump some1 but i dont wanna break her heart

Answer 1

If she likes you back, her heart WILL be broken ..

Answer 2

There is no way to avoid breaking her heart if she is in love with you. The only exception is if the two of you mutually agree about breaking up but this is not the case unfortunately. Just be prepared to see her cry her eyes out or have a devastated look on her face.

Or you can take the cowardly way out by disappearing like Houdini or the trendy break-up by text-message or email but she will probably think you are an a**hole for doing that. Some people choose these options because they don't want to physically there in their soon-to-be-ex presence and deal with their grief. You can always make her hate you to the point she will dump you.

But seriously be truthful about the breakup and go to her face to face. Yes it's gonna hurt for her, but time eventually heals her pain.

Answer 3

I take it that you know somehow that she is madly in love with you? Or are you just that confident?
Best thing in the world is honesty and be firm in your decision. If she asks if there is any hope of getting back together or suggests just taking a break make sure you tell her its over so she can deal with it and get over it as soon as possible. Dont try to come out the good guy, just accept she will be upset and maybe even angry and it's best if you just make your point and try to be compassionate. Dont use clichés and if you can work it in tell her what you are taking away from the relationship and that she meant something to you while it lasted. Tell her because you like her as a person you want to be honest and that you simply dont want to be in a relationship with her.
The less you make her embarrassed the better the break up, the less of a jerk she'll think you are in the future so that you can be civil to each other if not friends.
hope this helps but its best if you use your own personally experience with your girlfriend to make it as kind as you can be.

Answer 4

First, you have to do it alone. Don't do it around all her friends because she will get embarrassed. Start off by saying all the positive things about her but it's not going to work out. Don't be blurting out all the negative things about her, because her heart will be broken!
For example..try out by starting, "Hey, look, HER NAME, I really like you, your a nice girl and [what you think about her] but I don't think it's going to work out. Sorry."
Give her a hug, and once again apologize and leave, or stay with her for a moment.
I'm really glad you want to be nice and not break her heart, many boyfriends just dump there girlfriends in a rude way.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Chances are if she loves you that her heart is going to be broken anyway.

Your best bet though would be to not get in an argument, be calm, expect her to be emotional and let her be emotional. Once you have made sure she is okay and isn't going to do something stupid leave as soon as possible.

Cut off all contact for a while. calling her or letting her call you is just going to prolong her heartbreak. You can be friends with her after she is completely over you but not before.

Answer 6

You can't do it. You just need to be as honest as possible with her. If she knows your lying or can't understand "why" you are breaking it off its harder to move on. Stop by her house unplanned and tell her in the doorway. Have an answer when she asks why. And the answer for i'll change is: you can't change the way i think/feel.Then leave before the crying starts. Don't return phone calls or emails(texts). Expect her to hate you, but if you are honest she may come to respect you later. And no "re-taps" ever.

If you can't tell her the real reason like (too fat) (too dumb) ugly or something like that: go with 'I just don't love you anymore and its not fair to ether of to stay together."

Answer 7

Look at your choice of words! "Dump". That right there tells me you aren't very serious about not breaking her heart. Everyone who dares to love at some point experiences heartbreak. Hopefully, she isn't too in to you and that will help to make the "dumping" less painful for her. Remember -- what goes around comes around. Be kind to her.

Answer 8

However and whenever you do, you still are going to brake her heart. If you tell her nicely or dump her badly it is still the same thing and will eventually hurt as it is the same thing. SO your best bet is just to brake it to her no matter way. You are obviously not happy and dont care about her,so why should it bother you which way you tell her,so just do it. Hope you dont regret it later...

Answer 9

Why dont you just sit her down and out with it----there's not way around it---you probably will break her heart anyway.
I could handle honestly and being straightforward more than playing games, being mean to the girl so she will take off.

Be truthful, you might remain a friend

Answer 10

if you really care about this girl then just be honest and tell her the truth. that way you don't have to worry about if she found out the truth and she WILL respect you for telling her the truth. It might not be right away, but later on she will say at least he told me the truth, and you were straight up with her, and then she will know deep down inside that she can move on with someone else if that were the case. Just remember, the truth will set you free, if you lie about it then you will always will have that on your conscience, if you tell the truth, you don't have to remember what you said and how you said it and try to get the story straight with whoever else knows!! good luck.

Answer 11

it is very an consumer-friendly question to ask yet believ me no remember what reaction u have,it something that hurts very undesirable no remember how consumer-friendly u could make it look,it wouldnt permit circulate tear rather off ur coronary heart...I sugest u take ur time to grieve,settle for ur being punished for what u aint responsible of,u have been given to appreciate that's not d end.as quickly as u have self belief in love and powers it posses,then u had to get ur self waiting for a danger...To belv and supply somebody else a danger is a by-product,according to danger he ought to instruct decisive...It jst organic.